The days get shorter. The breezes cooler. As the leaves change and fall off of the trees, we start wearing thicker sweaters and changing our outdoor activities, perhaps spending more time indoors, by a fire, or tending to our piles of leaves outside. I know I sound like an old-time television commercial, but in a sense, the mood of the fall season changes from the frenetic outside personality, to one that is more calm, methodical and less prone to taking chances, but far more mysterious and substantial.
Each season has it's own mood that relates to specific people
Indeed, each season has a mood. Summer is a boom time for lovers, with new relationships forming, over the top flirting and the heart-break of late summer goodbyes. Winter is filled with nuzzling by a fire-place or under piles of blankets with the outdoors only for the heartiest of us to explore. We are hibernating along with out feelings that don't quite come into play while the snow is falling or the water is freezing. Springtime brings the flowers into bloom as well as our feelings that might have been under wraps while shivering down the street or while we're sequestered in our homes.
Not unlike the animal kingdom in general, we humans also feel the change of seasons. There are certainly those that prefer one season from the next, with the vast majority focused on making the most out of the summer months, yet each season has it's own way of connecting people to one another. So what makes the fall a season for lovers?
The obvious answer would be the vibrant colors of fall foliage that fully half of our country doesn't have the chance to enjoy. The scenery is something that should be shared with your partner, just as those lucky folks who live by the water get to share that scenery and the sound of lapping waves against the shore. The rustle of the leaves and sound of the cool Canadian breezes can be complemented with you sharing your knowledge about why leaves turn colors, what happens to all of those trillions of leaves over time and any other bits of fall information that will fill the heart and mind of your partner. Remember, intelligence is very sexy and that is a good thing when holding each other close as you explore the outside, walking down well worn paths and taking in the crisp fresh air.
Exclusive activities for the fall can be very romantic
Fall is not quite as solitary as winter, which makes it a great time to share special moments, such as hay-rides, apple picking, haunted houses, fall harvest foods and their scents, raking and jumping in the leaves (fun as a child or as an adult), bon-fires and other exclusively fall related memories that you can build. The fact that there is still a warm afternoon, doesn't prevent you from walking hand in hand through a corn-maze and holding each-other tightly, without the bulk of winter clothes. These activities and circumstances make for an ideal time to explore the one you are interested in while having to use a little imagination because there are just a few more pieces of clothing on than when it is 100 degrees outside.
While a recent research report concluded that people tend to be more productive in higher temperatures than when it is 68 degrees or lower, the cooling of the brain, as it were, is in fact more ideal than if it is 77 degrees when your mind is at it's peak performance. Shared heat and a slower demeanor provides for less chance of mix-up, harried faux-pas and a self assuredness that often leads to break-ups just before the full summer months, which has also been born out in research. So while the extremes of both high and low temperatures are not going to be romantic for our minds or our bodies (ignore the sweat glistening off of a boy toy or teenie bikini clad babe during the summer months. Those are most likely airbrushed promotional photos), fall tends to be "just right" when it comes to temperature and temperament.
A change of scenery is good for your relationship
Although the rain may set-in during October and November and the shorter days may make us feel a little more gloomy, having a sweetheart there for us to console or share the longer evenings with can in fact instill a sense of trust, warmth and commitment, just in time for hold-up in our house time during the winter months. The hugging and carrying, jumping and kicking of leaves, will also get our nurturing hormone going and that is a per-requisite for more serious canoodling.
That change in scenery is also important for your senses that will also be reawakened. As with any sounds, smells, tastes or feelings that are new and unique, fall will bring that to us and force us to change our approach even subliminally. These micro-changes can influence our own relationships, forcing us to think slightly differently, to do things with renewed attention and vigor as well as operating under the same set of rules, sentiment and commitment. Therein lies the secret sauce to the fall. The changes are significant enough to make us stand up and pay attention not only to the leaves changing colors, but to our wife, husband, boyfriend, girlfriend or partners new clothes, attitude, interest in different things, makeup, hair or whatever else we may change for this season. Even a discreet change can make for renewed interest in that someone in our lives, so use the autumn as a tool for positive change. There are so many ways to enjoy the fall with your special someone and all you have to do is let nature do the work for you!