Last month we
answered this question in our sexuality area,
addressing the sexual issues and economic realities it
brings up. Andy had the opportunity to review it
immediately recognized a pattern he's seen his practice
several times that turns out to be a much different
situation. Let's review the question again and see
the pattern Andy Picked up on in
Andy's answer!
Dear Andy:
After a year and a half of serious committed dating, he is
still extremely reluctant to initiate sex. He is a willing
partner after he is encouraged. He lies on his back and
actually asks to be caressed and or stroked. Does not
respond to my needs even after I speak kindly and
specifically about them.
Has finally
admitted to having a 'wall' of fear towards me and is not
willing to risk being rejected. We are both in very good
physical condition. I have been very generous towards him
sexually. Many, many
times allowing him his needs to be met, while not having mine
met. After the first 6 months I asked why he exhibited this
behavior towards me. He confessed to it, said he was sorry and
would try to change. After a year and a half, I again asked,
this time it was the catalyst that broke up our relationship.
His parting words to me were "Goodbye -----, I’m sorry, I'm
not the man you want me to be."
TOP Also he is a millionaire. Has never
bought me any jewelry, flowers, will take me camping,
but has never even mentioned a stay at a resort for an
intimate weekend. Forgot my birthday. Stays at my
place most of the time "5 out of 7 days." does not
offer to pay for anything. He will by groceries as
needed. He will buy me things that are from thrift
shops, yard sales or give always from relatives. He is
currently involved in a lawsuit with an insurance
company for a back injury. He spends most of his time
at physical therapy, lawyer’s office or on the couch.
He will help out with chores if asked. I think I have
answered my own question in just expressing the above.
I am in a relationship with a "Prima
Donna User" I would still appreciate a response. Your web
site is an honest and candid source of valuable information.
I am mostly concerned in 'reluctance of sexual initiation’.
I know the many reasons why women do it but what does it
mean when men do this - always?
TOP
Is He For Real?
Female
(47) Oroville, WA
Dating 18 Months
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