Most of us, that is most of us, know that adding alcohol to a date or relationship reduces our ability to discern reality from fiction. That means our guard is dropped and we open ourselves up for a relationship that likely may not meet our criteria when the hangover is over.
Binge drinking is a sure-fire way to forget yourself, good and bad
I'm sure many of the readers can remember a time when they got drunk trying to be cool or get cool. Perhaps it is just a bit of freewheeling nature coming out, or maybe it is peer pressure. One way or the other, you can be sure that the hormones coursing through your brains when it is bathed in alcohol isn't a romance creater. Forget that your judgement is clouded. Maybe you want to forget about your ex. Your spouse who's cheating on you. Your boss, coworkers, bills, idiot boyfriend. The best way to work that off is do some sports with a friend, spend some time taking care of yourself physically of emotionally. Not getting drunk and leaving yourself open to more disappointment. I know I have, but I didn't have a developed enough mind to feel the pain of the consequences of fooling around with multiple girls. Not enough self-control and respect for myself, but I learned as most men do, but it takes some time
Moderate or wine drunks forget too
If you think you have to drink a bottle or too of wine to get comfortable, it would appear that your focus on relaxation is misplaced. Sure, in certain cultures wine is a mainstay at all meals, such as in Italy and Spain. However, they aren't drinking from 10 oz. glasses, just like the serving sizes that we get fooled into thinking are normal. The same can be said for a glass of wine. 4 oz., a small serving of food and little dessert and some great company and conversation. However, the celebrity culture that exists in North America seems to have accepted excessive wine drinking and that does the same thing, without perhaps the getting sick part as binge drinking. The hormones and mind are altered enough to reduce our inhibitions and let in all kinds of headaches that come with not being concerned with consequences.
Alternatively, we may not get more relaxed, we may turn into what is well known as an angry drunk. Our inhibitions may let us speak our minds, call people out for confidential things or worse, spill all kinds of secrets that we may have been told as a friend and you'll see how quickly that can kill a relationship. Indeed, the fluctuating emotions are certain to cause an issue with romance, since there is very little composure at the pace of alcoholic consumption even at the moderate level.