Alternatively, when the relationship isn’t going so well, these same things set us off very easily, so when they are taken care of, it may feel like all things are aligning. So what are these odd things that become sexy when we feel like our partner is our soul mate and we seem to be able to read each others mind?
1) I must admit, I have a kitchen cleanliness issue and my wife and kids are all completely spastic. So when I notice that the bowls are stacked properly in the dishwasher and all the flatware is also neatly tucked in the drawers, I am thrilled and falling in love again!
2) My wife hates my paper and she is always steaming at it's height in my night-table and at the end of the dining room table. I don't need to hear her, I can feel her entering my mind, so when I just clean it up, no matter which drawer it is crammed in, I know I'll get lucky that night!
3) My wife often says to me that I am a vessel of inane information. I must admit, she considers herself a "brain ho" and loves the intellect, but for some reason when she asks me about one of the Greek Gods and I answer her with a depth of knowledge that most College professors can't match, she get's all tingly inside.
3) Sometimes when I see and hear how she interacts with the children, I get all warm and fuzzy inside. She is a great mother and while I don't agree with how permissive and patient she is sometimes, it's nice to see.
4) Confidence is the thing and when my wife comes home and tells me that some hot shot offered to take her number at work, I don't get jealous, I just sit back and say, yeah... that's my lady.
5) I can take an hour in the shower. No kidding. I clean every nook and cranny and for most people it would be enough to kick me out. Sure, my wife often gets irritated if we have somewhere to go, but she loves the way I groom myself and I see how her eyes light up when I'm fresh out of the shower, smelling clean and looking neat.
6) Bodily functions can be embarrassing and even off-putting, but when I hear a little "toot" or some other oops, it's pretty cute and makes me feel closer to my lovely woman, just for being human.
7) I love to cook. Whether for the girls or my wife, I can whip-up a gourmet Indian meal, or just a great plate of steamed and seasoned broccoli. I don't even have to be barefoot and naked for my wife to come up behind me with a big hug, demanding that I show her some affection immediately.
8) While we all have some level of computer skills (my 10 year old is above us all), my wife has an uncanny ability to solve some issues that I can't wrap my head around. So when I'm in a bind, I turn to her and watch her perform her magic. Very sexy indeed!
9) It doesn't matter what it is or where it is in the house. If I'm fixing it and I'm on a step-stool or ladder, I get a smile and a wink and something else if I'm up to it later in the day. Who said house work is a chore. The more difficult the maneuver, the more difficult the maneuver... (ellipses is there for a reason) You might even consider doing a little bed making and your wife will raise an eyebrow and be ready to give some hugs. You may not be able to do hospital corners, but it won't matter. Making the effort is most of the effort.
10) When I take the initiative to plan a dinner party or get together, even if we've been talking about it, that blows the doors off the thoughtfulness and credit meter. So whether you were thinking about celebrating a milestone, or just the end of the week, call your lady up and say; "Hey, I was thinking about getting together with ..." and you'll reap the rewards.
No doubt that there are hundreds of other ideas like scooping the poop, one I couldn't not mention. Yup, the kids got your wife or you to get a dog a cat or some other type of high maintenance pet, like a pig. Most of the kids will ignore the scoping, but if you do it when it isn't your job, the thank you's and benefits will accrue in volumes since nobody likes to clean out a cage, change hamster bedding or clean the fish tank.
There are many more things beyond the traditional appearance issues that make it into the sexy books between partners and I'll be adding more as they occur, but if you'll take advantage of some of the things I've outlined above, you'll notice a marked improvement in your relationship in a variety of ways. So don't get irritated, get appreciated!
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