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A lesson in Critical Thinking:

Watch out for the Blaming: Watch out for the hate

By Laura Dawn Lewis


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There are a lot of conspiracy theories out there about the control on our media. Substantial evidence exists to support this, yet arguing this point puts each person in the same gutter.  It is not important. Whether the accusations of control and manipulation are true or not is irrelevant.  Populations, industries or countries can only be manipulated if they allow it. You can blame this group or that, but the fact is manipulation occurs because those being manipulated let it.  It happens when people are too frightened, guilty, angry, self-righteous, ignorant or ill-informed to say "No more" or “Wait a minute here!”  

You can lay blame or play ignorant, but is that going to help? Blaming breeds hatred and sets each of us up to be further manipulated and blackmailed emotionally. It labels innocent people in with the few guilty. Hatred is a useless emotion that deflects accountability by transferring it to another and taking on the role of victim.  Do we really want to be seen as a nation of victims? Rather than blame we should each look at our role and change what we have control over.  Whether it is the industry of media, politics or disguised as faith, each human being is born with a brain.  How we choose to use our brains is our decision, not another’s.

Once each person realizes the complete extent he/she is being manipulated, anger presents itself. Rather than let the anger rule emotions and set you up for further emotional blackmail, step back. Hang on to your power by not letting emotions lead reason. We all operate under the idea of self-preservation whether it is a person, country or industry.   Use this common ground to your advantage. As a nation and a people it is our job to stop manipulation once we recognize it by standing together an not allowing the bullying, defamation and ridicule to perpetuate hate and the agendas of others. Consider what is happening from an analytical perspective:

1)      Accountability VS Blaming
 

Blaming another country or people for our misinformation or manipulation makes us the victim.  Victimhood may be public policy or the faith teaching for some societies but it IS NOT an American value nor is it part of the faith values, those of the Gospels, founding this nation.  Playing the victim falls within the seven deadly sins illustrating portions of several, not to mention it creates a society that uses others, self-absorbed and narcisstic.  This is why blaming, playing the victim and remaining in past which cannot be changed serves only to destroy rather than heal. If playing the victim were an American value, we wouldn't have lasted over 200 years. We'd be too busy coming up with ways to make people feel sorry for us and dwelling on past issues rather than making the world a better place.  Nobody likes to spend time with whiners.  Eventually they become disgusting.

There is a difference between holding a country and its people accountable and blaming.  Blaming says we had no part in it and we are helpless to fix the situation; rarely is this ever the case.  It's a cop out.  Holding accountable is justice, based upon facts quantifiable and verifiable without demeaning, threats or characterization.  It says this is my part in this issue and this is what I will do to fix it.  This is your part in this issue and this is what you need to do to fix it.

Blaming doesn't require resolution nor does it lead to diplomacy. Rather it creates resentments and tears nations apart, both that of the blaming nation and the nation being blamed. Justice requires each involved acknowledge their part, reverse any damage and eventually come together. It breeds respect and it builds nations.

Each of us is endowed with free will. Journalists choose to print or broadcast, even when we know the whole story isn’t being told. Readers and viewers choose to believe it. Each American has the responsibility to verify the information he/she is being fed is accurate; otherwise as a nation we become a sea of lemmings.  Lemmings go where lemmings are led and they die doing it. 

2)     Manipulators are using the tools available to promote their interests.

Manipulation has been around since the time of Adam and Eve.  It’s older than prostitution but has many similarities.

Realize this simple truth and there is no room for hatred.  It is just business. Optimizing the tools available, though not ethical is responsible on their part. They are putting their own interests first and accomplishing what they need to accomplish. They are savvy enough to use us. And we're dumb enough to keep protecting them and coming back for more. The irony is it is both with our blessings and our money we are being deceived.  Many of the activities we are engaged in are directly against everything this country stands for as set out in our Constitution, Bill of Rights and the additional Amendments.

The truth is, we let it happen.  We let ourselves be manipulated by not auditing activities and through self-censorship in our own media.

3)      Solution: take the tools away.

Capitalism is the great equalizer. By not questioning and holding our own accountable, it is we who are being irresponsible.  By continuing to purchase the publications and watch the broadcasts, we continue to support the manipulations.  By not protesting those maligned for reporting the truth, we place the interests of others ahead of our own. When we play into the hatred and abandon the principles this country was founded on, we compromise our future. When we continue to assist and give funds and arms to countries knowing their practices are directly against what we stand for and believe, we are equally responsible. The price we pay will be in blood of our children marching off to fight the war of another’s agenda and the loss of our own innocence when the rest of the world forces us to become aware of what we have supported, financed and protected.


Bottom Line:
Blaming others for our lack of accountability and failure to research what we are told is a road to hate.  This road serves no one and punishes many innocent people by lumping them in with the few responsible. Hate has no place in our media and no place in American culture.  This doesn't mean we shouldn't hold persons, countries or companies accountable when they are found to be withholding critical information. It means we don’t let our emotions dictate our reactions.

What isn’t being reported today on the Middle East, most notably in the US press is information that will change American opinion.  If we as a population fall for the propaganda and half-truths and refuse to hold our media, politicians and leaders accountable for misinformation, we endorse it. If we discover we are being manipulated through emotional blackmail and cognitive dissonance and fail to acknowledge and correct it, we play the victim. If we fail to do our part as citizens and verify through research what is presented as fact, come war, genocide or deception, we have only ourselves to blame.

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