Thinking about a head massage? Stop thinking and get one!
For those of us who are having trouble with intimacy, one way to get right back into the swing of things is to consider how important and impactful our feet, hands and scalp can be. I don't mean using them, I mean having them pampered by our partner.
I often talk about making an effort, even a small one when supporting your relationship in order to sustain and improve our intimacy. Sometimes, however, we need a brief reminder of how easy it can be. This time, it was a long overdue haircut.
That's right, sometimes I get carried away and forget about the simplest grooming issues. Despite the protests of my wife and children, I sometimes let my locks grow and get unruly. Apart from conservative business meetings, I've found that I'm not in need of the coiffed look, but I admit, this time, my mushroom head was winning. I had an opportunity to book a quick appointment at a local salon that has a certain electricity to it. The staff is hip and energetic and I had been there before. It is the preferred by my family of six women (girls and wife) and it reminded me of the importance of reconnecting with yourself and your special someone.
My stylist brought me back from the edge of stress
That was made abundantly clear when my stylist, Jayme at Knotz Salon, went about her cut and washed the snippings from my hair. I was treated to a slow head massage that immediately reminded me of how often I would give my lady the very same treatment to her absolute pleasure. It also reminded me how we quickly ignore the extremities when discussing intimacy. Most everybody mistakes intimacy with making love almost exclusively, when it is and should be a whole lot more.
I was also reminded of how much my wife enjoyed foot massages. Having owned and operated spas and med-spas, I saw first-hand the devastation that our poor feet take by simply looking at my then clients very tender tootsies. Bunions, warts, misshapen toes, spurs, you name it, I saw it and the pain experienced by the clients as our technicians worked away on their damaged feet. When offered, out of the blue, this simple massage is a great relationship booster and it doesn't take as much time or effort as a full body massage or even a romantic night our for dinner. The cost is minimal and if you ad a candle, you are sure to be rewarded with some personal touching just for you. That's a great dividend!
Don't forget about the delicate hands either. This is another area on the body that is almost completely ignored on a day to day basis. We use them for driving, holding things, typing, you name it. Do they see any tenderness and care beyond the occasional hand cream? Rarely. So start on these parts too and you'll see plenty of benefits as well.
You're not doing this in a mercenary manner however. This is strictly something that you want to do to take the stress and hurt out of your partner's day and beyond. Whether they return the favor is up to you and if you ask, that is perfectly fine. The down-time and intimacy shared taking care of these erogenous areas, (yup, they are) will set your relationship on the right track if it has been ignored or forgotten about. If you are close to your wife, husband, boyfriend or girlfriend, then this will simply be a confirmation of the bond you have with your partner and more. A little cream should add to the benefits and you should start tonight. Why wait?