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Optimizing fertility Neutral DC Part II of OPT. FERT. was to be posted on Sept.I
Still waiting............
Part I was very interesting!		 Murfreesboro TN USA Female 38.00 9/22/2002 2:03:36
Laid off now what LB Great article from Lynda Johnson. Very insightful and excellent advice. Thanks Montreal Quebec Canada Male 39.00 10/9/2002 15:23:13
to you know what Salvia is? Against I V Dear Couples Company;

I thought I'd warn you that your article is being passed around e-mail lists frequented by Salvia divinorum users. The article is so chock full of distortions, so unusually rife with misinformation that it has a certain comedic attraction. Really, you should try to get your facts straight before you offer your opinions to the world. When you don't the consequences are more than simply looking foolish (though that is certainly the case); instead the article advertises its author as being either grossly misinformed or else as being a particularly shameless liar. When young people read such an article they cannot help but form the opinion that adults are extremely unreliable sources of information pertaining to psychoactive chemicals, and they therefore conclude (perhaps correctly) that they are more likely to get useful information from their peers than they are from persons like yourself.

Please, try a little harder next time.		 Cambridge Massachusetts USA Male 39.00 10/29/2002 19:17:54
Salvia Divinorum Against JW This story is biased and ill-informed. Salvia is nothing like LSD. You state things like, it could cause a user to fall asleep while driving. What idiot would use this while trying to drive a car. You also say that there were some incidents which brought the plant to the attention of the people in Australia who banned it. What incidents? They banned it out of fear and misinformation. Which your article helps to spread. Pittsburgh PA USA Male 23.00 10/30/2002 11:38:41
Do You Know What Salvia is ? Against SO Dear Couples Company.

Thank you for bringing this subject to the parents attention. I wonder, why would the parents be the last to know about this plant ? In answer to my own question, I say the parents are too comfortable in their lives and they don't want to know. Answering your question - I do know what salvia is. My first experience took place last December. Even though I had been reading what other people posted about their encounters with salvia for a few months before I got enough courage to try it myself (unfortunately, I am not a teenager any more). It was so unexpected, so moving, so out-of-this-world that you wouldn't beleive. That experience that lasted no more than 5 minutes of Earth time changed my outlook on life in general and my life in particular. I set up a site to collect any salvia related posts that were ever published online - SalviaDivinorumCorps.org, started a discussion group "SalviaD Alliance" on Yahoo and recently formed "Salvia Buyers Club" to provide good quality salvia at wholesale prices to salvia community. My advice to the parents - take it into your hands, "say once to salvia" and be the judges what is good for you children.

Sincerely,
Slava 		Potomac Falls VA USA Male 37.00 10/30/2002 19:10:06
Sleeping Styles Against DM My wife and I are in a life long love affair. We sleep in all the mentioned positions at one time or another. Including the cliff hanger. Never the dog though. If just depends what mood or how tired we may be. But one things is for sure, our relationship is not in any trouble. OOOO lala... Westlake California US Male 47.00 11/15/2002 21:03:48
10 reasons not to cheat with a married man Against DN Dr. Mark, how about ten reasons not to cheat. PERIOD! Your article gives the impression that the only thing required to do is choose a better set of circumstances for your adultery. Cheating of any kind is a huge defense mechanism as it is for large problems. You are a Doctor. You know that! The tone of the article was piss poor and unprofessional. Maybe if people stopped coddling cheaters and helped them face the problems (in advance ) leading the the life-changing mistake they are about to make, a real return to self respect can be achieved. Face it Doc, you have become an enabler. Hinton VA USA Male 37.00 11/16/2002 13:07:23
Stage 8: Unconditional Love Against RM I enjoyed reading all of your stages of intimacy until I reached stage 8. As a graduate of Social Welfare at Berkeley and a MFT candidate in graduate school, I disagree with some of your statements.

A. Social workers dread this mistake made by so many parents who are suppose to protect their children. Many women or men stand by their partners who have physically & mentally abused, burned,or tormented their children. A lot of abuse goes unreported because ignorant people want to stand by their loved one. When abuse is reported where social workers step in, it is sometimes too late. You have to understand that these kids grow up never forgetting or trusting people. It is all right to forgive someone who has hurt your children, but you have to move on. It is important to keep in mind, children depend on a parent or guardian to protect them at all costs and sacrifices. If that sacrifice happens to be being without a partner until you find a lucrative, safe, and healthy intimate relationship, then sacrific!

B. If you stand by someone who has killed your loved one but has never suffered from schizophrenia, bi-polar disease or any other mental illness where they thought your loved one was the boogie-man, then YOU need to admit yourself to a mental institution.

C. Whether a stranger or a loved one robs you and destroys everthing you have, it IS a crime, and one must pay for their actions. Material items can be replaced, but having fear and mistrust takes time. It is an invasion of privacy. People save up for their children's future college expenses, home repairs, etc. A loved one is suppose to support your dreams, not try to destroy them.

G. You probably could stand by your loved one if they became a terrorist or spy against your country, but the CIA would probably question you why. I hope you have a good answer for them. If you do not like the country that you live in or the political system they support, then it is better to leave, than to put loved ones around you at risk. IF the government thinks you are involved, it does not matter if you were not involved.

You probably just threw some ideas out there, but most people do not question what is in print. Fortunately, we give thanks to God, Jesus, Muhammed, Buddha, and whomever teaches us that you have to question what is wrong, right, smart, safe and condusive for all mankind.
Pinole California USA Female 34.00 11/16/2002 17:06:22
10 things to know before dating a married man Against AT I read your response to that marriage affair well my e on it is that 57%of married people are unhappy. I have a totally open relationship with my spouse we are like roomates, no sex for six years. However he totally refuse to get a divorce,
I find this to be emotionally immature. So I have just gone on.I have dinner with a married man once a week and we are happy doing that since are he has a marriage that he hasn't had sex for four years. I have one other guy that I have been dating for three years we have a super great
relationship. He would like to go to the next level . I actually am not interested in marriage. I have a great profession and I travel
too. I finally gave up on begging for a divorce
and told him I will be seeing other men.I
decided to just go ahead and do the things that make me happy. The married man I have dinner with will never leave wife number three they have millions of dollars wrapped up in assets and
he does not want to start over and I do not want him too. I enjoy having dinner with him and we have a deep relationship. I'm happy with this whole scene 		LOS ANGELES CA USA Female 30.00 11/16/2002 18:37:51
10 things to know before dating a married man KC I thought this was a very good article. Unfortunately, I have already gotten myself into a situation with a married man. I would say tempation got the best of me. I knew he would not leave his wife. I just wanted to be imtimate with him for one time. It happend last night.

Now I wondering will I have self-control to not do anything with him again. I wanted to know if I can get some advice on staying away from him and just saying no. I do not want to be a home rector. Unfortunately, I have met his wife and kids. His wife was very nice. I feel really bad about what has happen. 		Washington District Columbia United States Female 29.00 11/17/2002 1:04:27
Attract Love By Leaving Supervisor Self Against JC Puke.


Surrender to an editor next time.		 Hartford CT USA Female 37.00 12/4/2002 17:13:32
Mrs Midlife's questions ls After 25 yrs, 6 kids grown, he went into major mlc and suffered physical syymptoms of depression, anxiety and panic. Withdrew from me and kids, isolated himself from all and sked for divorce? I was in shock, but knew he was out of control and wasn't doing it TO me or on purpose. I told him to go do his midlife thing, or be with ow if he wanted, because I didn't want someone who didn't want me. But he had no energy and never left except to sleep in other bdroom. I truly FELT empathy and as I showed this, he began to open up to me a little and I began to really listen and try to understand what he was going through. I had no answers. I just loved this man and decided to give him breathing room with dignity. It worked. In spite of the brief affair, the only issue that stays raw, and for which we are still in healing stages, we are becoming closer and happier than ever. I think mlc is very real. He can't explain what's happening and I needed to understand, validate him, love him and then detach and work on becoming less needy and more comfortable with myself through it. It takes real commitment and other-centeredness. It has now brought us closer together than ever and if it weren't for the affair, I'd say the wake up call was a good thing for us. Moorhead MN USA Male 54.00 12/7/2002 5:00:33
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poor customer service Against ML Are you serious? Any self respecting CSR would challenge this customer up front! I really hope no one does this, the customer will get treated with anger. The customer is not the customer service rep's boss and never has any real impact on a raises or termination. I am not supporting bad customer service, but making the CSR at ease will simply hurt the customer. Tempe AZ US Male 23.00 1/8/2003 20:12:11
10 reasons not to date a married man RO I've read the article, as well as the comments following it. I believe the reasons mentioned through it were very convincing. I think the fact that God wasn't one of the 10 mentioned reasons is not as important as some comments might think, because those who enter such a relationship KNOW this fact in advance. But yet, they get carried away through this affair. This fact does not mean neither that both parts don't believe in god, nor that they don't respect him. It's just that this belief is not preventing the affair in advance ,thus, it will not cause it to end. Following this fact, I think a human being needs in such circumstances some practical and rational reasons that would streighten him, and help him find the power to quit. He needs reasons that would adress to his mind, and would bring back the logical thinking he used to have before entering it...
Believing ig God comes within one's heart, and that is where the LOVER is located. And we all know that the heart has no logics, otherwise people would't be in such a relationship, right?		 Tel Aviv Israel Israel Female 30.00 1/27/2003 7:02:22
Preparing For the Possibility of Divorce Neutral ADB When I try to use the link to get to Preparing For the Possibility of Divorce it takes me to Present Father vs Paternal Father.

I would really like to read Preparing For the Possibility.

Thank you.		 Woodbridge Virginia USA Female 44.00 1/28/2003 5:58:58
        uae dubai uae Male 17.00 2/16/2003 0:24:44
VIRGINITY Neutral AYO
PLEASE, I'D LIKE YOU TO SPEAK ON VIRGINITY AMONG TEENAGERS. A LOT OF GIRLS IN AFRICA DON'T GIVE REGARD TO THIS AGAIN		 ISOLO LAGOS NIGERIA Female 20.00 2/16/2003 15:12:23
All of Hackworths books BR Just want to say why isn't Washington waking up to the fact that throwing money at the problem is just making it worse? Our country is going down the drain like a jet and no one seems to care. Millions of loyal Americans want to know why our borders are not sealed, why are not these ileagals thrown out and where are the people in Congress and the Senate who are supposed to be standing up for the American citizen? Greed and politics will be our countries downfall. The country is being led by idiots. Wheatfield Indiana U.S.A Female 62.00 2/18/2003 14:43:29
I have read many in the last hour LB hi,
Your web site is great. I love it, read about it in Wall street journal. You guys are right on !!!!
God bless this web site.

take care, leslee		 TAMPA FL usa Female 28.00 2/26/2003 0:11:20
Why women fake orgasms CM When I think about how many times I have left a man because he hasn't safistied me...it is atrocious. I used to think men just didn't care. What is so hard in understanding how important the clitoris is!!! Los Angeles CA USA Female 39.00 3/1/2003 19:21:01
Older women/younger men CM I can't believe Andy's opinion!!! Women age FASTER than men! that is a LIE and it is completely bias. I don't know where you get your info., but let me tell you something it is WRONG!!! Are you a woman hater? Los Angeles CA USA Female 39.00 3/1/2003 19:37:16
Older Woman, Younger Man (Andy Whaling Q&A) JK One issue I'd like to point out: I am not much of a math major -- but if he is 33 and she is 49, in 15 years, he will be 48 and she will be 64, not 74, as indicated in Andy's response. (Is he saying she LOOKS 74??) Just a thought. Otherwise, insightful response. Los Angeles CA USA Female 42.00 3/3/2003 0:24:28
Praise your children well Neutral LV Dr. Major's suggested phrases are excellent, but I think she forgot one of the simplest and most important--"Thank you!" Thank you for shovelling that snow. Thank you for cleaning up your mess when I asked. Thank you for taking that phone message. Thank you for passing the salt. Whatever. It's about more than praise, which is important but can sometimes feel like overkill. It's about remembering what too many people forget--that their children, like everybody else, deserve respect and common courtesy! Winnipeg MB Canada Female 38.00 3/6/2003 0:03:48
Dating a Married Woman or Man WR The article is excellent and powerful and true
in all its remarks on the hazards of dating a married person of either sex. I conducted an affair with a married woman who claimed to adore me. I believe her adoration was true, but therein lies the rub. She promised she would make progress in leaving her husband over and over again. She also said she loved her husband too but could not decide. I believe this is what keeps the fringe outsider in the game, though I never saw it as a game. I was truly in love with this inaccessible woman after two years. When I could stand the stress no longer off being in the balance I had to move far far away as she, though married, pursued me and would not let go. It took 5 years to fully recover from these two years! It was indeed a waste of time but most importantly of emotional energy, of my own self. My own self-esteem plumeted. To anyone who chooses to date a married person, I would say it is neither right nor wrong. It is, however, pursuing pain of a brand that no human being can withstand. The odds are way against that person leaving her husband or his wife, as the case may be. Thank you for having this article up on your site. I think you saved me from doing it again, which is also a hazard, I think. We do not necessarily learn from our mistakes. In fact, we might head down the same path believing, This time will be different...in a way to make up for a past pain. “This time,” will NEVER be different. Your article reminded me of this. A million thanks!		 Portland ME USA Male 41.00 3/11/2003 14:12:43
4 Stages of Grief SJ Wow! This is truly great information. I always heard about the 4 stages of grief, but never really read them. I needed to understand what I am going through right now and what I can expect next and this article truly helped.

Thanks. 		Ft. Lauderdale Florida USA Female 40.00 3/28/2003 12:18:24
Regarding the 1000 questions FT Good afternoon!!
I am really interested to get the book 1000 questions for couples, but the thing is that I dont have a credit card. I could only pay by cheques. Is there any other way for me to get it. Because I would really apreciate it. You can email me back. Thank You very much.		 Toronto Ontario Canada Female 21.00 3/31/2003 22:43:25
When the One You Want Doesn't Want You Back Against SM The advice Tom is suggesting here implies playing the "cat and mouse" game. I would "advise" Tom to revise his advice and tell people to take responsibility for their behavior by being honest and communicating how they feel instead of forcing the other person to "control" their behavior because of the other's potential misconceptions, insecurities, and projections of past experiences onto this one in thinking that if someone shows them that they want them, then it suddenly means they "need" them.

I so tire of these PhD people and/or men offering up this type of advice that perpetuates the disarray that relationships are in today. The type of advice Tom is offering just condones and perpetuates the irresponsible behavior pattern - however "human" and "psychological" it may be!!!

Let's take Tom's advice a bit further. Let's say his advice works, you get the one you want by following Tom's advice. What makes you think that this little "backing-off game" won't constantly repeat itself throughout the relationship and/or marriage... I mean, you've already proven that it's "effective"!!! You then wind up with a lifetime of "cat and mouse". And you know what they say... when the cat's away, the mice will play!!!... and presto... we've just upped the divorce statistics and added another couple hundred thousand into Dr. Laura's, Dr. Phil's and therapists pocketbooks.

I would "advise" that if the person backing away because they suddenly think the other "needs" them is that "ego-oriented" then the other person should just say "you're the weakest link... goodbye." If that happens to someone enough times, maybe they'll learn a new behavior pattern... like "communicating", being accountable and taking responsibility for their actions. Ya think?!??!?!		 Atlanta GA USA Female 44.00 4/2/2003 10:44:26
Who Cares Against RD Hackworth is wrong. Chemical equipment issued to the US Military is the best in the world. I personally have trained and tested this equipment in "live" chemical enviroments. As any piece of equipment it is only as good as the person operating it. Preventive maintenance checks and services must be performed by the individual soldier and supervised by leaders. Training must be conducted and supervised.

The Army I left after 1992 (20 years) was the best in the history of the world. Today's Army is much better, Individuals, Training and equipment. I remain a consultant, advisor and father of a 28 year old NCO and feel certain this Army can handle any task, any time, any where.

The Department of Defense will develop a lighter more efficient Army and old timers will whine and moan about the changes (less armor and artillery).

Hack, hang it up Pal, the new Army is way ahead of us.

SFC Rock-EOD Retired		 Huntsville Alabama USA Male 50.00 4/2/2003 11:27:54
The Loneliness is the Hardest CD I loved the article. I just happened on your site and believe it offers a lot. My wife and I have a Foundation for Kids, Kids Success. Since the recent Operation Iraqi Freedom campaign we began our campaign too. Offering support to the Kids of our deployed active military. We are offering Summer Camp Scholarships to those Kids. We feel greatly for the Kids who's family is in the active military. We want to do our part and support and not forget about the Kids, for they too are taking part in the fight for freedom within our country.
Visit us at KidsSuccess.org for more information.

Look forward to hearing from you.

Sincerely,

Craig & Maria Dahl
Proud Americans
Founders of Kids Success Foundation		 Federal Way Washington USA Male 49.00 4/4/2003 14:10:40
May December Relationships Neutral B B I have given this situation a lot of thought since I have been and still am in (sort of) a May/December relationship.
First I'd like to say that I don't believe women age faster than men,in fact I perceive quiet the opposite, although society may consider older men to be more attractive than older women. It has been my observation that men age in spirit and lose their sense of adventure and fun much more quickly than women.I can only speak for myself, of course, but the reason I enjoy younger men (and women) is that I feel much more in tune with their thinking. They're not as apt to have become closed minded and stuck in the past nor as cynical and jaded as so many people seem to get as they age. Men, especially seem to get grouchy, judgemental and less forgiving as they get older.
Let's face it, most of us consider youth more attractive than age if we are judging only the physical appearance. But there is so much more to humans than that. It is the spirit that can maintain a lasting attraction. Years lived doesn't necessarily determine the spiritual age of a person. Someone once asked, "How old would you be if you didn't know how old you are?" That's a very profound question and the one that can determine how appropriate two people are for each other.
Also, I'd like to say that the stage of life the two people are in and their goals for the future make a big difference. If the man is very young and wants children then obviously he wouldn't want to choose an older woman. But if this is not an issue and the goal is to simply enjoy life together with someone who makes you happy, then age difference shouldn't stand in the way.
Lafayette Louisiana U.S.A. Female 63.00 4/15/2003 10:04:53
How to Get Him to the Altar (without having sex first) Neutral LM I am a 30 year old female virgin, and am not ashamed of it. However, I smile at the extreme naivete of Tom McKnight in this article when he comments on a man's need for sex and a woman's need for love and commitment. Has he no idea that women have deep seated sexual impulses also?

I have not slept with a man because I never met anyone I found attractive enough or bonded to enough to want to be intimate with. However, six months ago I met such a man. I started to feel desires and impulses that I never knew existed within me. I desperately wanted to share physical love with him. However, HE was the one who didn't want sex before marriage, being a committed Catholic. I can tell you, the pain of not being able to express my love to him in this way was too much to bear, both physically and emotionally. Last month, I left him for this reason, and I have been crying ever since. Tom might say I should marry him first. But sex surely is a deepening of communication, and for me at least, if I felt strongly enough for someone, this barrier would have to be torn down before the ultimate act of spiritual union - marriage - could take place. Tom - women feel the need for sex too!!!		 Dublin Dublin Ireland Female 30.00 4/24/2003 9:18:57
Victory doesn't mean the plan succeeded Against LK Does being a vet from a war that wasn't won, (Korea)and a war we lost, Vietnam make you an expert on logistics? Quote our soldiers accurately
Keep your liberal opinions to an audience of "Dixie Chicks"		 Pompano Beach FL us Male 61.00 4/24/2003 10:05:57
A Female Friendly Home Neutral bl Tip: If she's a devote Mormon, she doesn't drink coffee, caffeinated tea, alcohol or caffeinated soda so keep hot choclate on hand...

1)Why, so she can get off on the caffeine in the chocolate?

2) What is a "devote" Mormon? Might that be "devout"?		 Harrisburg PA USA Male 15.00 5/2/2003 15:11:32
PAS CV I read Dr. Major's article on PAS and would like to e-mail her regarding a true, real-life court case, "my case", which happened in Sumter, South Carolina in 1996. The mother, my ex-wife, was recently killed last month in an auto accident. I approached the same Court for custody of our sixteen year old son who is living with his step-father and was denied custody. The step-father/grandmother now have custody. The child custody case in 1996 lasted 1 1/2 years and PAS was recognized by the Dr. appointed by the Court. She said it was one of the worse cases of PAS she had ever encountered, but yet, the court looked the other way. I have contacted Montel Williams regarding my story. The Family Court system in South Carolina should be overhauled to say the least. I would like to contact Dr. Major and tell her about my case. I truely believe, as other Mental Health Professionals have told me, that my case must be opened to the public for others to see the Worse Case Scenario in PAS.
Thank you.
Sincerely,
Cecil K. Vandegrift
31310 Nocks Landing Road
Atlantic, Virginia 23303 		Atlantic Virginia USA Male 52.00 5/14/2003 8:57:00
10 Reasons Not To Committ Adultery Against MS I was reading your little site on reasons not to commint adultery, but it kind of pissed me off it was like women don't commit adultery because it was only putting down men, but it happens both ways like it did to me, So i think you need to re-evaluate the page because the sex of the two dont matter not all Men are like that some women are so tell it about them Fort Campbell KY US Male 20.00 5/21/2003 20:23:10
USS LIBERTY JG I would very much like to thank you for the excellent coverage of the Liberty story on your tasteful web site. I was once assigned duty aboard the Liberty... when I was transferred, I was relieved by Jim Ennes. I know the story about the Liberty and feel it is a shame that congress won't investigate and determine the truth of the attack. Much testimony is available now... most importantly, that testimony of Capt. Ward Boston, who was a major figure in the Naval Court of Inquiry and who now says the Court was a sham and a fraud and the outcome was directed by above. The survivors have taken a beating by their own country -- web sites like yours help to get the story out. Many thanks!
John Gidusko, LT USN (Ret)
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Popular Weight Loss Diets-Long Term health or dangerous quic kh What a great article! It is not only informative but encouraging for those of us searching the internet for the "miracle diet". Common sense approach-after I read it I really wanted to make a change in my lifestyle. I printed it out to re-read it when I feel discouraged. Thanks. Wilmington NC USA Female 52.00 5/26/2003 9:57:15
The USS Liberty SR I will keep it simple. I monitored the Isreali air-to-air and air-to-ground communications in this incident and the fact is, and our still classified records will show, that the Israelis knew exactly who they were attacking and the order was no survivors. The communications showed that they were very upset over their inability to accomplish that mission! Chicago IL USA Male 59.00 5/26/2003 14:15:11
Type Title Here -Remembering our Fallen Heroes, USS Liberty PM Yes, indeed, I firmly believe that the assault on the USS Liberty was deliberate because I have met one of the survivors, when we traveled with a tour group in MX in 1991. He told me about that attack and that he as well as all other survivors were told that if they spoke about it being a deliberate attack, they would be put in jail....or worse...
Last year, I met with Sen. Arlan Spector of PA, where I live, at a town meeting and questioned him in that public forum about the attack and asked him to help reopen this investigation. I felt he would be receptive because he had been Chairman of the Armed Services Committe for 6 years of the time he has been in the US Senate...He acted like he never heard of the Liberty. I knew then that he was part of the cover-up in this Congress because he has Israeli connections and a great deal of money is contributed to his election campaigns by the Isreali Lobby..Very, very sad to know that our treasured servicemen have been so poorly treated just to protect the reputation of Israel. I can imagine that our Israeli allies do not want all of our financial support to be cut off...I see by current news that they are treating the Palestinians in a similar manne as the survivors of the Liberty.....giving them no voice in the media and silencing those in public office to give equal notice of the murder of Palestinians. I am vefy am saddened that our country can be so easily swayed by the most powerful Lobby in Washington, to disavow facts. 		DuBois PA USA Female 77.00 5/26/2003 23:22:23
Older Woman, Younger Man Neutral ND I believe that the woman will never be able to "get over" the age difference later, as she is so consumed with it now. When Mr. Right" hits his mid-life crisis at 45-50, wants a hot babe and red sports car, he will be driven away by her insecurity and she will be crying in her Ensure. Mountain View CA USA Female 48.00 5/28/2003 19:11:00
No story, a question: BE Please e-mail me where in your site, or another site, where I can see and read the truth as to sleeping positions in genral of someone sleeping single, alone. What some of those positions are saying and what some of them may mean in different people, and Thanks!, Brad. Manila Metro Philippines Male 37.00 5/30/2003 8:50:07
May-December Romance Neutral SH Well, I think we all agree that Andy is not a math genuius. And as for men getting better looking as they get older...what a fallacy! I am a trim, attractive 44 year old female who consistently gets asked out by men in their thirties because I am told I looked their age. age. The majority of the men my age are starting to go bald and have pot bellies...it is refreshing when I can find someone my age or older who takes care of himself! Arlington Heights IL Cook Female 44.00 6/1/2003 19:55:19
Move Me - How The West Was Won - Led Zepplin Neutral BC Of course Puff Daddy can’t overcome a Robert Plant guitar solo! Robert Plant is the vocalist, Jimmy Page is the guitarist. Victoria BC Canada Male 53.00 6/8/2003 19:26:24
Peter Pan Syndrome Against KM Let me start by saying that I think the content on your website is the best for good relationship advise. In the Peter pan article you state that women age faster than men. I disagree with that strongly. It's stated "Matter-of-factly", and its just your opinion. I think women are valued less as they age, and become less desirable for men, because society doesn't heap the same crap in that area on them. In Reality I think its all case by case.
Have you ever seen a man that has worked in the sun all of his life? What about smokers and the tiny long wrinkles that causes. Or drinkers?
All women that have children do lose their flat stomach because the horizontal muscle fibers literally tear, but men get that flat butt syndrome, and about half the time a nice big belly too. (See, I'm guilty too...I mean a disgusting belly). Anyway, Most of the time I date men that are a few years younger than I am because the men that are my age look older.
I also look younger than my age.
Sometimes when I do a search on a singles site for men in the age range 37-42 the diffences are astounding - some look like grandpa and some look pretty good.
Kristie Mansfield.		 Richardson TX USA Female 39.00 6/19/2003 0:15:14
Bye bye Herpes AH Where is this company? Why isn't it advertized anywhere? Where are they located? If the product is so good why aren't doctors prescribing it or referring their patients to at least trying it? Why is this such a big secret? Moorpark California USA Female 55.00 7/18/2003 11:15:12
The males addiction to sex KlK You tell it like it is...u are so smart...
men a really like that...wow
Respect friendship and i forget the third one...
i forget...
well...thankx for the advice....		 Bethel Ct Usa Female 16.00 7/22/2003 19:44:26
Is He For Real KM Thankyou for your reponse in regard to "Is He For
Real"; I found it both interesting and quite
familiar to the relationship/friendship I just
kicked to the curb four days ago. Now, I'm REALLY
glad I did. I was doing this date-like/friendship
for a year! Thankyou for "Turning the light on".		 Santa Clarita California USA Female 33.00 7/23/2003 22:40:17
                   
10 Reasons Not to Date a Married Man Against KW Here's what I've found:

1. People involved with married people don't expect a name change. The limitations and adjustments are made. Expectation of marriage isn't an issue. Options are still open by dating others.

2. Married people do the chasing.

3. Intimacy doesn't denote love. If you feel it, married or not doesn't matter. You can run but you can't hide. Falling in love is natural and can't always be controlled.

4. Economics, convenience, habit and comfort make people stay in marriages, not love. Married people stay because they feel they HAVE to. They are with the other person because they WANT to. The "other" person isn't as second string as many may think.

5. Most people marry the wrong people. Lack of spiritual connection can't be fixed with a wedding. Most people don't LOOK to date someone married, they date someone who HAPPENS to be married - and they are the best of friends! It can't be helped if you connect with someone who isn't your spouse.

6. Most married people's egos are hurt when they admit they can't hold on to their man/woman. It's no one else's responsibility to help a person keep their spouse.

7. Marriage vows aren't in the Bible. They alone shouldn't be an ally. Going through the motions and pretending cheapen marriage. Getting through another year living in the same house doesn't mean you have a respectable marriage. Marriage problems start at home between the husband and wife, no one else.

People who have affairs with someone married don't have problems. They are happy. Unhappily married folk have the problems! Perhaps everyone will be realistic about the idea of marriage and realize that "I do" doesn't always unconditionally. There aren't many alternatives if you are unhappy. Marriage can be a form of bondage you know. So, people get involved with others who make them happy. That's the realistic, NOT moralist point of it.

The key? Marry the RIGHT person!		 Atlanta GA United States Female 35.00 7/31/2003 15:58:59
The Top 10 Measures Of High Self-Esteem Against CG It seems that if you have to "earn" self-esteem that presupposes that you start at "0", which means you are not naturally worthy. Now "that's" a shameful idea!! Brooklyn NY USA Female 42.00 8/6/2003 14:45:13
Love Tactics/Tom McKnight Agree BB Mr. McKnights articles are awesome! I would like to hear alot more from him! Love Tactics is a wonderful and insightful tool to develop a loving and romantic relationship. It has helped me more than I can say in my dating activities! Provo Utah USA Male 34.00 8/10/2003 1:00:31
Nation Wide Increase in Teen Prostitution Agree HF The increase in child prostitution is disturbing and down right sickening. But the bigger issue is to look at WHY there is such a HUGE demand for underage prostitutes as well as adult ones. The pimps who recruit these girls and women would not be doing so if it wasn't worth their time. The pimps are simply supplying a large and overwhelming demand. It is a demand that is so large that anyone in ANY city or town can "set up shop" and make a lot of money. We need to ask ourselves "Who uses prostitutes and what is their physical, mental and emotional motivation for doing so? What is the solution from knowing this"? The men who go to prostitutes are not the faceless minority of men who we would consider "perverts" but unfortunately are often men (and some women) who we know and see every day and who are in our lives as well. Even though most prostitutes come from low socio-economic groups (black, hispanic and poor) the men who use them come from EVERY group; white, black, hispanic, rich, poor, professional, blue-collar, etc. (Human Sexuality 5th ed. by William H. Masters) There are a lot of hookers simply because there are even MORE Johns. If there was little demand for prostitutes (child or otherwise) it would not be a proffession worth going into. We need to get to the real root of this problem and focus on ourselves, our husbands, brothers, fathers, and men in our society who may secretly feel the need to pay and exploit another human being. Rocky Hill CT U.S.A Female 27.00 8/11/2003 16:59:24
The Legal Hallucinogen Targeted at Teens Neutral SO Dear CouplesCompany.

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PO Box 650143, Potomac Falls, VA 20165		 Potomac Falls VA USA Male 38.00 8/21/2003 12:22:53
grandparent rights Agree BB I think grandparents should have more rights. I am raising a grandson with special needs. His father has had no contact with him for 6 years. Now that I aske dhim about 1 yr ago if he wanted to get to know his son and he agreed upon visits when the child wanted to. Now that he found out the boy is getting SSI he wants to be father of the year and wants custody in which I have had since the child was 2 years old but the child has lived with me since he was 2 months old. Now who has the right to raise this child? A man who is abisive or a loving grand mother who has rasied and made sure he got medical attetion when he needs it. They don't even give him his meds when he suppose to get them. How is a child suppose to survive in that kind of life? Thanks your time.
Bonnie		 Romulus New York USA Female 50.00 9/2/2003 1:27:39
Ten Reasons NOT to Date a Married Man Neutral LJ I am a recent college graduate who is taking a year off to work before going back to pursue a different degree. I have had long-term relationships since high school and right now am in a relationship that began 3 years ago. I noticed very early in my youth that I had a problem with lying, deception, and just plain "sneakiness." I remember lying and stealing from my parents and cheating in school. Unfortunately this triad has continued past my adolescence and into my early adulthood. I have cheated on EVERY SINGLE BOYFRIEND I have ever had. I have only been caught once and from this have gained a false sense of security. I wish I could stop but I am so addicted to the "highs" and the intoxicating feeling of being with someone that you are so addicted to. I have no experience with illegal drug use, but from what I have been told, a practiced, experienced adulterer is as addicted to adultery as a drug user is to drugs. The unfortunate side of this is that rehab for adultery is not so readily accessible or societally encouraged. He told me that he will probably not leave his wife, which I'm sure is the best idea, but I feel that as long as he is with her he will be cheating on her (I'm not the first extra-marital affair he has had--his last one lasted 5 years). In the same aspect I feel that I will continue cheating as long as I remain with my boyfriend. In an ideal world affairs wouldn't happen, but we live in a realistic world where we learn to deal with what is an unsatisfactory situation is the best way that we can. Check out: http://www.andtheylivedhappilyeverafter.com/63.htm A Wonderful resource. Here is a quote from there: “There's no end to the excuses adulterers will make for themselves, probably because deep down, no one wants to admit that they're immoral or making serious errors of judgment.” Another insight: “If you were really in love with your spouse, you wouldn't be having sex with other people. And even if you were no longer passionately in love, if you had even the slightest concern or regard for the person you're married to, you wouldn't deceive them in such a disrespectful, dishonorable way. If you really loved them, you would respect them enough to be honest with them about your feelings, even if it means an uncomfortable situation or possibly a divorce. Lie to yourself all you like, but adultery means the irretrievable loss of love, and consequently, the loss of any basis you might have had for being married.” Chapel Hill NC USA Female 22.00 9/20/2003 8:30:34
Thinking about committing adultery? Against DJ 1. Where did you get this diatribe? Who are you quoting? Come-on' doc., you're a scientist. Let's dispense with convenient sounding generalizations in search of an audience.

2. Another generalization. Cheating tells how one person MIGHT deal with ONE situation ... not all. Sheesh!

3. I agree with your title only. It IS exhausting and demoralizing ... however, the rest of this nonsensical paragraph assumes a "Scientological-ness" of the relationship, something obviously incorrect given the first sentence.

4. More assumptions and generalizations .. probably needed to make a complete list of ten. This first sentence is right out of La-La land (Hollywood).

5. It's not about disrespecting our spouses. It's about getting our needs met ... in a cheating situation, these two are mutually exclusive. Your statement implies intent. WRONG!

6. More generalizations to fill the page. Who says SHE is the pursuer?? As one reader says, "it takes two to tango." This question is the same as the previous. As Groucho Marx said, "Say the magic woid, and win a prize." In this case, say a few un-magic woids and win an audience.

7. I agree with this one.

8. Again with the generalizations we all love to hear ... this time including a boring cliché at the end. Yawn.

9. I love this one! How in the world can someone claim to be a practitioner of Mental Health, and be so judgemental???!!! Deceitful is purporting to know something about a subject, and using the internet to pontificate revelation.

10. Oh goody, another cliché. We can all feel comfort in hearing worn out phrases with little relevance. This entire answer is totally nonsensical, and probably only applies to a handfull, not the majority.

In a nutshell, it angers me to see this sensationalistice verbal dysentery (with accompanying flatulence) being spewed out onto our monitors, in the guise of expert advise based on having three letters after a name.

One of God's greatest gifts is the gift of critical thinking. Let's use it, and find something of value to enrich our lives ... like a partner who truly enjoys and cherishes our company on the same level as we enjoy theirs. Life's answers are not on-line ... hints to their direction maybe, but like the old cliché goes, "opinions are like (you-know-what's), everyone has one." I have one, Dr. G. obviously has one, please form your own, and trust those feelings inside more than the opinions of others.		 Fresno CA USA Male 50.00 9/21/2003 12:02:04
KOBY BRYANT CASE Against MH KOBY BRYANT IS A LIAR,ADULTRESS, AND HIS BODY LANGUAGE SAYS HE IS GUILTY AS CAN BE. A MAN WITH A YOUNG FAMILY COMMITING ADULTRY AND LIEING ABOUT IT. JUST BECAUSE HE HAS MONEY AND FAME DOES NOT
ENTITLE HIM TO A NOT GUILTY VERDICT. HE IS ONE
THAT AN EXAMPLE SHOULD BE MADE OF. I HOPE HE IS
FOUND QUILTY AND JAILED FOR YEARS TO COME. THIS
PROBLEY WAS NOT HIS FIRST TIME. THE LAKERS CAN
REALLY PICK THEM MEN WHO COMMIT ADULTRY AND HAVE
AIDS AND INFECT OTHERS. HIS DEFENSE DOES NOT
HAVE THR RIGHT FOR THE GIRLS MEDICAL RECORDS. THE
TRIAL NEEDS TO BE WHERE IT HAPPENED. TEAMS NEED
TO KNOW MORE OF WHAT PLAYERS ARE DOING. HE SHOULD BE FOUND GUILTY. 		EULESS EX US Female 56.00 9/24/2003 11:16:36
Is he committment phobic Agree AC Sarah, I can totally ustd what you mean. I am currently facing the same problem. I thought marriage was around the corner for me as we recently bough a condo together which wld be ready in 2 years time. We hv talked abt the condo so frequently until one day, he gave me a harsh lecture that he is not ready to get married. I am not expecting a wedding now but i thought it wld be within 2 years time. You see, in my country and culture, it's not recommended that couples cohabitate and not get married. I guess i shd not hv assumed. I felt like it was a slap on my face asking me to face reality. And i ask myself, what is the learning experience behind this? Or is God trying to make him learn something? I guess, one way for me and us women is to redefine our goals and focus on ourselves. Marriage has always been a part of my dream. I love this guy and wld want to take the r'ship to the next stage. But when he said out loud that he didnt want to and was not ready, i felt like he broke my heart and dream. I am not angry at him as i hv no right to. What wld you ladies do if you were me?
Kuala Lumpur Selangor Malaysia Female 25.00 10/22/2003 0:27:11
Polyamory Neutral CT Hello,

I have read an article by Dr Tina about polyamory. The article appeared reasonably balanced about the topic. However, there was a disclaimer by the CEO of Couplescompany in which it was said there was substantial research which demonstrated that polyamory was generally destructive of monogamous relationships and self esteem, and that it was based on hedonism and narcissism.

Could you please provide full references to that research. I don't really know what to make of polyamory and would like to see some solid scientific research on the subject.

I hope you can help.

Regards

Chris		 Perth Western Australia Australia Male 43.00 10/28/2003 16:00:28
Ten Reasons Not to Date a Married Man Against NM I think you have over-simplified a very complicated subject. There are many reasons, other than being a manipulative user, that a man might be prevented from ending a marriage, even a pretty awful one. There really are decent folks who find themselves in situations they cannot control and who are just doing the best they can under the circumstances.

In addition, not every woman is looking for a full-time relationship leading to marriage. Happily single ladies (especially those of us who are veterans of a lousy former marriage) who are busy with career, family, volunteer work and a wide circle of friends might very well enjoy having a "very dear friend" to add to the mix - a regular date who provides interesting conversation and companionship for dinner, movie, the theater, etc. This is not such a bad thing!

Having said that, any woman dating a married man needs to be very honest with herself about what sort of relationship they have. If she is looking for a stable family life and Christmas around the tree, it probably won't happen. She needs to make it clear to her married partner from the beginning that she considers herself free to date other men. A very young woman who is eager to settle down and start a family probably ought not to waste her time on this one, because the odds of it leading to something else are not in her favor. She needs to be brutally honest with herself about the character of her married man. He might be a louse and a creep - or he might not. Either way, she must make very sure she keeps their relationship in perspective and does not allow it to become anything other than a pleasant diversion, because until he actually leaves his wife, that is all it is or ever will be. If she wants to hold onto the hope that he really will be single one day and they can ride off into the sunset, she needs to put a firm time limit on that dream. Yes, set an actual calender date (one year from our first date, three months from today, etc.)and let him know about it. If it doesn't happen by that date, she needs to reassess whether she can handle giving up her dream or, if that is too painful, she needs to give up the relationship. Period.

Dating and falling in love with a married man is not something most of us would ever pursue on purpose. It just happens, and we deal with it. It is a tough road, but it is not necessarily the nightmare you portray.

Baltimore MD Baltimore Female 49.00 11/8/2003 20:41:06
Illegal aliens Agree SA If the federal govt. mandates the education of illegals, then they should pay. The state governors should demand this. Monroe Twp NJ USA Male 65.00 11/9/2003 20:57:20
Want to say hi to Laura Agree AB Hi Laura, I was bored one day and decided to "Google" myself to see if I came up on the internet anywhere, and what did I find?!? I am hoping, since my name is on here, Ali Borzomati, that you remember me from LABJ. How are you? Are you still in LA? Please email me and tell me how you are doing and what is new, etc. I would love to hear from you. My email is above, that is the best way to get in touch with me right now. Hopefully I will talk to you soon...ALi LA CA USA Female 36.00 11/10/2003 17:40:12
I've been Kobied Agree JD I sent the link to this article to a female friend of mine whose husband has been cheating on her for years. He apologizes, she accepts and makes him swear never to do it again, and then he does it again anyway. I like the suggestions for how to parse your feelings (4-Hs) and try to get over it (the 4-Rs). I hope it helps her. She has a six-year-old kid and is afraid, I think, to go out on her own with a kid if she were to divorce the cheating s-o-b. Louisville KY US Male 40.00 11/11/2003 15:35:30
the quote on humanity w Against CS In Dr. Mark's quotation about animals he said that animals don't have a conscience. That is not true. My pets and many other animals know when they have done something wrong. Marana AZ USA Female 32.00 11/12/2003 22:05:30
Haunted by her threesome Against JG Oh How envious are we of you Mr. "I am incapable of living with my wife's past". Let me tell you what kind of past my wife has, so you can find a way in your heart to accept your loving wife ( How long will she have to pay for her legitimate past and life before she met you ??!):

My wife informed me of the "skeleton" in her closet when we started dating: Coming from a traditional religeous background, she thought that not being a virgin when she married was the worst, and that she was damaged goods. I of course thought nothing of this fact, but let me tell you: A woman that learns this attitude from her Mom, and lives that ex-virginity everyday, is not much of a partner. Your wife sounds like a warm, loving person who loves YOU now, and has the proper orientation and upbringing to please you and you alone. Furthermore, people change and certain crazy things we have experienced are not attractive anymore. You must try with all your heart to overcome this issue - Make it your business to do so and fast, because you are a lucky man, and the problem is with you.		 Fai Lawn NJ USA Male 35.00 11/16/2003 8:03:29
Why Men Use Porn Against EE Hey... I stop reading romance novels when I'm in a relationship because I recognize them as porn, and as cheating. How hurt I felt when I found out my boyfriend was looking at naked women. I still don't know what to do with a betrayal like that. Hauppauge NY USA Female 23.00 11/18/2003 18:35:23
Fitness by Chris Murray Against SM Your fitness columnist is a joke. Literally. Every week, we post his articles in the gym and laugh. He knows so little about exercise physiology that there is an error in nearly every paragragh he writes.

And yes, I could do a better job.		 Bremerton WA USA Male 37.00 11/25/2003 19:28:29
Women's Fitness Neutral PS Not sure what the last bit of advice on:

http://www.couplescompany.com/Advice/Chris/women2.htm

means.... something about taking care of a dog?

????		 Acton Ontario Canada Female 33.00 12/1/2003 21:58:55
Getting Rid Of Those Annoying Pop-up's in Word, Excel Agree CN Hey thanks for posting how to get rid of Windows messenger, that stupid program was ticking me off and I didn't know how to kill it. You guys showed the way, thanks again.

Chris		 Toronto From Ontario Canada Male 24.00 12/4/2003 20:51:27
How Do You Know You Are Being Spun? Agree KA I was thrilled with this article [sent to me by a friend] and want to know how I can be sure to receive the remaining installments. When I saw that it was date-stamped in Portland, Oregon and written by a woman, I thought: Hallelujah! A woman, in Portland, who is intelligent, awake, and smells the coffee! How and where do I meet her? When I clicked on your "community" link, I was disappointed not to find one. Kathleen Anderson Portland Oregon USA Female 58.00 12/6/2003 3:30:47
The Dating Scene: What Unmarried Men Are Facing Against RF I strongly disagree with the part where those born in 1962 are part of a younger generation, when they are indeed in fact part of the Baby Boom Generation. Hazleton PA Luzerne Male 41.00 12/18/2003 1:26:40
Marriage Amendment Against LY I beleive church and state are separate and that same gender marriages have a vaild place in both areas.
When I married my husband it was becsuse of love and we did it in church to honor or committment to keeping God as the center of our marriage. I believe God blesses same-gender marriages as well.
Civil marriages do not have to be about love, and are about legal rights and responsiblities. I beleive anyone can enter into a civil arrangement as long as it's legal. And I applaud the changes that are validating the same gender commitments.		 Pasadena CA LA Female 60.00 12/21/2003 21:24:18
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Thinking about committing adultery? Here are 10 Reasons No Agree cmd I agree totally with this article. I was "the other woman" fortunately it only took me one man and two months to realize it wasn't for me. This is a no win situation and any woman who ever wants favor with God or a good relationship of her own should strongly reconsider going down this path. columbia sc usa Female 29.00 1/8/2004 13:07:41
WHen the one you love doesn't want you back Agree JS I just want to say THANK YOU. I have been dealing w/ this problem for god knows how long and have always been puzzled and have definatley always taken it personally. This article was like a big old wake up call and that's an understatement. I can't believe how much insight it gave me. I finally get it!!! I only wish I had had this advice sooner. Boston MA U.S. Female 26.00 1/9/2004 14:43:30
Type Title cheating Neutral ek I just had a affair with a married women.
She kept calling me the friend or good friend
Then the sex, and sex, and more sex.
She wanted to know everything about me.
In a way she was my girlfriend.
Lead me on to emotional rollercoaster.
I wonder if the best thing is to tell her husband.
Statistics say that most affairs end with the other person telling the spouse		 atlanta ga us Male 28.00 1/14/2004 23:35:17
Type Title Here Agree NON I WANTH WITH HELP OF YOU FIND A HAZBENT. YEREVAN YEREVAN ARMENIA Female 34.00 1/15/2004 5:48:42
Diet and Carbs Agree rc where is and how do i get to it - the glycemic index and load table mentioned in the article,supposed to be at this web site???
thank you, bob		 san marcos ca usa Male 76.00 1/16/2004 19:06:57
Type Title Here Agree sdc I don't know, but this is the best darn stuff I've ever read on the subject of love. san francisco ca usa Male 48.00 1/17/2004 1:48:37
How to get a man to the altar witout having to go to bed wit Against VM Had I not read the rest of the Tactics before this article I would have thought this was written upon a paid request of some association of hypocrite purists of several centuries ago. "Selling her soul", "losing her integrity" and "services his physical needs" is not what sex is about. Women need sex and physical union as much as men do. It is about the needs of both and this has nothing to do with integrity. Integrity is knowing that you want sex with your man and doing it. Besides, how will you know if your man, or future husband if you like, is (semi)impotent or not really very good in bed unless you experience it. Do you have to get married only to realise that his capacities aren't meeting your needs, that he is agressive or kinky. Or simply, that you don't like the smell of his body. I thought I was enchanted with my latest boyfriend until we had sex. He disappointed me and I am glad I realised this before we got deeper into the relationship. Sex is so important and people should explore their compatibility before they commit to more serious stuff. Your comments are valid in case where sex doesn't play an important role to either of them and when it's success is taken for granted. Mind you, where sex isn't working, the relationship falls apart. I am not saying that it is the single important element, but surely it is important. Apart from this story, I would like to thank you for the very good insight you are giving us on human behaviour and the support you provide to the lonely and seeking. Kotor Montenegro Montenegro Female 36.00 1/17/2004 10:19:23
How to get a man to the altar witout having to go to bed wit Against KM Had I not read the rest of the Tactics before this article I would have thought this was written upon a paid request of some association of hypocrite purists of several centuries ago. "Selling her soul", "losing her integrity" and "services his physical needs" is not what sex is about. Women need sex and physical union as much as men do. It is about the needs of both and this has nothing to do with integrity. Integrity is knowing that you want sex with your man and doing it. Besides, how will you know if your man, or future husband if you like, is (semi)impotent or not really very good in bed unless you experience it. Do you have to get married only to realise that his capacities aren't meeting your needs, that he is agressive or kinky. Or simply, that you don't like the smell of his body. I thought I was enchanted with my latest boyfriend until we had sex. He disappointed me and I am glad I realised this before we got deeper into the relationship. Sex is so important and people should explore their compatibility before they commit to more serious stuff. Your comments are valid in case where sex doesn't play an important role to either of them and when it's success is taken for granted. Mind you, where sex isn't working, the relationship falls apart. I am not saying that it is the single important element, but surely it is important. Apart from this story, I would like to thank you for the very good insight you are giving us on human behaviour and the support you provide to the lonely and seeking. Kotor Montenegro Montenegro Female 36.00 1/17/2004 10:23:07
The Placebo Syndrome Agree MH Hi,Well,,here goes.I been dating a woman i worked with.Pretty,brunette,short and a few pounds.Well,we had so much in common.She also had a ;what seemed at the time a possessive ex.Would not leave us alone.Vandalized our trucks one night.Then she tells me she's 'clinically depressed" and has been a long time.(Doesn't take her medications no more)Anyways,,thanks to your article,,i see a lil better.She calls him her "comfort zone"Although we had moments of not speaking,,we both agreed we had something "special".(Must add she had order of protection against him,,and now is back with him)I loved her with all my heart,,tried to make her feel special,,"wanted"(with no luck,,i might add)Your article helped alot.She always said,,"I can't get rid of him",,truth is;she could NEVER let go.I wish i knew why,,cause,,he values a bottle more then her,,public humilates her,,and she goes back for more.In a Richie Furay song,,he sings,,"I gave MY heart,,all i could do",,and i live by that.Will be hard,but;Ill make it and be better for it.Thank you,,,again,,Marvin Murfreesboro TN USA Male 46.00 1/27/2004 23:00:49
The Few, The proud, The underrewarded Agree dp Hello, My name is David W. Peixotto and I am the father of CPL. Billy W. Peixotto. I am curious why my son has not received any word on his Bronze Star. Do they intend to give him any recognition ? Wetumka OKLAHOMA USA Male 45.00 2/2/2004 13:47:24
Gift Giving Agree PC I really enjoyed reading this article. Answered some questions I had already and questions I should have had. Great suggestions and understanding of the subject. I just really enjoyed it, I never have had a question be answered so completly beofore. Thanks Vernal Utah USA Female 19.00 2/12/2004 12:10:23
How I Learned to Captivate Like the Jerks Agree CJ You are 100% correct! It's not about not being nice - it's about not being "wimpy" - big difference. That was the first time I heard someone else mention that.

Since it is well known that nice guys don't get anywhere with women, guys will fallaciously act like "jerks" in their attempts to attract women.

The secret is to isolate the effective characteristics of the jerk, without compromising your integrity allowing you to be a nice guy.
Baltimore MD USA Male 28.00 2/17/2004 11:17:48
USS Liberty Agree RK Now that certain factions in this great nation
are screaming that Mel Gibson's movie is
a violation of the Patriot Act, I wish to make
it clear that I think this is most certainly
a double standard these people seem to have.

They say that they know more about the Holocaust
then anyone because they were there. You know
I certainly agree with them, but by the same
token couldn't this be applied to the survivors
of the deliberate attack on the USS Liberty?
They were there, they saw it all, so how can
people like A.J. Cristol (Author of the Liberty
Incident) try to convince others that the men
who survived the attack didn't see what they
thought they saw. Were they so traumatized
that they don't know what they are talking about?
Then I would say that the Holocaust survivors
were in the same boat so to speak. So what
we have is a double standard as far as I am
concerned. I never cease to be amazed by this.

Sheridan Wyoming USA Male 64.00 2/27/2004 11:48:16
love tactics Agree ap your stuff about guys wanting validation was what i needed to know for years. more please and lots of it torrance ca 90504 Female 33.00 3/2/2004 0:09:06
Grammar Neutral BRP For the author/editor's future knowledge. The word "there" identifies a location, the word "their" suggests the possession of something by someone (ie. 'their bicep'. Also commas make your writing easier to understand. Use them. Minneapolis Minnesota USA Male 27.00 3/11/2004 1:15:45
grandparents' custody rights Neutral bc Although it is basically tragic that a well intentioned and loving grandparent who has stepped into the role of primary caregiver would have no rights over the rights of a biological parent, generalizing laws on grandparents' rights is wrong! My husband and I are currently being threatened under these general rights to be taken to court so that they will be granted visitation. It is a decision we have made to not allow them in our infant daughter's life and because of a generalized bunch of laws we are now facing a large financial strain as well as the loss of our rights as parents in this decision. It is sad for the well meening grandparents but it is stepping on my freedom as a parent to make the best choice for my daughter! anytown MA USA Female 24.00 3/21/2004 9:56:37
The Legal Hallucinogen Targeted at Teens Against MD It makes me angry that right in the TITLE of your article, the lies begin... "Targeted at teens"? Nobody is "targeting" anybody with Salvia - especially not teens. Just how do you get off saying that? Who is "targeting teens" with Salvia? I have visited almost every site on the internet that sells Salvia, and have seen nothing that could be described as targeting ANYONE, much less teens... I think you're just twisting the truth to make it fit your own agenda. What's new... Golden CO USA Male 23.00 3/23/2004 12:14:20
The Legal Hallucinogen Targeted at Teens Against J W I am a responsible family man - of the 20 people I know who have tried salvia only 2 are under 20 and they don't like it.
Unlike the previous 5 years when I usually had one or 2 ounces of tequila when I come home from work, or a glass or 2 of wine, since discovering Salvia Divinorum, one year ago, the amount of acohol I use is less than 1/2, my effectiveness at work is up and my relationships - which were good - seem to have improved.
I have endured hardships (death of loved ones) and unexpected business events with clarity and understanding. I have worked creatively and enthusiastically.
Salvia's effect is not nearly as excapist as alcohol, and the astonishing (in the moment) effects from smoking last less than 5 minutes and are followed by thoughtfulness and a refreshed healthful feeling. (driving is not recommended for 2 hours afterward - less down time than with alcohol)
Salvia may not attract youth strongly, and it may not be the fountain of youth for older people either (as I find it to be), but it deserves more study and need not be legislated in the interim.		 Toronto Ontario Canada Male 52.00 3/23/2004 12:28:46
Dating a married man Agree mc Ive been dating a married man off & on for 4 yrs.I often feel that he be narcisistic at times he'll say you need to start dating other people then he'll ask me probing questions about if we had sex or oral sex wants to know their names by the way he's a deputy sheriff and has ways of finding things out about people I love this man but it seems as though he pushes me away only to ridicule me later and come back. once i was going to a casino with friends he called and i informed him that i was going he's knows my parents are pastors of their own church so he then says that it was blasphemy for me to go & asked did my parents know about it. during this time that ive known him ive been married myself he would call my home, my job and ask if i would meet him outside before my husband came home from work i have since divorced and now he's back to calling whenever he feels like it and acting nonchalant telling me i need to start having sex with other men and find a man of my own this man is so moody i don't know what to do all he does is ridicule me about almost every thing i'm a 31 yr old single parent he's 30 and has no kids but is married he has not given me any false promises about leaving his wife he acts as if everything is fine even though i know his wife left him for same reasons through a co worker of hers ive never told him that i know this and never will but i feel as though he loves me in his own way but is not in touch with his emotions in any way also i've learned through his best friend that he lives down the street from me but has never informed me of his move often i would see him drive by my apts i just don't understand him. i met him 6mths prior to him getting married when coming out of an abusive relationship he was very charming nice and seemed concerned i wasn't looking for a boyfriend & told him i just needed a friend he had a girlfriend so i thought this arrangement would be ok but instead it has caused me many sleepless nights. Houston Tx USA Female 31.00 3/26/2004 0:29:43
Burning Books Agree mp I give you credit for trying.But you are too late.They have got you where they want you - cowering in fear. I think it is significant that in the entire article you don't dare to name Israel by name.
They are already in control,my friends and I fear there is nothing to do now. For now they still let you have this and other forums,just so that you can have your illusion that you are living in a free country. But that's only because it is only an illusion and they know that the real power rests with them and only them.
Good luck. 		Toronto Ontario Canada Male 50.00 3/28/2004 22:24:01
Burning Books Before they are Written Against EH First off, check your math:

If we refunded the 3.7 Billion in foreign aid, paid to Israel, each person would get about $12. Not $12,000. I wonder what other "mistakes" in your article support your claim.

If we gave "every Israeli $608,350 a year" as you claim, then we would be giving Israel 3,650,100,000,000 (or over 3.6 trillion dollars) per year. Is that your claim?

Censorship does not enter into the debate. No one is limiting anyones speech. Any professor can say or write anything they want. They just can't do it with taxpayer money.

Do you see the distinction? I can say anything I want, but if told my boss he was stupid, he'd probably fire me. Does that mean he's censoring me? Is he violating the constitution?

Yes, Israel is not perfect. Neither is the U.S. But we are strong allies. They are the only democracy in the Middle East. If you don't see the value of that, then this argument is pointless.

Remember the main point - this regulates programs which receive not just standard taxpayer money, but a special fund set up just for international statesmanship. There's no censorship, just a zealous stewardship of taxpayer funds (which many academics resent).

There's a large anti-American bias in today's universities. Congress can't stop that, nor should they. But they can regulate how taxpayer dollars are spent.		 Flint MI USA Male 29.00 3/30/2004 19:06:34
                   
Teen Prostitution Agree aj I am in agreements with this article. I have a daughter that comes from a middle class family. This is one thing, that I thought I would not have to worry about. My daughter has taken this path and it is very disturbing to me. I have tried to reach out to her in every way that I know how and I have not been able to. Now I am reaching out for help. As a parent, what can I do to get my daughter back home. Edmond OK Ok Female 38.00 4/7/2004 12:58:55
                   
Cantata in the Crosshairs Neutral PM Dear Laura Dawn Lewis,

Thank you for your article about our music (speaking also for the librettists).

We don't feel quite persecuted, just quite hassled. Everyone is safe, so far. The music will be played.

Philip Munger		 Wasilla AK United States Male 57.00 4/16/2004 11:35:13
                   
Fighting the Marriage Amendmant Against JP Nice article but you should take your logic further. Just a few points to ponder. Has science proven where heterosexuality is found in the brain? What makes people straight? Can science prove this is normal or just PREDOMINATE?
If homosexuality is a behavior then so is heterosexuality. After all you are just expressing your love for this person of the opposite sex. If homosexuals are only 2% of the population as you contend then how on earth can such a small percentage bring down an empire? Or maybe the empires throughtout history just destroyed themselves by greed, conquest, power, politics. Homosexuals are just a convienant scapegoat as they have always been. If it is just a "behavior" how come it has been around since recorded history? Could it be that it is just part of the grand scheme? Is "God" really so shallow as to create this wonderful world with such rich diversity and balance and wonder and pleasure and then limit humans to one way of being sexually? Or is it just humans way of trying to control what they don't understand?
Homosexuals build a family! It is not about sex. It is about having the legal framework that is established to protect the emotional, financial, and physical unit that has been built. SAME AS HETEROSEXUAL COUPLES! I have yet to hear of a straight couple say it's only about sex. That is what affairs are for! However, when it comes to gays its always about sex never any looking deeper at the human being. And GAYS are accused of being sex maniacs! However, there are four things human don't argue over preductively: preferences, beliefs, the impossible, and facts.		 Evans CO USA Female 30.00 4/17/2004 20:59:02
Wiring Our Homeless Against RV I would be interested to know which sources you used to verify this story. My own search resulted in no original source, other than a message board where someone commented on said story. CNN had no story, and you would have thought that this would be major news.

I am wondering if this story was a well-written practical joke that was spread quickly via the Internet. A look at the official site of the Department of Health and Human Resources indicates no press release regarding RFID.

As well, one would have to question the wisdom of the project. Wouldn't PATH be more concerned about receiving funds to actually help the homeless than to track them? And what would happen when the people are no longer homeless? Would they still need a microchip?

So, perhaps I did not look in the right place. Please direct me to your sources for this story.		 Phoenix AZ US Female 39.00 4/27/2004 12:54:39
Wiring Our Homeless Against mt Our gun laws started the same way.First it bans concealed arms,then it went on to automatics,now we have laws if you have any kind of past criminal history you can't even own a gun, period.First it will be the homeless,then it will move on to anybody on welfare.After that on to prisons then anybody with a criminal history. Holt Summit Mo United States Male 39.00 4/29/2004 0:50:41
rfid on homeless Agree ko While homeless in Eugene Oregon, they maintained that one could not stay at the shelter unless a tb test was performed...while there i felt as if i was one steer in the herd. I can see how that form of coercion will cause many to take the mark. I also agree that if it is beginning there is will not stop there. Monitoring for the good of the people will lead to all rights being infringed upon and taken away as humans proceed to live with the illusion that our freedoms are still in place. Please tell me how I can offer support and how we the people can prevent this from becoming.
Coquille Oregon U.S.A. Male 38.00 4/29/2004 13:36:47
wiring our homeless Against RV RfID is not a GPS system, radio towers would pick up the signal if in range, only giving a general idea of location based on the strength of the signal and its radius from the receiver (100 m south or north would be the same). who is going to pay all these people to watch the monitors? police and social workers are in short supply and surely have better things to do......also just because someone is near a scene of a crime is a far hurdle to proving guilt. It can't tell if they are buying drugs or milk and how thay're paying for their alchohol. It might be useful for people who hsve serious medical problems like a bracelet phx az usa Male 40.00 4/30/2004 0:00:36
                   
The eight stages of intimacy Against LM I found the information to be very helpful in counseling couples --until I reached the 8th stage. As other's have also commented on, there are some statements that at the very least should be rewritten. The are perhaps even dangerous to some people that might take them literally. Pasadena ca usa Female 34.00 4/20/2004 3:41:34
How to Make Yourself a Goddess Against DM While I will agree that being a 24/7 whiner is for losers, you suggest that having a Pollyanna-style positive attitude is super-attractive. I have to differ with Tom on that point, emphatically. Someone who continually broadcasts jollyness vibes can be excruciatingly irritating to just about anyone who isn't high on Ecstasy. Everyone knows a coworker or a friend-of-a-friend whose terminally cheerful and chirpy demeanor makes them seem oblivious to the fact that sometimes people can have bad days. They're so into their happiness and light that sometimes such people actually resent anyone who complains about anything. Striking a balance between the Ray o' Sunshine persona and the Curmudgeon seems to be most productive when it comes to developing one's attractiveness potential; I would chuck the Pollyanna sort of positivity into the nearest flower bed because the best thing to do with crap like that is grow flowers with it. Ironically, surely Pollyanna herself would approve, wouldn't she? The point is, the flowers will be much less annoyed than slightly-less-than-perfectly-happy people will be. San Francisco CA USA Female 38.00 4/30/2004 10:43:22
WIRING OUR HOMELESS logan's run 2004 Agree DB After reading the story of the rfid program and then reading this story My thanks to the author of this story. This is exactly how I felt when I read the initial story of implanting the homeless. I feel that her artical needs to be more widly published so more people have a chance to read it. Thanks again Laura for writing how I fell as well. Los Angeles CA USA Male 38.00 4/30/2004 16:45:31
Logan's Run Against GG I took your link from this story to PATH and phoned up the Director of PATH, Michael Hutner. Did you? He said the story was an April Fools hoax. I was only concerned that he seemed reluctant to confront the issue directly by going to various websites (and "officially" denying it) or by posting something to discredit the story on his own. Odd. However, he sounded like a nice enough guy over the phone. Any other answers? Akron OH USA Male 42.00 5/7/2004 16:32:57
                   
Taking On Racism at the Washington Post Agree WJ Wow! I cannot believe my eyes. In all my years of reading, I have never read an article that is so right-on, particularly about culture, politics, and religion in the Middle East. I just have so much respect for Laura Lewis. A rare find indeed--someone who tells it like it is and has the facts straight. I only wish that every American can be regularly exposed to honest journalism. Thanks. Ann Arbor MI USA Male 25.00 5/9/2004 18:11:29
Taking on Racism at the Washington Post Agree RM The reason the United States is in Iraq is because the United States has been conquered by Israel.

Israel owns our Senators and Congressmen. They dare not oppose Israel's wishes.

Israel owns our Presidents. They do what they are told. President Lyndon B. Johnson purposely sent the USS Liberty off the coast of Egypt to be sunk by Israel, (with the loss of all servicemen on the ship), so as to get the United States to attack Egypt (as that is who Israel was going to see it was blamed on). The USS Liberty did not sink and the crew of the Liberty have been trying to get justice ever since.

John F. Kennedy signed into law a bill to do away with the Federal Reserve (Zionists own and control the Federal Reserve and the Euro...neither system belongs to the citizens of those countries). He was dead one week later.

Israel is the Capital of the United States and Israel sets United States policy. Ariel Sharon said, "...let me tell you something. We, the Jews, control the United States and the Americans know this."		 Aiken South Carolina America Female 65.00 5/13/2004 16:40:27
the Propaganda Recognition Education one Agree DMT This is so inspiring, seeing something like this on a dating/sex/marriage site! It's really made me feel good. Thank you, thank you for doing this, maybe we can avoid marching to FEMA concentration camps in my lifetime yet! San Francisco CA USA [Currently Under Idiot Occupation] Female 23.00 5/23/2004 6:07:42
The Key to Winning the One You Want
Agree ls Thanks for keeping your advice coming through e-mails. I am trying to get over a break up, and I am having a hard time. It has been three months that I have not seem the man I love. I talked to him two months ago for the last time. It's just very hard because he became my best friend. Maybe your advice will help me the next time around. Thanks again. Los Angeles CA USA Female 37.00 5/23/2004 16:24:45
Logan's Run 2004 Agree mm I am living in government subsidized housing, receiving SSDI, due to hereditary kidney disease and heart disease. I have been educating myself on the affects of Power Elite gaining ever speeding control over our lives. Having this RFID chip inserted under any circumstance is frightening. I have spoke to my family and several friends who think that what is happening is for the good of the
majority. I think they just do not want to do their homework. I will not accept for myself anything that is not expressed by the constitution of the United States of America. Wake up before it is too late to do anything.		 Austin Texas USA Female 51.00 5/25/2004 3:04:26
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does size really matter Agree rjp my question is does size rally matter and does it offend women if the penis is dis shaped or shaped different as in bent slightly at the tip my ex girl had bit the heck out of me during oral sex and it healed with scar tissue and it tightened and bent a little at the tip so does it matter as long as im doing my job performing and rubbing her cliterous and licking her evrywhere and still able to get her off does it matter to the women and also does it matter if its only like 15 minutes or 20 as long as we both got off well thats my questions boston mass usa Male 20.00 6/2/2004 14:48:16
Have Vest will Loan Agree TW My son is currently at Ft. Lewis, WA - just transferred there with his family. He is an MP and re-uped for dog school, did that and was stationed at Lackland AFB, even though he was Army. He trained dogs foe 2 1/2 yrs. Took the kennel master course. Got to Ft. Lewis and a SgtMajor decided he needed a warm body to occupy a slot at Battallion S-3 level, so now he is behind a desk, hates it. He is in the process of buying gear and the family trying to help him because he will be going to Iraq with poor quality gear. Or Gear that is not enough protection or that makes it easier for him to survive. He does not mind going that is his job, but he would rather go in the capicity he was trained for. Talk about waste of money for training him as a dog handler and dog trainer. ??? Since when do they work someone with specialized training out of their MOS? I am hopping mad about it. He has tried every command avenue open to him with no avail. They are more concerned about getting a new battalion together to go to Iraq. They may put him in a slot for a secretarial type position. Approving forms for soldiers to go to school. Any e-3 on up can do that. It is because he is an E-6 that they snagged him. I was in the Army also, but I never worked out of my MOS. I worked different levels of it. Thanks for listening.

Theresa		 Damon Texas United States Female 49.00 6/2/2004 20:56:17
Wiring our Homeless Agree jh iv been screaming for 15 years,,,there are going to be human implants that monitor every human,and signal body sighns,along with carry your life info,,ssn,alergies,meds,credit cards,criminal history,purchasing habits,,and more,, all my friens were saying we'd(americans) never let them do that,,i said it will seem to good to be true,,no more lost children,,no more forgeting your wallet,,,look an alarm on my computer gandpas having a heart attack, luck hes got his chip, the par meds are on there way. and i think those that choose not will die of starvation,,and then theres always 600&60&6. welcome to the begining,,once it starts it will probobly go much quicker,, im sure there are millions that would beg for it now if they could get it olathe denile usa Male 31.00 6/4/2004 19:11:57
IS THERE ANY TREATMENT FOR LACK OF SEXUAL DESIRE? Against JA I have found LOTS of information for lack of desires in females. I haven't been able to find any relevant information on men who have no desire? I have many friends who have the same problems in their marriages. I would truly appreciate some answers or help on where to turn. Houston TX USA Female 35.00 6/16/2004 18:13:05
He Has a Problem I'm NOT a Virgin! What Century is This? Neutral dc I've been dating the same girl on and off for over a year now and although she was the first girl I slept with, she had been with one other guy. Unfortunately this guy was a good friend of mine. Before we dated and right up until we slept together I could of cared less how many guys she had been with. Who cares whether a girl is a virgin right? In fact, my buddy told me he had slept with her and I didn't care and still asked her out. You love your girlfriend for the person she is inside. Well, so I thaught until we slept together. Then, it was impossible for me to see her and her old boyfriend, my friend, together. Every time I saw them together, even just talking, I had crazy mental pictures of them sleeping together. It got so bad that I couldn't even stay in the same room as the two of them. I had to break up with my girlfriend, and have since stopped being friends with the guy. I've seen other girls, but I know that the first girl is the one I really love. I still talk to the girl and we have since gone out on some more dates. I've told her why I broke up with her and she was great about the whole situation. But I don't wanna get back together if I'm not ready to handle it emotionally. I can't get over the fact that she slept with my buddy and I still can't handle seing them together. How do I get over something like this? Every article I read says the same thing: Virginity doesn't matter, love the person not the body, etc. etc. It's easy to hear and it's easy to say to someone, but it is not easy to stop feeling the way you do. Anyways, I figure if I read some relationship articles and find some info I might have a better idea of how to control my feelings. I'm really confused as to why it even bothers me so much, cause every article tells me it shouldn't, it's just sex. Mind you, I think most of those articles are written for girls and I'm a guy. Maybe the advice is the same, I dunno. Any advise or info you could give would be great please email me with advise or other articles/info/etc.
P.S. I really sympathized with both people in the article "He Has a Problem I'm NOT a Virgin! What Century is This?" It's hard for both the guy and the girl. 		delta British Columbia Canada Male 19.00 6/21/2004 4:25:07
Your Website Agree R F I am glad that I found your website. I did so by chance and it is now on my list of favorites. Honolulu Hawaii USA Male 33.00 6/25/2004 3:21:59
May- December relationships Agree MA We are doing a surprise makeover show and I would love to speak with someone in a May- December relationship. I produce for the Universal show "Home Deliveries." You can reach me at 917-595-5332 New York NY Not sure Male 25.00 7/6/2004 13:48:04
sleeping positions Neutral PM Hi,I've been with my partner nearly two years now. We've just moved in together. He is so sweet and I'm really physically attracted to him. In bed we both need to turn away from each other to sleep(even when we first started dating and were all over each other). When sleeping we sometimes hold hands or touch toes. I couldn't imagine a day without him. However I do want to get out of the 'routine married phase' so we can get back on track being all over each other. Help!! Warrington Cheshire England Female 19.00 7/15/2004 22:32:33
4 stages of grief Agree JS I just wanted to write and thank you for your article... I have just learned so much about myself and my ex-boyfriend! Hopefully, I will be able to take your suggestions, move on and make things better for myself... I am still in stage 1 (our breakup is still very recent) but I am now much more positive that I will be able to get through this!!

Thank you very much!

PS: I have actually added this website in my "favorites" so I can consult it over and over!! Good job! :)		 Montreal Quebec Canada Female 31.00 8/10/2004 8:04:16
The Four Stages of Grief Agree SH Four weeks ago, I experienced the breakup of an 18-year relationship. This article has been a tremendous aid in helping me to understand and overcome the grief and to move forward. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! Santa Fe NM USA Female 53.00 8/12/2004 10:22:53
ILLINOIS launches compulsory mental health screening Against JL It's ironic that your reader feedback form insist that facts must be supported by sources when you obviously have not read the Children's Mental Health Act but choose to spread unverified disinformation.
I'm looking at a copy of the act and nowhere does it mention pregnant women. The only screening for children is designed to PREVENT inappropriate and unnecessary psychiatric hospitalizations. The main purpose of the act is to set up a task force to study children's mental health issues with public input and develop a plan. Any recommendations in the plan will have to survive the legislative and appropriations process in a state that has one of the worst mental health funding records in the country.
There are enough legitimate problems with our mental health system without making them up. If you're serious about checking your facts, an Adobe Acrobat (.pdf file) version of the act is available at: www.isbe.net/spec-ed/mental_health/cmh_act.pdf		 Sycamore Illinois USA Male 55.00 8/17/2004 15:19:16
The Four Stages Of Greif Agree ML I wanna thank you so much for your article, it explained so much about what I'm going through, and realy helped. Espeshaly the line about being "one in a million" This article was exactly what I needed, My life will go one, and that is a good thing. Thank you Toronto Ontario Canada Female 18.00 8/17/2004 16:31:03
Accessing your web site hop.clickbank.net Agree zz I cannot access http://hop.clickbank.net/ for your ebooks...

I can access everything else and other sites work prefectly.		 City State Country Male 0.00 8/18/2004 6:34:46
Orwellian Pregnancy Against DS What do I think of this? Well, I'm not exactly sure....
On one hand, speaking as someone who had severe PPD and didn't care to admit it much less get any help for it (I played like everything was great at my check up), I like the idea of having a program to help identify it and also treat it but any GOOD doctor is already doing that. As far as other mental illnesses, I feel that 'symptoms' can be too easily misinterpreted, even by professionals and that there are too many 'professionals' out there who believe that everything can be fixed with meds or that everyone can benefit from the same treatment when in reality, each case should be individualized. And how far are they going to take this? Are they going to insist that a person that they have deemed 'mentally ill' receive the treatment that they recommend or otherwise loose certain rights as a person? In that respect, it frightens me.

As for the screening of the children via standardized tests, I don't agree with this method. I think that there are many children out there who could benefit from psychological treatment that don't get it because no one sees the need for it or are afraid to speak up about it but I don't think that standardized tests will do the trick. How many children will be answering the questions just to answer them or misunderstand the questions, etc. giving the impression that something is wrong when it's not or that everything is fine when it's not? I think that it may be more beneficial to have the school psychologists observe the children in the classroom looking for signs (there are always signs) that there may be something amiss and then do their testing from there and have it tailored to the individual situation.

I don't know- I think this law has the potential to really screw up a lot of lives- JMHO.		 Chillicothe IL USA Female 34.00 8/18/2004 17:15:28
Infidelity while He's on the Frontlines Against MR Her husband should know because he deserves the right to choose about whether to stay with a cheating wife, and his sexual health may depend upon it.
But why not do a story about the military member cheating during TDY's and extended duty assignments. Like Korea is pretty much a guarenteed cheating destination.....		 SHAW AFB SC United States Female 26.00 8/22/2004 18:57:23
Dealing With Poor Customer Service Against HR I really, really have to disagree with you advice on how to get good customer service. CSRs are humans and approaching us with anger will backfire every time. The better, and more effective approach, is to calmly explain your situtation and level of frustration you are feeling and ask them to please assist you in solving the problem. Someone working on your side will get a lot more accomplished for you than someone who is immediately put on the defensive by a rude attitude. BTW, I have worked in customer service for 2 years and customer's "threats" of sending letters are usually empty, so that in no way will scare a rep or inspire them to perform exceptionally. columbia sc usa Female 21.00 8/22/2004 20:42:59
I don't want to lose my friend Agree CM After following your Love Techniques for a while I have come to recognize the indisputable merits of the system; however, I find myself on the horns of a dilemma. This involves my feelings of affection and admiration for The One I Want. These feelings are strong and deep, more so now that we have become close friends. (Thanks in large part to Love Tactics). In the course of making myself indispensable to him, he has become a vital part of my life and I am afraid of losing what I have with him if I try to push things further along. Am I just afraid of success, here, or has Love Tactics given me more to lose? Sault Ste. Marie ON Canada Female 42.00 8/25/2004 5:25:04
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Mental Health screening Agree JP www.groups.yahoo.com/group/icmhp has been set up to collect all the information on the mental health screening program. Chicago IL USA Male 63.00 8/31/2004 4:08:16
1000 questions for couples Against AC i asked for the sample of 33 questions and only recieved six. i put the sender in my address book, as requested, and stopped recieving the sample. why? wilmington vt usa Female 22.00 8/31/2004 18:10:30
Contact effort Agree EB I received an email from Nancy Langdon Jones and have lost the return address unfortunately. I'd like to respond to her request.

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email: ericbest88@netscape.net		 Bivins TX USA Male 52.00 9/1/2004 19:51:42
What is Fascism Against js Concerning your "interesting note" at the end of the article. Which America do you live in. What a bunch of liberal propaganda. Your note totally discredits the rest of your article. Arlington texas usa Male 33.00 9/16/2004 21:22:36
Type Title Here Agree DEE I love the pilates section with Rael Alexandria Virginia USA Female 47.00 9/19/2004 23:07:34
Type Title Here all Agree kb I agree with some things, I fell in love with a married man who made a mistake very young , and is truly the best man i have ever known. He is getting divorced this yr. WE have been seeing each other for 2 years. Don't give up on a true love. Everything happens for a reason. Don't blame yourself
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opinion Agree M P Jewish control over every sentence spoken publicly - is the root of the problem. In a society moving fast toward communism where everyone is an employee, no one wants to get fired from the job - this became a method of control over the entire populatin. Society today represents excrements of civilization.
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Please, note that the word Jewish does not stand for race or religion, it stands for an organization.		 Toronto Ontario Canada Male 64.00 9/22/2004 8:32:08
Orwellian Pregnancy Against DH This nonsense needs to be stopped. I have been doing battle with many on this subject. There are nothing false statements being made all around the world on this topic. Read the legislation!! You stated to another poster who disagreed, " For pregnant women the mandatory mental health screening occurs during the year following birth." When in fact the truth is that this does not appear at all in the legislation but in another article, "Last month, the Partnership held a series of public hearings around the state to unveil its plan. Recommendations included screening all pregnant women for depression, with in-home visit follow-up." written by Rhonda Robinson, Illinois Leader.com correspondent. The final report of the "Partnership" is due 9/30 so that would make your statement but a rumor, wives tale or whatever but not the Truth.
Bronson Miichigan USA Male 57.00 9/23/2004 5:53:26
Findley's Dare to Speak Out Agree TW Dear Laura:

The Council forthe National Interest was founded in 1989 by former Congressman Paul Findley, and we've been working since then to bring a balance in our foreign policy toward the Middle East that has sadly been lacking. Our policy is more skewered that ever, but we are convinced that many Americans are unpersuadedby the direction it has taken. We hope that you will look at our work via our website (www.cnionline.org), and I would like to call on you to see how we could share some of our programs with you.

Sincerely,

Terry Walz for CNI
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OBL tape story as seen on WRH Agree K B Great article..Unfortunately we live in a world of morons who can be easily tricked or intimidated into believing anything.Sadly, a great culling of the human herd is about to take place.It will take place in America as we are the primary obstacle to what I call the "False Profit".Any person with wisdom will easily understand what I mean.Personally I would like to flee the US,but I have children and am divorced so I am forced to stay here and stomach the ignorance to ultimately die with my children.I pray we find ourselves at ground zero when this happens so they do not have to suffer unnecessarily.The Nazis did not lose WW2.They stole the identity of some of the Jewes the murdered and moved here.The Fourth Reich[The real meaning of the stripes on Rhenquists Gown]is alive and well and poised to strike..enjoy..KingMason33 batavia il usa Male 44.00 10/30/2004 14:26:51
                   
Lying and Deceit within Relationships Neutral cc Feel free to post:

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There are many ways of lying within relatiohships. The self-defined "Victim" is one of these ways. Does having been abused when a child produce adult "Victim" role-playing? This site explores signs of self-defined victimization.		 L.A. ca us Male 0.00 9/28/2004 19:43:36
Where you can find out more... Agree AT "Jesus would never advocate killing"
Laura Dawn Lewis
But those mine enemies, which would not that I should reign over them, bring hither, and slay them before me. Luke 19:27

Adam Tjaavk		 London England UK Male 67.00 9/28/2004 19:59:13
Chris Murray Agree JAC Chris,
I have been visiting your web page every day since I discovered your fascination with Bow Staffs. I am very intrigued by your extensive bow staff collection, and i would love to see some pictures. I am especially intrigued by the variety in sizes or lengths of your bow staffs, specifically your 12 foot bow staff. Please, Email me, and we can discuss your 12 foot bow staffs. --- Jen		 Bronxville NY USA Female 18.00 10/2/2004 22:00:30
                   
                   
Narcissistic Personality Disorder Agree JFS Hi Laura, I just wanted to tell you that I really enjoyed your article on Narcissistic Personality Disorder. This is very close to me since I discovered in 2002 that I have been married to a female narcissist since 1988. Unfortunately, I have to stay in the home to run interference for my daughters as much as possible. However, the youngest will graduate from High School in the spring of 2015, so I only have about 10.5 years left. I sometimes find myself hoping she will someday change, but I know that I have a better chance of winning the lottery, & I don't even play it. Anyway, good luck in your marriage. - May the Lord Bless You and Keep You, John El Paso Texas USA Male 39.00 10/7/2004 14:57:55
Cost of Educating Illegal Alien Children in US Agree GY Should we punish the children of illegal immigrants because their parents are breaking the law by withholding services and education?

The Tax Payers are not punishing these children; their parents are by taking the risk associated with illegal immigration. They or their home countries should pay or else the children should be turned away and their parents should be deported. We give plenty of money away in Foreign Aid and the Federal Government should strip away and refund States the cost of educating Illegal Immigrants.
Our Federal, State and Local Governments are instead punishing taxpayers. Each year my school taxes go up by approximately 9 percent to support the charity of educating illegal alien kids. I do not think it has ever been a requirement to give to a charity against your will.
My taxes pay for the US Immigration Agency, Border Patrol and for the education of illegal immigrants that both Agencies were created to protect against but seem unwilling to do.

Spring TX USA Male 44.00 10/8/2004 16:04:20
General Comment Neutral GD I love this site and it's very informative. It is so comprehensive on every type of relationship out there that I can think of except for the two I am currently involved. I am dating and about to plan a marriage to a man who is divorced with 3 kids. I have never been married. I would like to see two areas of interest in your Advice Areas index so that it may help others like me. 1 - When it's a second marriage for one but a first marriage for the other AND 2 - How to meet and cultivate relationships with your significant other's children, including pit falls to try to avoid and how not to make them think you are trying to take over the "mother" role, etc. Philadelphia PA USA Female 39.00 10/10/2004 8:13:04
Narcissism Agree sb My son 17 has been diagnosed with NPD. I always knew he was different, but could never put my finger on it. As he grew older his oddities were more apparent to not only me but those around me. He has no emotions except those that relate to himself and his preceived mistreatment. He has no friends, since he is an intellectual bully. When others cry at a movie he laughts at them, when other's feel compassion he feels nothing, when others learn from their mistakes he only learns better ways not to get caught. He is a pathological liar and has created this entire world around himself that is a lie in order to illicit sympathy from others. I am terrified of my own son, afraid he will murder me in the night. (a threat he has said more than once). NPD is horrible, when faced with it run, run for your life and never look back. You cannot help them but they can harm you both emotionally and physically. Apache Junction Arizona united states Female 58.00 10/12/2004 11:17:47
RFID implanted in the homeless Agree SG Though there is a lot of concern over the validity of the story that was circulating several months, I'm glad you reported on it, and I have decided to take action. My petition is at: www.petitiononline.com/sg061169/petition.html DeWitt Iowa USA Female 35.00 10/14/2004 20:40:18
Cantata in the Crosshairs Against TM Laura,
I just tonight read the article mentioned above.I was at the meeting referred to in the article and I have to say once again. The only person censoring Philip Munger is himself. He has used this as a means to draw attention to himself not unlike the publicity Mel Gibson recieved for his "Passion of the Christ".
If you want to know what really transpired, you need to watch a video of the whole meeting.Philip Munger told me and others at a meeting following this incident that the only way he would make it available was after he had 'edited' it. I lost any sympathy for him at that point. I will keep this short, but PLEASE, feel free to contact me and also my daughter who also attended the meeting that night.
Thank You
Tammy Meyer		 Baker City Oregon USA Female 45.00 10/18/2004 0:17:09
Cost of Educating Illegal Children Agree TW am writing to you because I am fed up with what is happening in my town and feel as though my tiny voice is not being heard. I live in the Carpet Capital of the World, Dalton, GA. For years I have watched as the city I grew up in become a literal "little mexico". We have had a steady surge of crime to include Meth busts, brothel busts, rapes, trafficking, grafitti on buildings, gang activity, etc. When is it going to stop? I guess I wouldn't have as much of a problem with them being here if they followed the same laws and tax standards as I do. I am a white female and feel like the minority in this town. I am sick and tired of hearing they only here to do the job the sorry white man won't. That is not true to a certain extent. You can open the newspaper on any given day and find that most clerical jobs that I have qualifications for are requiring you be bilingual in language. I feel as though I am being discriminated against for being an English speaking American white woman. Not only that, it is very rare that you see a hispanic paying any Federal taxes into the government. They will claim 9 dependants as to dance around this deduction. Also, there needs to be a law stating that if health insurance is offered to you, you must take it. Being in Human Resources as I am, I see too many times them turning down the opportunity for health insurance because the "State pays for there kids"! The greedy employers don't care because that means they don't have to contribute to their health insurance out of their pocket. That is how they can afford to drive brand new Navigators, BMW's and so on. My hispanic neighbor has a 3 br, 2 ba house with two new vehicles and on their 5th child. All on the dad's income. You tell me how that happens. It takes my husband and me both to work and we do not have but two children and our vehicles are not new. I could go on forever. My mother (God bless her) was below poverty level and did not qualify but for $40.00 per month in food stamps and did not qualify at all for government housing and she worked for years putting into our system. Now as I drive by our housing, I see nothing but mexicans, not worked a day in this country and my blood boils! Something has got to be done. I am sick and tired of this. They drive around with no insurance, no license, all while drinking and we have to foot the bill whenever one hits us because of their eratic driving skills. If I go to WalMart one more time and see them pull out their WIC vouchers to pay for their cheese and milk all the while dressed to the max and pull out a check card or one hundred dollar bill to pay for the rest of the groceries, I am liable to go postal on someone. I WANT SOME WIC CHEESE, I WANT SOME FREE MILK. Ha! Ha!

Dalton Georgia United States Female 41.00 10/20/2004 5:25:09
Spyware - Eblocs Neutral D.G Good day,

I was just reading your information regarding Gary Guseinov, CEO of Eblocs. Your story is very helpful, but you didn't realize that the Eblocs program is now under investigation, because it is actually sending out the viruses, followed by pop ups that suggest you download their program, which is screwing with people's compters.

I'd actually like to chase this story for daily newspapers, but I would like to first find out if you actually interviewed Gary Guseinov. Do you have a contact number for him?

I would appreciate your quick response.

Regards,

Donna Gray
Goddess Communications
Calgary, Alberta
403.243.7303
donna.gray@shaw.ca		 Calgary Alberta Canada Female 10/22/2004 8:07:04
Illegal Immigration Against DZ Who ever this article is an idiot. All they do is complain about illegal immigrants. They never said the benefits they provide to the economy. In California, if it weren't for immigrants agriculture would be gone. We need immigrants in this country. Your not going to find a white person working the fields. Immigrants provide an enormous help to the economy, the least a state can do is educate their children. Watsonville CA USA Male 18.00 10/25/2004 13:15:44
Osama bin Laden:He's Back Agree SM I think your article is excellent, and raises all the right points and questions. My question is, why don't articles like this make it to mainstream media so that the typical American will see or read or hear this information and these views? Until you get to those who prefer to remain ignorant, Americans have no chance of escaping this tragic freefall their government/s has led them to.
As for the timing, I don't know what to make of it, but yes definitely very convenient. Who it will serve in the end is anybody's guess. But seeing as both candidates are voicing the same views on this, it really makes no difference in the end. Whoever wins, the US is caught in a quagmire that will very likely last a few more years at the very least.
One more point, when Osama says "Bush is still deceiving you and hiding the truth from you and therefore the reasons are still there to repeat what happened"...it means much, much more than meets the eye. Though many of you may not believe in covert groups that in fact control the US Govt and hence the people, these/this group(s) very much exists. They are still in place, and that is why as Osama says, the reasons are still there...
Take a look at articles citing the mossad pretending to be Al qaeda operatives in Gaza...the trail of clues is long and and very compelling.
Good luck...
wish there were more Americans like you in the US.		 london london UK Female 30.00 10/30/2004 16:34:20
Osama bin Laden: He's Back Agree LL I would like to point out that while analyzing the OBL tape we are not constrained with just two options. The tape is not either real or fake, there are other possibilities.

First, the video may be real but the voiceover could be altered/replaced. One news story (think it was AP, but not 100% sure) said that in this tape bin Laden used contemporary arabic instead of his usual, archaic style.

Second, parts of the video can be fake, for me the most disturbing is this studio like feeling. If you look older tapes, then he is holding microphone, where is it now? This is not a very high probability, but somebody could get some old bin Laden tape, modify the colours and environment, add new voice, etc.

And then, of course it could be real, but why the wrong speaking style? And then it could be fake, but why bother? It could be much easier to fake some more "Zarqawi" tapes?

OK, I can think of one reason to fake the tape... If someone wants to show us that even the most vile terrorists think american elections important. Well, its hard to believe that US elections are so interesting to Osama bin Laden, but the show must go on :)		 Tallinn none Estonia Male 34.00 10/31/2004 13:47:55
OSAMA BIN LADEN: HE'S BACK Against RV "ALL THE WOLRLDS' A STAGE" AND ALL THE PLAYERS ARE STILL PLAYING THE CON GAME. WHERE DID THE 1/4 TRILLION DOLLARS DISAPPEAR TO? WHY DO WE NOT FIGHT NORTH KOREA WHO POSSESS REAL NUCLEAR WEAPONS? OR IS NORTH KOREA PART OF THE CON GAME? WHY DO WE CONCERN OURSELVES WITH FOREIGN POLICIES MADE BY NON-ELECTED OFFICIALS? WHO BENEFITS? MEANWHILE GAS PRICES WAS NEVER HIGHER!!! JUST GIVING MY VIEW OF THE BIG PICTURE. CANOGA PARK CA USA Male 49.00 11/1/2004 12:35:07
Soldiers In My House Agree KM I stumbled upon this story. I have no idea who runs this website or who published the story but I wanted to give you a great big HUG. Thank you. For the love of humanity, it's about time someone published the facts. My mother has been to Palestine a dozen or more times. She has seen what is going on there. She has met with leaders and common people, both Israeli and Palestinian. This story is truth...I don't know why folks have such a difficult time understanding it. Please keep this information available online for others to view. What is happening to the Palestinians is terror...What is happening to them is real terrorism.
In Kindness,
Karen
If you post this, you may wish to check back with me from time to time as my house may get burned down for stating this. I live in an area of the USA where if I were to speak what I know is true or what I personally believe, or even what may be my own opinion, I may be harmed. This is what the Patriot Act did for me and my family. I have an honor student son who must keep his mouth closed or risk not going to college.		 Ava Missouri USA Female 42.00 11/2/2004 9:53:12
Osama is back Agree JM Here's a link to the full transcript of that recent video:
http://english.aljazeera.net/NR/exeres/79C6AF22-98FB-4A1C-B21F-2BC36E87F61F.htm

excerpts:
I say to you, Allah knows that it had never occurred to us to strike the towers. But after it became unbearable and we witnessed the oppression and tyranny of the American/Israeli coalition against our people in Palestine and Lebanon, it came to my mind.

The events that affected my soul in a direct way started in 1982 when America permitted the Israelis to invade Lebanon and the American Sixth Fleet helped them in that. This bombardment began and many were killed and injured and others were terrorised and displaced.

I couldn't forget those moving scenes, blood and severed limbs, women and children sprawled everywhere. Houses destroyed along with their occupants and high rises demolished over their residents, rockets raining down on our home without mercy...And the whole world saw and heard but it didn't respond.

In those difficult moments many hard-to-describe ideas bubbled in my soul...And as I looked at those demolished towers in Lebanon, it entered my mind that we should punish the oppressor in kind and that we should destroy towers in America in order that they taste some of what we tasted and so that they be deterred from killing our women and children.		 charlotte NC US Male 36.00 11/3/2004 2:06:18
tag the homeless? Agree jm Is this a fact? I am studing the RFID chip. Is this the truth? san diego ca usa Male 41.00 11/4/2004 8:22:57
May/December Neutral PH HI,
We are a TV show looking for couples that are invovled in a relationship where the age difference is causing conflict either within the relationship or in it's surroundings due to other peoples ignorence. If you are we would love to talk to you.
Thank you,
Pamela		 LOS ANGELES CA USA Female 40.00 11/4/2004 12:20:13
May/December Neutral ph We are a TV show that would like to talk to couples that are in realtionships where the age difference is causing conflicts, either within the relationship or in their surroundings. Thank You,
Best,
Pamela		 Los Angeles CA USA Male 40.00 11/4/2004 12:25:39
What Is Fascism Agree LE http://forums.go.com/abcnews/thread?threadID=90567
Bush's Medical Malpractice Flip-Flop For Doctors
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President Bush and doctors, who think they're God, are a high risk and threat to patients because Bush flip-flopped the fact that legitimate lawsuits against doctors won millions fairly for patients who had meritorious lawsuits against the doctors who committed medical malpractice. Bush says in bad faith, "We must confront the junk and frivolous lawsuits that are driving up the cost of health care and hurting doctors and patients". (see
http://abcnews.go.com/Politics/wireStory?id=231816

Bush and doctors are afraid of patients exercising their first amendment right to file meritorious lawsuits complaining about medical malpractice and constitutionally demanding a fair and impartial jury to decide, measure and award damages for injury fairly. Doctors think they're God when really they're "mammon" that George W. Bush serves so well in order to maximize their profits sky high to the detriment of ordinary people. George W. Bush places the wealth of doctors and insurance companies (mammon) above the health of patients by allowing the insurance companies and doctors with judgments against them to pass on their damage by making innocent people pay, including innocent patients and doctors.

http://www.uswolfwatchers.com

Boise Idaho USA Female 76.00 11/6/2004 9:24:52
Top 20 Sensual Movies Against GMB This quoute is from the thirteenth of your top twenty sensual movies i.e.: Live Nude Girls.

"Let’s say she’s in the mood for a chick flick and he’s in the mood for a skin flick, this movie is the perfect marriage of both. Men will love seeing ER’s Dana Delaney in her Godfather scene, and this movie will give you a whole new side to Oh Baby’s Cynthia Stevenson and re-enforce your desire for Sex in the City's Kim Cattrall."

Dana Delaney was in two medical dramas: China Beach and Presidio Med. However, she was never in ER, not even as a guest star. You might want to check her profile in the Internet Movie Database then correct your description. It kind of kills your movie reviewer's credibility to have such a glaring mistake in a performer's resume.

Otherwise, keep up the good work! You have created a wonderful site!

Regards,
GMB		 Upstate NY USA Male 49.00 11/9/2004 8:42:42
Sweet Novermber Agree jz I have a list of favorite romance movies too. Some of the 25 stated in this site are on my list but at the very top of my list is Sweet November. I find it hard to believe this wonderful movie did not make your list. Parsippany NJ 07054 Female 50.00 11/11/2004 10:18:18
Page is Great, but... Agree TV Your page is wonderful. I found a large amount of relevant material to my own relationship, and I look forward to reading more; however, your graphics are horrible. I even found myself literally laughing out loud as I read through the eight stages of intimacy. Not only do they look amateur, but they also sometimes seem to have nothing to do with the topic. Want some help? Greensboro NC USA Female 24.00 11/11/2004 19:51:21
The whole site Agree BS I have only just scanned some of your extraordinary site - so far I think this is an exceptional site as not only do you cover the big picture in the Political Arena you also supply exceptionally useful and applicable information for personal contexts. I have begun to notice the way the big picture issues are frequently replications of domestic type interactions - if we could, on mass, encourage proper functional relations in the family by effective education with adequate supports in place, in relation to parenting need/realities, being an unrecognised ‘special needs species’, we could have a significant grass roots improvement – the hierarchy is another problem and can only be buffered as we ‘The People’ gradually learn to wake up and then stand up when we realise the impact of our ‘misplaced trust’. Auckland North Island New Zealand Female 49.00 11/13/2004 22:18:03
When she is older than he, can the marriage work? Agree BS I Am nearly 18 years older than my husband. We have been together since he was barely 18 years old. I had 4 nearly grown children when we met. I might add that he was the constant pursuer of me, not me of him. We have been married 25 years in a few months. We have 3 children of our on, ages 19, 21 and 23. He has been our families only $ support for most of those years. We have had all the same problems most couples have, including money problems, fidelity issues, child based troubles (our 23 year old son has had many surgeries, and needs more, because of a congenital heart defect),you name it and we’ve experienced it. Yet we are as passionately in love now as ever. My beautiful 43 year old husband is still a very handsome man. I do look (without plastic surgery) 40ish. I just never got wrinkles anywhere for some reason. I guess that helps. Probably more it is the fact that we have always loved each other so much. I just wanted to let you know that there are some May (males) Decembers (females) out there that work, and endure through the many pitfalls of life.
San Antonio Texas United States of America Female 61.00 11/14/2004 14:48:08
Government Structures 101 Agree SH This is more of a question than a comment. I am a university student from England studying electronic engineering, and in reading your article i noticed the line: "at that time we were researching political structures based on the actions of a specific US ally claiming to be a democracy."

I wondered if this referred to England? To be honest i don't know much about politics, which is why i was reading the article.

I looked at “The 14 Defining Characteristics Of Fascism” and in my experience none of them really seemed applicable. (Point one, For example, powerful nationalism. I quite like living in England, but i don't have any kind of fanatical devotion to it and nor does anyone I've ever met. About the only time i ever see an England flag is when there's an international soccer game.)

As i said i don't know much about politics and essentially i wanted to know. If it is England referred to in the quote above. Would you be able to give me any examples of how any of these 14 characteristics apply?		 Guildford Surrey England Male 18.00 11/16/2004 14:44:07
Fascism Against AP 11/17/04
Allen Perrin
1601 15th St SE
Ruskin, FL 33570
(813) 645-0452
aperrin@tampabay.rr.com



Dear Ms. Laura Dawn Lewis:

I read with interest your recent essay on fascism, but was disturbed by the general theme of the piece, and thought I’d just send you a quick note about it. From both an historical standpoint, and from a current one, I think you’ve made some conclusions that really go against the preponderance of objective facts.

Primarily, you really must not let your obvious bitter disappointment with the results of the 2004 election overwhelm your abilities to reason, and think clearly. The United States is not a fascist state. It never has been, and never will be. You talk at length about Nazi Germany, but I really wonder if your emotions have led you to make a comparison that is truly unfair, and invalid. Read a little more on fascism, and the true roots of its rise, and fall, and I think you’ll see clearly that George W. Bush is not a Hitler.

Sincerely Yours:
Allen Perrin

Ruskin FL USA Male 51.00 11/17/2004 12:16:45
Christopher Grant Murray....(All) Neutral J L My name is Jeff Lamb....I am a friend of Chris..we
went to school together and spent much of our teenage years together...I have lost contact with him for about 10 years..If you have any idea how to contact him,PLEASE send him my E-mail address
I am certain he would be very greatfull....as far as I can Tell he has not been seen sence 2003.this is my only link...I am in Bellevue,Wa(crossroads area) staying at a friends on 156th ave. n.e. 1616...apt 137.(this is a private address so please do not publish)only for Chris to see....if he no longer has contact with this site,please let me know,these are all articles dated back to 2002.		 bellevue washington U.S.A. Male 29.00 11/20/2004 10:19:42
ZombieWire RFID news Agree jm I read all about the RFID homeless and more RFID news. Thye are in the middleon RFID problems and solutions, go see at http://www.zombiewire.com and have a great days network, :) san diego ca USA BABY Male 40.00 11/21/2004 7:10:04
Bush's Government fulfills the 14 points of Fascism Agree GE I have this same thought a long time ago. I believed that we are living in a fascist regime and what most scares me is the fact that the majority of the Americans do not want to recognize the symptoms. In a false demostration of "patriotism" and "moral values", they voted Bush four more years in the White House at the expenses of our economy and the youth of America dying in Iraq, not to free the Iraquies but to secure the oil for the ruling elite.
It is disgusting to claim patriotism when we prefer murder and imperialism to give rights to those than because they feel they lived in a free society, they can choose who to marry. I am a heterosexual woman and happily married and although I do not like the idea that 2 people of the same sex marry, I am in favor of protecting their rights of partnership with a civil union. Furthermore, it is so hypocritical to claim, that we respect the santity of marriage when we have one of highest rates of divorce and when we know that women abuse at the hands of their husbands is highter than ever.		 Kenner Louisiana United States Female 38.00 11/21/2004 9:43:47
What is Fascism Against MA I knew from the start of this article what the ending comments would look like. I just knew it. It´s so predictable: liberal, socialist and secular humanist propaganda.
I am a political exile who escaped from a communist totalitarian regime. I saw family members and friends put in prison for no other reason than refusing to be part of a despotic totalitarian regime that, without even a trial, incarcerated or killed by execution squads all who dared to speak against it or refused to submit to its arbitrary demands. This horrendous regimes (based on the same Secular Humanistic worldview that serves as the foundation for the worldview of the socialists in the US), where all freedoms we enjoy in America are suspended, and where culture, society and the economy are systematically destroyed by the Marxist elite in power, who uses the media as a propagandistic and brainwashing tool and the specialized military police for repression, have killed tens of millions of people since the first quarter of the 20th Century, and still do.
You and your twisted view of the world and your appeasing whimpering and socialist-communist garbage can make any decent human being sick! All spoiled and pampered left wing (socialist) like you should be taken down from their ivory towers and sent to a communist country, like Cuba, not as tourists, but to live with the regular population for one year, without the benefit of the US dollar. I can assure you all will be cured forever from the stupidity of their socialistic and anti American ideologies. Then again, perhaps their ideological cancer is so terminal that no amount of cubatherapy or any other anti socialist treatment will ever be enough to save them. If you believe the problem is this country, then, move to Canada, France or Germany. If the United States of America is so horrendous to you and has become a fascist state, if you hate it so much that you agree with the socialists in this country who are proposing a stupid (communist) theory of doing away with the Electoral College and of secession of the blue states from the “poor and stupid” red states, why stay and be miserable, get out. Nobody is holding you back! In the mean time, know this: people like me, who love this country and really appreciate the freedom it has given millions here and around the world, will stay to make sure that the “Land of the Free” does not become the land of the godless, amoral, and humanistic socialists slaves.
Mike

USA Male 45.00 11/23/2004 12:43:27
What is Fascism Agree DC I thought your article on Fascism excellent. I've been looking for the word -- name -- for where the US is going so fast. Your article describes it.
I particularly like the Warning Signs and 14 Characteristics. We can compare them with here-and-now and the match is plain to see. I also applaud your low-key style on a troubling topic and its implications for a country that once stood for a wonderful idea and ideal. And could again if enough of us engage in the battle.
Two other responses were striking: they look like fearful generalities (not one example to support a point) delivered with disdain.
These are interesting times. 		Morristown New Jersey USA Female 58.00 11/25/2004 20:37:54
Web page error Against MN There is a grammar error on the followinf page: http://www.couplescompany.com/Advice/Whaling/

The "Your" should br a "You":

How to Figure Out if "Your" are Settling in Your Relationship		 Minneapolis MN USA Male 22.00 11/30/2004 18:14:14
Please Send User Name Agree S R I joined the Couples Club last night and still have not been sent a user name. Could you please e-mail me a user name soon? (Or can I pick my own user name or change an assigned name to one of my own choice?) Floyd VA USA Female 56.00 12/1/2004 14:48:31
Illegal Agree na I agree with the dude that agree's. That's fine if they come into the u.s., the more the merrier, but they need to be treated like u.s. citizens and they need to pay taxes and not just sit on their buts all day while my dad's out their busting his but to pay for my house hold.My family is a single income family and where doing great, we don't need to pay for anyone!!!! Concord North Carolina U.S. Female 14.00 12/2/2004 9:35:58
Type Title Here Agree SM I have not read any of the stories but I have read the information about PAS by Dr Richard A Gardner, After reading the information I was very suprised. I am going through a custody battle with my husband and he fits the description of the obsessed alienator everthing it tells you he has done. I am in desprate need and would be grateful for someone to give me advise on how to deal with this and get this information to the right people before it is too late.

Thank you for your co-operation in this matter

Sharon		 London London England Female 41.00 12/3/2004 6:08:01
Wrong Date Neutral RW In your Hanukkah "store" you state that Hanukkah starts on November 30 this year. PLEASE GET YOUR FACTS STRAIGHT. Hanukkah, as any calendar will tell you, doesn't start until December 7 this year! I can hardly trust buying a Hanukkah present from your company if you can't even get the dates correct. Rochester New York United States Female 32.00 12/3/2004 15:06:58
What a Man Really Wants Agree CM At my workplace there is a smart guy whom I can't figure out. He is sometimes nice and sometimes just acts plain brusque and abrupt. He told me he doesn't care what people think.

Just wondering if the man wants validation why does he act like a tough guy. Isn't this like letting people see that he doesn't need anybody to validate him? I would guess that his past experiences have some part in his attitude.		 Sydney NSW Australia Female 42.00 12/6/2004 1:29:38
POOPOO Agree TYU I like it Albany New York United States Male 23.00 12/13/2004 15:41:24
What is Fascism Neutral AP I just finished a university course on fascism and I found your article to be quite interesting, but it did seem to be tailored to fit a preconceived notion of the United States becoming a fascist state. I have two objections to the way in which the 14 points and the article were presented.
1) Nazi Germany is not the archetype of a fascist state. Fascism as an idea originated in France and was first applied in Mussolini's Italy. Nazi Germany was a National Socialist state.
2) The foundation of your 14 points is flawed. In defining fascism you have to go to where it started, in France and Italy, and come up with a clear definition from there. Instead you have labeled several countries as fascist, picked out their similarities, and presented those similarities as the defining aspects of fascism. This is not proper historical method, and it looks like you are trying to prove something, namely that the United States under Bush is fascist.
Having said all that, most of your points are correct, and I agree that America certainly seems to be heading toward fascism.
Incidently, the 7 points that we learned in class for defining fascism were:
1. anti-liberal, anti-feminist
2. ultra-nationalistic (self sacrifice), state=nation
3. physical coercion (state-sponsored violence)
4. militarization of society
5. emotions (as a guide for policy making; anti-intellectual)
6. sense of harmony
7. totalitarianism (absolute refusal to legitimize dissent)
Two other aspects of fascism are racism and social progression.
Thank you for your time.		 Victoria BC Canada Male 22.00 12/13/2004 18:47:44
        HuiZhou City GuangDong china Male 26.00 12/14/2004 0:13:38
healthy relationship Agree ars healthy relationship keep mind fresh and free. Rawalpindi punjab Pakistan Male 51.00 12/15/2004 6:35:16
Type Title Here Agree ab I really don't how to start this e-mail off, but I need help on a marriage that I don't get my onself. I don't think that my husband don't know how to be a husband. He never has been around any men that stuck in a marriage with there wives.He cheated on me several times, and I'm the crazy one wanting this to work out. I don't know why. I'm not going to take is adultry act, but I need someone to teach my husband how to be a man not a player. Greensboo NC United States Female 27.00 12/16/2004 12:11:08
What is Fascism Against MC I thought your article was quite good up to a point. I think villifying Rush Limbaugh and the Bush Administration in both the articles and the responses really undercuts your credibility. What reads as a very well thought out and informative article just disentigrates at the end. I will not label you as many of the dissenters did, but I find the overall tone of the end of the article and the responses to be quite paranoid. The beautiful thing about this nation is that that no person may be president for more than eight years. I am a staunch President Bush supporter, and I do not consider myself or the president a fascist, nor do I think the United States of America is becoming a fascist country. If you think all of the warning signs and characteristics in your article dominate the American Political and Economic landscape today, how can you even continue to live here? As far as the credibility of the article goes, you blew it. St. Louis Missouri The Fascist One (USA) Male 31.00 12/17/2004 12:28:22
Thinking about adultery Agree LL I came upon your website because a week ago a married man told me he had feelings for me and he really wanted to be with me, but we both agreed nothing can happen cause he is married. That is the good thing. I have feelings for him also and the whole situation is a big bummer. We were out with a bunch of people from work and him and I hung all night long and I had a wonderful time, until he told me how he felt and we ended the evening, by saying to one another nothing could ever happen. This article shed some light on this situation and hopefully I will be ok and so will he. Marysville oh usa Female 39.00 12/18/2004 9:40:52
overall website Agree SE i happened upon your web address thru the Daily OM, which i love to recieve...it was an article about couples yoga. my husband and i have been going thru some rough times lately, and i thought that would be a great way to get back in tune with one another. i noticed your web address and decided to check it out, and i think that the website is great. the articles are interesting and give great info to couples who want to grow together and make their relationship last through all the hardships that life has to offer. i know that i will continue to visit this site, as well as, tell all my girl- friends about it! just wanted to give credit where credit is due :) Mansfield OH USA Female 24.00 12/18/2004 14:58:19
Fascism Agree KM Ive known this guy in office has been running a Fascist organisation for years. Its good to know that there are others who reealize the truth about our government. Im not a conspiracy theorist but Im a fairly intelligent American who sees whats going on and I absolutely hate it. Wellsville Ohio USA Male 50.00 12/19/2004 13:00:03
Articles by Richard Oxman Neutral RO I have been submitting articles to Laura at couplescompany@comcast.net regularly...and now my emails are being "returned." What's up? And...are you still running my political column Take Action? Los Gatos CA USA Male 62.00 12/22/2004 9:13:43
How about Mexico? Neutral DV By looking at all of your 14 points, it seems the Mexicans are a bunch of fascists too. Any thoughts? Las Vegas NV USA Male 32.00 12/22/2004 19:25:55
Type Title Here Agree PR Because of Christmas I wish you the wisdom of the wise men from the east, who admired Jesus in Bethlehem. If "technology answers prayers" the technology can become a god with strange results.
Dr. Ericsson mailed me for a debate about sex-selection, but "not on emotions," which is strange, for pregnancies are full of emotions. Can you arrange our meeting before American television? I subscribe what rabbi Jacobovitsch of the U.K. wrote about IVF. Whom of you too? I wish you a merry Christmas and a happy new year

Peter Roos, M.D. 		Leeuwarden Friesland Netherlands Male 54.00 12/25/2004 5:03:44
Thinking about committing adultery? Agree TW I am in a relationship with a married man. It started only two months ago. He's from overseas and yes, we are planning our future together now. He has been in an unahppy marriage for some years now with no children. He pursued me from the outset and has been very upfront about where this is leading to and how it will happen.

Having said that however, I do not condone adulterous relationships but by the same token I do not believe everything in life is black and white. Many young couples I know are marrying for every other reason than true love and then wonder why they start wanting to pursue relationships outside the marriage. My advice to all, marry the one you can't live without & make sure they feel the same way about you. Never take your spouse for granted - avoid speaking to them dismissively and do things together.

As for anyone considering getting involved in relationship with a married person, realise that it brings a lot of heartache, misery and pain (not to mention shame). I'm not with my beloved this Christmas nor will we be together New Year. I do believe in him though and I know for a fact he is exiting his relationship with his wife. However, having said that, if I don't see further progress in the next three months, then I'll be leaving him.

Hong Kong Hong Kong Hong Kong Female 30.00 12/26/2004 13:35:04
Patriotic Songs Against JJ "America the Beautiful" is the only song on your list that does not promote war or phony patriotism. I'm surprised to see this on this site.
How about "Masters of War" or "Anthem"?
Laguna Hills CA USA Female 55.00 12/29/2004 2:54:19
The Placebo Syndrome Agree RB Wow! Finally an explanation. I just kept thinking, "how odd". I've been dating someone heavily for 2 months (I'm smitten) and they've broken up with me 3 times out of the blue. I just found out they ended a 2.5 year relationship only 2 weeks prior. I kept hearing inappropriate anger and criticism. "That's not my stuff" or "But I'm not that person." were common refrains. East Alton IL US Female 42.00 12/29/2004 17:43:45
Politics section Agree mw Dear Ms. Laura Dawn Lewis:

You claim to be a conservative but you seem pretty reasonable, perhaps even liberal, to me.

I'm glad I found your website which was linked through Wikipedia, the online encyclopedia's article on facism.

I also hope you aren't insulted by me suggesting that you may be a liberal-I don't intend it as an insult but rather as a compliment.

One of my definitions of a liberal is someone who recognizes the complexity of reality. Too many self-professed conservatives, including our present commander-in-chief get glassy eyed at any mention of the term complex.

Anyway, I think I'll be visiting your thoughful website again in the future, even if you insist that you are conservative.		 Fairbanks AK USA Male 54.00 12/31/2004 18:35:10
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all Against pvk yet another site catering for the poor weak woman,so howe come its allways men how commit suicide when their marrage ends,usual bullshit,women get the house, kids, new cock, canterbury kent england Male 55.00 1/4/2005 11:53:29
Propaganda vs. Persuasion Agree RD "many will be infuriated. Infuriation toward differing presentations of facts"; unfortunately this holds all too true. Very well written. I am saddened to think how many good people have bought in to the propaganda. I'm not sure how to change this alarming trend. Raleigh NC USA Male 40.00 1/4/2005 19:44:27
What is Fascism Neutral JS Fine article about fascism, but I think where you say "Though a dictatorship is the most common association with fascism, a democracy or republic can also be fascist when it strays away from its tenants of sovereignty," what you meant to say is TENETS, not TENANTS. Tenets are the principles on which a belief or theory is based, and *tenants* are people who pay rent to use or occupy land, a building, or other property owned by another. You can see the contrasting definitions here: http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=tenants&r=67 and http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=tenets&r=67. Just copy and paste those into your browser. Have a nice day. Henderson Nevada USA Female 25.00 1/5/2005 9:03:10
About fascism Agree OD Thanks for that splendid piece of knowledge about fascism. It makes me worry to think that the United States, the only military superpower, actualy has many of the characteristics of a fascist state. As many people around the world, I have the perception of the USA as a hostile, imperial bully. Your excellent paper has increased my concerns. Distrito Federal Distrito Federal Mexico Male 38.00 1/10/2005 7:02:02
Mistakes Singles Make Agree MM Hi, I was googling the name Ali Borzomati, she's a gal I went to high school with in Maryland in the 80's, and I haven't been able to locate her at all. Then, I cam upon your site, and I checked some stuff out on it... it's way cool. Thanks for the free tips, and advice. You ROCK!
So, if there's any chance you know Ali, and it's the same person I am looking for, would you please forward my email, so we can re connect. :-) Much appreciated.
Michelle Manian (Zubin)		 San Diego California USA Female 37.00 1/11/2005 13:02:33
commiting adultery Agree js I am currently in a relationship with a married man. I am falling in love with him and I am pulling him away from his children..can you please send me information on how to deal with this???
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Haverhill, ma 01832		 haverhill ma us Female 49.00 1/11/2005 14:08:46
Is He Commitment Phobic... or is it me? Against DM I think what you wrote to Sarah was wrong. She did not say that she spends her days with him depressed. She simply said that the subject of his non-commitment is making her depressed. As for wanting more after 3 years thats common. However, you made it sound like it was her fault that she could not get this man or should we say boy to commit. Yes, it is a boy that cannot be responsible for making a 3 year relationship into more. If he cannot go beyond dating this woman then he needs to let her go to find someone that can give her what she needs. Commitment phobic individuals need to be responsible for the years that they have asked another to invest their attentions and love into them. It is a selfish act of not completely giving to a person that has completely given to you.
Rocklin CA US Female 48.00 1/11/2005 14:23:50
fascism Agree tm Very good article. Although I see evidence of the 14 definitions of fascism present in the U.S, I wonder if these definitions are nation wide.. or just the seeds of fascism being encouraged by the media, keeping the population confused and misinformed. When can we truly say a nation is fascist? When does it cross the line
from a democratic republic to a totalitarian state? Is there a line? Without understanding a little bit of world history and the political spectrum,people will never know.This understanding is not something Americans are known for, I'm sorry to say.		 Paris Ontario Canada Male 43.00 1/11/2005 15:06:57
ten reasons not to date a married man Agree rr I WOULD LIKE TO SAY IT'S SAD THAT A WOMAN WOULD TURN TO A MARRIED MAN.THERES NO BENEFITS FOR HER. I MADE A BIG MISTAKE. I WORK AT A BIG HOTEL AND THE WOMEN THERE ARE FREE WITH THERE SELF. AND MADE IT WELL KNOWN WITH THE MEN THERE. MARRIED OR NOT, THIS WOMAN THAT WORKS THERE WITH ME CAME ON TO ME VERY STRONG. SHE CAME TO THIS HOTEL ABOUT 3 YRS AGO. AND WAS GOING WITH A ASST/ GENERAL MANAGER AT THE TIME. SO PEOPLE THERE NEW WHAT FIND OF WOMAN SHE WAS.ANY WAY I AM SO SORRY THAT I HAD ANY THING TO DO WITH THIS WOMAN. SHE HAS MADE MY LIFE LIVING HELL. THE FIRST TIME SHE SAW MY WIFE I THINK SHE WANTED MY WIFE TO KNOW WANT WAS GOING ON BETWEEN US. WE WAS AT A WEDDING AND THIS ***** HUNG ON TO ME IN FRONT OF MY WIFE. MY WIFE WAS VERY UPSET AND ASK TO LEAVE.AND ASK ME WHY SHE WAS HANGING ON TO ME AS IF SHE WAS MY WIFE. I TOLD HER THE TRUTH. AND TRYED TO TELL HER THAT I DIDN'T WANT THIS WOMAN AND SHE DIDN'T MEAN ANY THING TO ME. MY WIFE IS A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN AND NO ONE COULD EVER TAKE HER PLACE. I LOVE MY WIFE WITH ALL MY HEART. AND THE ONLY REASON THIS HAPPEN WAS BECAUSE I NEVER THOUGHT MY WIFE WOULD FIND OUT. BUT SHE DID AND I'M SO SORRY THAT THIS HAPPEN. I DON'T WANT THIS WOMAN AND NEVER HAVE, BUT SHE THINKS THAT I DO. I TOLD HER THAT I WASN'T EVER LEAVING MY WIFE AND THAT I LOVED HER, BUT THIS CRAZY WOMAN WILL NOT LEAVE ME ALONE.MY WIFE AND I ARE COMING TO MOVE TO ANOTHER STATE JUST TO GER RID OF HER.SHE HAS BEEN A BIG PEST.AND A BIG TURNOFF.WHEN I SEE HER I GET SICK AT MY STOMACH.KNOWING WHAT HAPPEN BETWEEN US. ATLANTA GA U.S.A. Male 54.00 1/13/2005 15:32:48
wiring our homeless Against d r who is running this country stalin i think its satinatic to track people.for what reason its not a crime to be pennyless why dont they start with the very rich first and work their way down to the paupers and see how far it will go with the rich.russia in the good us.ofa something very wrong hell hell hell Male 70.00 1/14/2005 7:05:32
Why Men Use Porn Against BP
Well written article but I'm afraid it yields the floor to porn as a relatively healthy practive. I think it is very important to realize that porno is essentially a destructive influence in a man's life. I speak as a man of experience.

As a man, I will certainly agree that we are visually oriented. And a wise wife will leverage that to her advantage by filling the eyes of her husband with plenty of female topography--her own!

As couples we should seek to fullfill each other's distinct gender-based sexual needs. A man thrives on visual--wives put on a show for him. Husbands, wives thrive on voice, touch, emotion/mental ... so men, become an artist in that area. You'll have hotter sex than you can imagine and it will bless your emotions as well.

The problem with porn is that plays directly into a man's desire to gratify self ... he becomes absorbed in women as sex objects for his pleasure. Of course, this thinking is diametrically oppposite of what the wife needs in terms of selfless affection from the man. So it sets up horrible conflict and frustration. The women will get turned off of by his selfish and increasingly outlandish sex antics and withdraw.

Then, the man will become more sexually starved and emotionally alienated from his wife and himself and start looking elsewhere--quite indiscriminately since he's in "predator" mode.

Ironically, if a man will "give himself away" to please a woman ... reach out to fill her emotional spaces ... he will be rewarded with very enthusiastic access to her physical spaces.

I would end by saying the words of Jesus--about keeping a pure heart--are possible ONLY when one has been born again through faith in Jesus Christ and has the Holy Spirit resident in their heart.

I can assure you, that no man without the Holy Spirit in his life will be able to long live a pure life in this wanton culture. It's hard enough when you're a dedicated Christian. Hope this helps. Anyone who would like to email me for more info regarding the above is welcome to do so.

Remember, porn is not part of a solution in marriage ... it is the doorway to the worst kind of problems. And it CAN be purged from a man's life even when he's indulged in it for many years. Take hope my friends!		 Dallas TX USA Male 49.00 1/14/2005 8:28:18
wiring The Homeless Against LCW Wiring the homeless is WRONG. This is the worse case of discrimination! Not to mention cruel!
What is wrong with our Nation? We need to be helping these people, not wiring them. How much money sent over seas to help others????Well, WAKE UP AMERICA! We have people right here in the Good Ole USA that need your help.
Some just want a chance (a job) so that they can feed themselves. Is anyone helping them with a job? NO Is anyone helping them with shelter NO Is anyone feeding them NO. Come on let's get real and help these people. Where are all the Hollywood people when our own AMERICSANS need food?
It's sick! Help the homeless, don't brand them!
By the way Hollywood....Our American soldiers are coming home (I hope and pray) and they are going to need jobs, and lots of doctors to heal from all that they have gone through and seen. Will you be there then? Will you make sure they get a pay raise? How about a job? Or are you going to let them be homeless and wire them?
While I am at it. Can anyone really live on the low wages being paid now? Get real! Rent or house payment alone will take every cent of it.
God Bless each and everyone..
Linda		 West Columbia SC USA Female 57.00 1/14/2005 9:13:03
Logan's Run 2004 Agree KP Do you by chance have a link to the UPI story? I have no doubt that the story is true, but my friends don't think this will ever happen. I haven't been able to find a mention on any other credible news source. I'd welcome a link to the orignal article if possible.

Thanks in advance! 		Cleveland OH USA Female 42.00 1/14/2005 11:04:15
RFID Chips Agree fm I think this article should be forwarded to President Bush. I think he just said that you can't be an effective President without serving God. This is taking away our freedoms and this is certainly against God. Its a prelude to the coming of the Antichrist. Chicago IL USA Female 53.00 1/14/2005 18:12:44
Type Title HereLogan's Run 2004 Agree lb and before too, too long, we won't be able to get any food from the super market unless we have a microchip!!!!! watertown Connecticut U.S.A. Female 60.00 1/14/2005 18:55:01
Wiring Our Homeless Agree MA I was heartsick at reading this article. I can't understand why people are so blind. No one seems to see this as becoming reality and people think I'm nuts when I mention it. Digital Angel is very busy pushing their agenda down America's throat and we're to self absorbed to see it. Caledonia WI USA Female 45.00 1/14/2005 22:45:59
Logans Run Agree EV Can you site your resources: government offices such as the HHS, News resources such as NYT CNN or other mainstream media. It would be nice to site such resources to make this information convincing to others: should this be true. Pueblo CO USof A Male 48.00 1/15/2005 10:20:05
Logans Run Neutral EV Can you site reputable resources: Government agencies such as HHS and mainstream media resources such as the NYT, Boston Globe, CNN, AP, UPI etc. It would be nice to site such sources to make this topic believable to others. Pueblo CO US of A Male 48.00 1/15/2005 10:23:32
Wiring the Homeless Agree CW This is scary. I like my anonymity. Without it, we cannot feel free to critique the government and the evils of this world. This story reminds me of an episode of Sliders, where you had to buy things using something under your skin to credit purchases. It also recorded when you entered and exited a building. Also, in Revelations there is something about the mark of the beast. A movie used this as a premise. Citizens were suppossed to be marked with a tatoo and only some hold out Christians went without one. These people were effectively banned from things and could be tried and killed for being against this. But this article sure does make you think that this may not be fiction for long.
I don't have a problem with swiping a card at McDonalds and Culvers, you can still use paper money. I was comfortable with using cards for everything if we had to in the future. Now I am very uncomfortable with it. Because if the chips in the arms fail, how far is it to see them make paper money useless and then secretly put these chips into cards that everyone must carry to make purchases?		 Central Illinois USA Female 29.00 1/16/2005 13:24:19
Adultry Agree WH This is a response to Dr. C's comments about personal happiness being the only yardstick by which to conduct our behavior.

"It makes me happy!" Those four words are just about the WORST yardstick by which to conduct your life. Think about it, Dr. C. Many people's notion of happiness amounts to being purely narcissistic, selfish and self-indulgent. I'm sure it made Hitler very "happy" to exterminate millions of people during WWWII. Seriel killer and rapist Ted Bundy was "happy" to kidnap and kill more than 35 women. I realize these are extreme examples, but you see my point. Or, let's take Woody Allen, who broke Mia Farrow's heart by having an affair (and subsequent marrige) to Mia's adopted daughter. Woody was quoted as saying: "The heart doesn't know from logic: it wants what it wants." How unbelievable immature and selfish. Spare me from a world (not to mention a man) who lives his life this way.

Happiness doesn't just come from what makes you "feel" good: especially when what makes you "feel good" hurts and humiliates others. The true measure of happiness lies in living a good and honorable life, in caring for others and doing the right thing, no matter how difficult. That's not to say a person has to lose himself or be so self-sacrificing as to destroy his own spirit. The key is not just finding the right person to love, it's being the right person and understanding what commitment really means. 		Lansing MI USA Female 50.00 1/16/2005 14:20:53
Adultry Agree WH This is a response to Dr. C's comments about personal happiness being the only yardstick by which to conduct our behavior.

"It makes me happy!" Those four words are just about the WORST yardstick by which to conduct your life. Think about it, Dr. C. Many people's notion of happiness amounts to being purely narcissistic, selfish and self-indulgent. I'm sure it made Hitler very "happy" to exterminate millions of people during WWWII. Seriel killer and rapist Ted Bundy was "happy" to kidnap and kill more than 35 women. I realize these are extreme examples, but you see my point. Or, let's take Woody Allen, who broke Mia Farrow's heart by having an affair (and subsequent marrige) to Mia's adopted daughter. Woody was quoted as saying: "The heart doesn't know from logic: it wants what it wants." How unbelievably immature and selfish. Spare me from a world (not to mention a man) who lives his life this way.

Happiness doesn't just come from what makes you "feel good" -- especially when what makes you "feel good" hurts and humiliates others. The true measure of happiness lies in living a good and honorable life, in caring for others and doing the right thing, no matter how difficult. Making yourself "happy" by Dr. C's definition is easy to do. Doing the right thing almost never is.

That's not to say a person has to lose himself or be so self-sacrificing as to destroy his own spirit. The key is not just finding the right person to love, it's being the right person and understanding what commitment really means. Unfortunately, most people today have no idea: they think commitment means staying in a relationship only as long as they feel "in love" or until they meet someone they like better. Commitment is more than a feeling, it's an action. Remember wedding vows: "In sickness and in health, for better or worse, for richer or poorer until DEATH do you part?" Making a commitment is the realization of those words.

And why would anyone want to have an affair with, or be married to, someone who didn't have the heart and strength of character to live up to that? 		Lansing MI USA Female 50.00 1/16/2005 14:26:28
having an affair Neutral am i have been having affair with a married man 20 years older for 14 years and i have just ended the affair, it never got me anywhere he told me he loved me but there was always an excuse and my heart is broken and it really hurts the first few years it was when his kids were grown then it was he has too much to loose which he does have a few dollars to loose, but you cant put a price on love, i am a true romantic its a shame he took advantage of my age i was 22 when we started and i told him how i felt especially at the end letter after letter but not once did he tell me this has got to end it has gotten out of hand. how can a man be so cold but say he loves me? lost river West Virginia usa Female 36.00 1/16/2005 20:38:25
Implanted chips Neutral mm Has anyone beside myself linked the "preferred customer cards" we use at the grocery stores with a form of tracking ones shopping habits? I no longer use mine. I will apply for another card in a different name :-) and a fke address! Tray NJ usa Male 30.00 1/18/2005 6:47:35
Thinking of Commiting Adultry? Neutral AC I don't really have a comment on the article, it's more like a question. I was "the other woman" for two years with a man that was in a serious relationship, though not married. Eventually, everything went sour and the truth came out. I have had no contact with this man since. However, I am full of guilt, and it's almost been 3 years. I desperately want to send this man's partner a letter to apologize, to recognize my own selfishness, and sincere sorrow for the part that I played in her experiencing pain. I expect nothing in return - but for months I have felt like I need to do this- then on the other hand I feel that neither of them need to be reminded about what happened- they are still together and I don't want to cause problems. What should I Do? Framingham MA USA Female 33.00 1/20/2005 12:59:18
Wiring our homeless Agree FB Big brother has arrived and things will just get more and more like the famous book, "1984". Unbelieveable as I thought what fantasy when I had to read that book years ago in high school. Since I am a local government employee I imagine it will just be a matter of time before they say that in the interest of security I will have to get a RFID as well. The terrorists have won, we are a nation so scared we will trade all of our liberties away for security. Clermont Florida US Male 37.00 1/22/2005 19:08:32
Narcissium Agree JLS I am going through a divorce. I found out my husband was having an affair while I was pregnant. Of course everything is my fault. I've been going to counseling for years. My husband went a few times years ago. My counselor dx'd him with NPD. After reading article I completely agree Visalia California USA Female 43.00 1/23/2005 20:04:22
yoga for couples Agree rm I have been teaching partner yoga for 5 months in a suburb of Pittsburgh. The attendance is now close to the studio floorspace maximum so I would have to say it is a big success.

Double downdog is one of the most popular poses.

I am considering another class at a different studio. So far my attendance has been exclusively couples. Any tips on how to promote partner yoga to singles?

Namaste- Rick Miller 		Cranberry Twp PA USA Male 55.00 1/25/2005 1:22:47
4 Stages of Grief Agree AH Thank you so much, this article has given me some direction in my loss and right when i read it i felt in control of my emotions. I have it under my favorites and will come back to it when Im down and lonely, thank you!<3 Atlanta Ga USA Male 23.00 1/25/2005 14:51:30
Type Title Here Agree JS I have noticed that where Congress convenes (on Capitol Hill) there is the symbol of the fascist, the fasces axes, on either side of where the Speaker of the House sits. On the Senate Seal the two symbols are crossed representing "Axis". Why is this symbol of dictatorship rule, the same method used by Hitler, Mussolini, and others during WWII, the same symbol that was on the back of our (American Currency) Mercury dime in the 40's at the same time we were attacking Hitler? Why have we held on to such oppresive symbolism? If we do it to remind us that in many there is strength, then it has been misconstrued, because the fascist symbol first used in Rome(the origin) it still meant "dictatorsiph rule". So please respond why is it there. San Francisco CA USA Male 19.00 1/28/2005 1:16:00
What is Fascism Agree CT I agree with this article on all points. I'd happily argue with anyone who says any of this is not true. America is in trouble and I dont think even the Democratic party will be able to turn things around. I served in the military, I've been a good student of history of the world and how we have ended up where we are today. One of the problems is that people that come to this country and become citizens know more about American politics and history of our country than most of those who were born and raised here. My own wife who is smarter than me in a lot of things knows little of our history or what formed the political structure of our current world. One of the big things that I see is the lack of emphasis on understanding our country. The system focuses you on math and english and science and entertainment. And even those subjects are not pushed hard enough. They convince the public that standardized testing helps when in fact it's a way to set the public to certain education levels acceptible to the ruling elite. They sell you college claiming it will provide a future while they sell your jobs overseas to the lowest bidder refocusing the wealth to the top 1% slowly smothering the middle class. Corporate wealth and influence determines our election outcomes at the upper levels. While Deomcrats heroically gathered a lot of grassroots money to fight against it will it hold out as our income shrinks.

There's a lot more out there that's going wrong. I may have only touched on 5% of it.		 Flower Mound TX USA Male 26.00 1/29/2005 21:14:25
What is Fascism Agree JG I generally agree with your article. The fourteen characteristics of fascism are indeed apparant in fascist regimes if not the United States and Israel. However I have noted that these characteristics are indeed apparent in America, if not to the same intensity as a true fascist regime. Thus I conclude that while we are not yet a fascist nation we are dangerously close. However I disagree with you on Israel being behind the 9/11 attacks. Yes, Israel acts heavy handed, at best, when dealing with Palistinians and non-Orthodox Jews; Yes, Israel, like America, exhibits most, if not all, of the fourteen characteristics of fascism. But it does not deserve to be called the (and I quote) "world's foremost supplier of white slavery, ecstasy, state funded abortions, pornography, identity theft and web based scams, state sponsered torture, and the Middle East capital of homosexuality." Most of these accusations (the world's foremost supplier of white slavery, pornography, and state sponsored torture) are totally unsubstantiated lies which you either a) made up or b) heard from some Nazi guru in liberal clothing. And as for being the Middle East capital of homosexuality, I don't know for certain but I'm pretty sure that Israel doesn't punish homosexuality with beheading or stoning (and I'm not certain if homosexuality is punished there at all), so it came out on top in homosexuals in one of the most homophobic regions on Earth, newsflash...that isn't a very big accomplishment. Oh and by the way, you say that the Talmud should be ignored. Yet you do not realize that the Talmud, the oral traditions of the Jewish people, are part of the 613 mitzvot and thus cannot be ignored by Orthodox Jews, (and Conservative and Reform Jews to a lesser and much lesser extent, respectivly) the major, without risking a one-way trip to Gehenna (Hell). But you, as a Lutheran, would not no this and that is why I, as a Jew, must explain this to you. Just when I thought I had found a rational conservative (a breed I had thought non existant or, more recently, extremely rare) and you start spouting more nonsense the Mein Kampf.

But aside from you extreme criticism of Israel, you've got your facts straight. And for the record I consider Israel to be a perversion of Adoni's duty for us to perform as the chosen people (that duty being to exist in every nation on the planet and fight totalitarianism with every fiber of our being) and it would not have a single redeeming feature if it were not a democracy (in theory if not always in practice) and a lifeboat for a respectable faith and culture that has been wrongly persecuted throughout history. 		Durham NC USA Male 16.00 1/30/2005 18:33:27
Relationship Neutral JF Hello there my name is Josh Figgs and I am a Casting Director who is looking for dynamic couples for a brand new Lifetime documentary style reality show. I am writing to find out if you have an email database/advertising opportunities that we could discuss. Please get back to me as soon as possible please.
THANKS		 Hollywood CA USA Male 25.00 2/2/2005 17:46:59
Wiring our Homeless Neutral KM I keep seeing references to the "UPI" story but I never see a link to the story. If it is so legit then where is the actual article?

I do believe that they want to use these RFID chips nation wide but I also want real info and not made up info.

I have searched google and the HHS website and I have found nothing. The only stories I find about this implanting RFID in the homeless comes from blogs, forums and socalled internet news sites.

Please.. if there is a link to the actual article of government paper.. please post the link.


Thank you,

KM		 Tacoma WA USA Male 42.00 2/7/2005 13:28:20
What is Fascism Agree USW CRISIS...corporations are still continuing enthroned under the Bush administration at this current time: Tue Feb 08 16:34:33 2005

WHEREAS, there's a USA 1 extravagant CEO and high-profiled, corporate roller (President George W. Bush) continuing with distorted values: swearing at liberty on a bible for enthroned corporations/new king; misusing and abusing police power; following the gospel of the corporate gods serving mammon in such a manner that the police powers of the states are abridged or construed to allow corporations to conduct their business so as to establish inequality, dominate ordinary people, and infringe the equal rights of individuals or the general well being of the states; spending the people's capital left and right to keep corporations enthroned; causing a state of social insecurity promoting too much legislation on a fast track more for the benefit of big business; destroying the republic by outsourcing manufacturing jobs; and breeding war.

Sincerely,
uswolfwatchers
http://www.uswolfwatchers.com		 Boise Idaho USA Female 78.00 2/8/2005 15:55:24
The 14 Defining Characteristics of Fascism Against MS This is more of the usual liberal/socialist propaganda. While researching fascism, I found most of the articles quite informative and factual; however, it is so obvious that this "doctor" is just the typical anti-Bush propagandist. Houston Texas USA Female 45.00 2/9/2005 14:20:47
Type Title Here Against BH As I read your article it became more and more clear of your ideological leaning. Problem is anyone with an education can mold and shape facts to fit their agenda and find examples to back up their point. (Michael Moore) Second problem with people like you is that you have no real world experience dealing with what you think you know. Your are removed from reality and live in theory surround by like minded people who never challenge your ideas and reinforce your corrupt way of thinking. Comparing Bush to Hitler just shows your absolute hatred and disrespect for our president and you lack of rational thought, not patriotism. Is it not enough to point out what you do not agree with but to compare him with one of the world's most evil men? In doing so you have proven your bias and lack of intellectual honesty. You just can't stand that this man is our President and you will write and say anything to bring him down. I don't remember and single liberal reminding us that it was patriotic to question and challenge Bill Clinton or his admisistration. But now that's not helpful to your cause. Is it? Get out of your shell, open your eyes and mind, question why someone wants you to believe anything and make up your own mind. Just because your "Well educated" doesn't mean that you are right or that the people who educated you weren't pushing there own version of the truth. Are you a product of their propaganda? Tulsa Oklahoma USA!!! Male 28.00 2/9/2005 14:25:39
Top 25 Romantic Movies Against KS Obviously, your reviewer really did not watch Beauty and the Beast. Otherwise, the reviewer would have known that Jerry Orbach's character is not Pierre. It is Lumiere (The Candelabra .. French - lumière means “light”). Auburn Maine USA Male 40.00 2/10/2005 9:06:51
What is Fascism Agree MO To the point and succinct. Your article certainly reflects what we have been seeing in the United States. It is most unfortunate to see such a great country take such a horrible turn. Upstate New York US Female 49.00 2/13/2005 21:37:41
enquiry Agree DA I enjoyed the articles but would love to buy the book lasting longer. Iam newly married but new in UK. havent got a credit card. advise on how I can pay to get the book. London tottenham England Male 32.00 2/17/2005 9:31:57
10 reasons not to date a married man Neutral JS I am a divorced woman dating a married man for about 8 months. We have a great but difficult relationship because of his marriage. He has substantial assets so he is "planning" things out to leave. (Agree with rule to set a time limit but in your own mind - never tell the man or he will say you are giving him an ultimatum) He and wife are roomates more than husband and wife. I believe him to a point but as I write this - he is away with his son and wife on a couples weekend. This is the time when you realize you are second best. It is not a good feeling. This is one more reason not to date a married man. Rockland MA USA Female 34.00 2/19/2005 17:31:27
4 stages of grief Agree MW This was excellent. I went exactly through those stages after my breakup a year ago with a man (we'd been together for 3 years). Im now in the beginning part of the last stage and its reaffriming to know what i went through is common, normal, and okay. It is especially comforting to know im close to the end. Thank you so much for teh encouragement! San Diego California USA Female 23.00 2/21/2005 13:14:14
Illegals Cost of Educating s money Agree n a I think that it is a joke that the white people of this country complaine about anything. You people do not even belong here! Go back to europe where you belong! Go back to England! You murdered, raped, stole, cheated, and everything else that belongs in the evil category to live in this land and know you want to act like you people are so holy? Please, who do you think you are fooling? To much time has passed by and everyone sees you people for who you are. This is not your country! Never was, never will be. You are terrorists and always will be. You will never find peace in this country because of the way you gained it. People will blow you all away from the inside out. People will get smart and make your lives a living hell untill you go back to europe! dont worry about it none of your bus from where me and my people always came from what the whites call north america Male 200.00 3/3/2005 7:40:48
PAS Billboards tonight on Houston WB39 Agree JJ Thought you may be interested in this story ..

from www.helpstoppas.com

Billboards in area hope to raise awareness of parent alienation

The billboards are paid for by friends of Dr. Rick Lohstroh.
ABC13 Eyewitness News
(02/15/05 - HOUSTON) — New billboards in Houston are a reminder of the tragic death of a Katy surgeon allegedly shot and killed by his own 10-year-old son.



Some psychiatrists believe what's unofficially known as "Parental Alienation Syndrome" may have led to Dr. Rick Lohstroh's murder last August. His 10-year-old son is still in juvenile custody.

Parental Alienation Syndrome, or PAS, is when a bitter parent poisons a child against the other parent, usually in cases of divorce. Now, several of Lohstroh's friends have placed billboards on Westheimer in west Houston and in Midtown.

The caption reads: "Don't turn your kids against their mommy or daddy."

They are hoping to raise awareness about PAS. But it is still not recognized as a formal disorder by the American Psychiatric Association.
(Copyright © 2005, KTRK-TV)		 Friendswood Texas USA Female 35.00 3/6/2005 1:07:46
illegal immigrant education Against AM Ive noticed a significant difference in grammar and level of diction when comparing those opposed to immigrants in the school systems and those who favor it. If you're going to complain about immigration causing deterioration in the public school system, why dont you get an education yourself? Its pathetic seeing school teachers, mothers, etc. who think immigrants that don't speak english are a burdain on society, yet who can't even construct a simple sentence correctly. Get educated on the damn issue, then come back with a halfway respectible opinion, and maybe then you won't sound like a dumb white biggot complaining on the basis of racial prejudice, posing as an educated, thoughtful "american." - - - VA US Male 18.00 3/7/2005 11:53:38
Why Men Use Porn Agree NM Hi Laura,

I just finished reading your article "Why Men Use Porn" and it just fascinated me. About two or three weeks ago, I found some amateur sex pictures on my boyfriend's computer (we've been together for almost a year now). Initially, I was disappointed because I always felt like I was enough for him sexually (I pride myself in being awesome in bed), so I was insulted. We had a fight over it but then I thought about it...

I've looked at porn myself, and I've also masturbated to it but I look at it in a different way than what he was telling me. When he explained the situation to me, he said that, while he could masturbate just fine without looking at anything, it tends to be easier for him to focus on an act. I didn't get it. When I've looked at porn, I close my eyes and create a whole fantasy with dialogue and a scenario and everything. He doesn't.

He told me that it had nothing to do with the way the women looked in the porn, it was about what they were doing. It clicked in my head because what we do in bed is usually very porn-like, and believe me, I'm a-okay with it (i'm one of those unconventional sexual women who is sick of the missionary position).

Eventually, he asked me if we could watch porn together sometimes and I said it would be great. I've tried to explain this way of male thinking to my female friends, but they refuse to believe the men don't think of the women the way we think they do.

I just wanna say thanks for adding to my reassurance. :)

-Norma		 Los Angeles CA United States Female 21.00 3/7/2005 19:54:48
4 stages of grief Agree PM Your website was so positive and practical. I am experiencing week two of losing someone I loved with all of my heart. For everyone else out there with a broken heart, you are not alone. I think that time, God, and your advice will heal all wounds. Greenville NC USA Female 35.00 3/9/2005 15:47:25
Fascism Against CB I think that your attacks on fascism are unwarrented. Pure fascism is an evil type of government. However, refine fascism in such a way that most but not all of the power is put on one person and it could be quite sucessful. Keep in mind that just like pure capitolism, which allows for child labor and monopolies, only unrefined fascism is evil Omaha Nebraska United States Male 14.00 3/19/2005 8:26:08
What is Fascism Agree PS LDL:

I am a h.s. teacher, and I couldn't agree with you more on what you are saying about the things that are happening in the USA. I am sure glad I got my new home before July 04'. Let me know of any books I can read that will help fully understand what is happening, and what I can do on my part to help change the negative direction the USA is going.

True Replubic/Ideal Democracy
PS		 Phoenix Arizona USA Male 40.00 3/20/2005 18:15:12
Rachel Corrie: Definition of a true American Hero Against STM If you consider Rachel Corrie a "True American Hero" then you have absolutely no clue of what it takes to be a hero. Here we have a young woman that drank the liberal Kool Aid until it poisoned her brain into liberal oblivion. She forsake her country and took up with terrorists who see their sole mission in life to destroy Israel. The Palestinians want a free state of their own but at the same time want to deny Israel of the same thing. The stupidity of and nearsigtedness of these people defies description.

A "True American Hero" does not burn her OWN flag in a foreign "country". A heretic and expatriated scumbag does. A true American Hero does not denounce her President and accuse him of war crimes in front of foreign terrorists.

You want to read about a True American Hero? Read about US Marine 1stSgt Brad Kasal.

http://www.blackfive.net/main/2005/02/brad_kasal_a_us.html

He knows what it takes to be a real hero. Not a terrorist "martyr". Loyalty, integrity, honor, commitment to duty. Corrie could not even spell any of these, let along practice them.

Maybe you should back off from the Kool Aid as well. It appears it too has skewed your perspective away from the real world.		 Pensacola FL USA Male 46.00 3/21/2005 9:04:05
Cost of Educating Agree SAL I strongly disagree with the funding that the US tax payers are spending to support illegal immigrants. When my parents pay into the tax system for public schools and public facilities, they are doing so with the implied reasoning that these services will be used for and by the citizines of the United States. Another reason my parents and I pay taxes is for border control in California and Texas. If we dd not want to keep these people from crossing our borders why would be have border control? The illegal immigrants that live in this country with children deserrve no right to our services. The true people that suffer are the children as usual, but they have the right to go through the process of becoming a citizine along with there parents.
I am a 19 year old that has been given all the opportunity in the world to succeed and have come to the realization that the reason I have been so fortunate is my forefathers worked their asses off to get me to this country and have gone through the process. Who the hell do these immigrants think they are coming into this country thinking they deserve the same opportunity as somebody that has established themselves in the US community. How dare them take advantage of the US society like that. I live in California and the most startleing statistic that I saw was that californian's spend 2 billion on illegal immigrantion education. That 2 billion deserves to go to the students who pay into the tax system. The California school system is screwed up as it is. Maybe because of the illegal immigrants. Hey Arnald why don't you spend at least 1 billion on border control and the another 1 billion on education and then tell me how far ahead we are then the other states in the US and maybe the world.
Irvine California United States Male 19.00 3/21/2005 23:34:11
Placebo Syndrome Against JED According to programs that successfully treat this behavior, approximately 20-30% of practicing homosexuals fall into this category. Through therapy they are able to return to regular, normal and fulfilling heterosexual relationships and lives).

Hi,

Where do you get these percentages? I'd like you to back this up. I've never heard anything like this. I don't doubt some people experiment with homosexuality that are heterosexual or more aptly bisexual. In fact, most people have same sex experiences as children or adolescents. It's all a part of growing up.

As a gay man, I have met maybe one woman who would date back and forth - men and women. I'm not sure who she ended up with. It was a long time ago in college (15 years). However, I always thought of her as heterosexual or just SEXUAL period.

The statement I copied above worries me. I feel it encourages a view that homosexuality is a choice. For me it is not. It is as innate as my masculinity. You are opening a can of worms that could hurt people even more. A disclaimer should be offered. I realize this is an overview but what you are saying can't be brushed over.

I'm disappointed. I got a lot out of your Four stages of Grief article. The Placebo Syndrome is helpful also. I just don't think you are representing a fair and balanced opinion.

I anticipate your response. Thanks for your time!		 Los Angeles CA USA Male 35.00 3/23/2005 9:24:28
HYPOCONDRIA *Treatment is Available* Neutral SMC This is more of a question than a comment. I hope that someone will answer.

I have done some research on hypocondria and I am now relatively sure that this isn't what my girlfriend has. However, I need to know if there is any sort of a disorder slightly more mild and possibly related to depression.

My girlfriend is the only person I have ever encountered who has gotten "sick" 3 times in one flu season. Someone please correct me if I am wrong, but I didn't think that was possible.

It seems that it starts with a stuffy nose or scratchy throught. Then she starts talking about how she hopes she isn't getting "sick again".

The next morning she's a big bag of sniffles and coughs and overly dramatic breathing through her mouth to avoid breathing through her nose. She will also get nauseous frequently, which I have never personally experienced with a series of cold like symptoms. She cries and whines and whimpers endlessly when she's "sick".

She will usually lay in bed and feel "sick" for a few days. Then she will take several following days for the symptoms to vanish.

I have tried tricking her into believing that it's just the pollen in the air down here in FL that she's not acclimated to since moving from MD. Needless to say that isn't working.

I am no psychiatrist, but i would be more than willing to listen to anyone's suggestions on how to approach her about this without offending her.

Thank You,
Shane

Jacksonville FL USA Male 21.00 3/26/2005 9:49:42
Why does it hurt? Against Dr The person who was questioning you about the pain was obviously asking why the needling is so painful. You basically said that the person doing the needling was a hack. This may be true but it is most likely the case that the patient is being needled in the neck; you should know that posterior neck points are really quite painful and you should have said so. I vehemently dislike your superior attitude, the fact is that DO's sold their own disease treatment methods out to gain a little power. Now because you have a Chinese looking face you think you know TCM. Rochester MI USA Male 45.00 3/27/2005 14:17:09
Gays, Lesbians, Tolerance: Schools and Children Against AM I understand the concern of parents lacking control over their children's education and morality, and I can understand the argument that children under 14 are not well developed enough. However, this whole line of reasoning seems like a veiled attempt to prevent an open discussion within society. The most disturbing point of the whole argument was the description of homosexuals as a special interests group...because by labeling homosexuals as that, would not the African Americans, and Jews, and any other minority be a special interest? Doesn't that argument ring of fascism? This defense of traditional child-rearing by a nuclear Christian family seems unreasonable in a supposedly enlightened era. If you don't want your kids learning secular humanist values, then send them to a private school, or home school them...if you have the time, energy, and luxury to worry that your kids are being recruited into "gay America" then you have the time, energy and luxury to find an alternative. These people complain about the whining of minorities (people who are reacting to a condition they are subjected to by our society), but they themselves are whining about a condition they are subjected to by our society...and that is hypocritcal...Defensive, reactionary words vieled as a defense of family rights.

I agree you have the right to say these things, but then you have to agree that I have the right to call bullshit, bullshit.		 Northfield Vermont USA Male 18.00 3/28/2005 19:31:16
What is Fascism? Agree PB Before 2004 I always associated any possibility of fascism in America with the miniscule cliques of neo-nazis and Klansmen. Under our noses, Britt's fourteen characteristics of fascism went from miniscule (Doesn't every country honor its patriotic symbols? Isn't there some admiration for the military? Isn't there a little corruption everywhere? Isn't there some effort by Big Business to get political influence? Isn't there some residual inequality among ethnic and religious groups even in countries with solid traditions of democracy?) to little doubt.

We don't have full-blown fascism... yet. Even the worst diseases start as minor inconveniences or irritations. We don't yet have the political assassinations, the pro-government militias, the politicized youth groups, or formal discrimination. This isn't even Mississippi in 1964, where that sort of thing mocked what most Americans believed in.

The case for electoral fraud is... possible, but not proved. But I see more likelihood of fraud (including intimidation and gross misrepresentation of the vote) in 2006 or 2008. If that happens, then the Great Experiment of 1789 of a Constitutional Republic is gone.

Paradoxically the style of the incipient dictatorship in America resembles that of a communist structure in which political power concentrates in a political party, and the formal executive and legislative branches are weakened. There is an opposition, but it is ignored in legislative practice. Then again, uniformed thugs marching down the street and mass rallies would be too obvious for Americans who know Hitler all too well and other tyrants not so well.

If I were married to a foreign national as a wife, I would not encourage her to rush an effort to get US citizenship. Citizenship in a dictatorship of any kind is worthless. We will know by the first Wednesday in November 2006 whether we have a Constitutional republic or a dictatorship.

Coldwater Michigan USA Male 49.00 4/1/2005 20:41:52
OBL Against LG Everything you read from Laura Dawn Lewis, if you read between the lines, comes down to "Jews, Jews, Jews" with their tri-lateral commission conspiracy causing all the world's problems. (read her Farienhiet 911 review)

In this latest article, the latest twist on this strange site, portrays OBL is a warm and fuzzy guy, just mis-understood.

Yes, the clear impression this website's writings gives (from it's odious weak links) is that 911 was really done by Israeli Mosad agents faking arabic accents (badly) and many Jews were warned not to go to work. That's what seems to be implied. Riiiiight.

OBL, may or may not have been key to 911, though happy to take credit. Either way, people of his ilk were. A bit of slight research would reveal that OBL first and foremost wants regime change in Saudi Arabia -- and the middle east. He seeks an Islamic Wahabist Fascist Super State in all of Middle East. As such, he wants Israel exterminated, as wekk as any Arab who doesn't follow his version of Islam.

OBL could care less about Palestinians. Ms. Lewis writes ferverently about fascism, yet can not even consider that OBL uses the Palestinians as a Propoganda tool. Unite people in hatred of commonly loathed group.

Do a net search for OBL's Manefesto written with his#2 the Egyptian doctor and published long before 911. He hates everything about the west. He hates western values and cultures and endorses that "infidels" should be slain.

He is a psychotic, religious fanatic who wants to rule the middle east, everything else is secondary.

Ms. Lewis, IMO offers weak heresay and propaganda links on her 911 film review appears to demonstrate a paranoid, jew-phobia. I am hard-pressed to find any other explaination, though I wish I could.

Yes, Bush has eroded civil rights. Yes the Republican hard right and talk radio uses nasty propaganda. But things here are not so far gone and your paranoia is mis-placed. If Isreal is dismantled, even every Jew killed or assimilated, the problems of the world won't dissapear, and you might even miss a few of the solutions. 		Los Angeles CA USA Male 41.00 4/4/2005 16:25:08
I own questions......... Neutral AS Am i able to move in with my aunt if my grandparents have temorary custody of me????
If i went to court about it would i be able to move?????????		 stevenson alabama none Female 14.00 4/5/2005 17:13:42
My own Questions Neutral AS AM I ABLE TO MOVE IN WITH MY GRANDMA IF MY GRANDPARENTS HAVE TEMPORARY CUSTODY OF ME AND HAVE HAD ME FOR LIKE 3 YEARS?????? IF I GO TO COURT WILL IT HELP ANY OR MAKE THINGS WORSE???? Stevenson Alabama N/A Female 14.00 4/5/2005 17:16:05
is he forreal Agree cl hi ...what a letter...i have been married for two years and i swear ...that is my story except for ...the money thing ....i have thought my husband was gay all along ..but he never would admit it ....i have been living with a man that does not ever come to me for sex and when i went after him...he just layed there ...he quit having sex with me as soon as we got married ...and priyer to that he was at work all the time so he had an excuse ...what does the queen mean...and also i think he treats me like his mommy and he has called me mommy ...sad to me ..i cant believe how on you are on this subject ...wow thanks you opened my eyes ...all though my instints told me right off the get go and many littles proofs i have that he is gay ...i always second guess myself...i want to move on...but im afraid...i got a appt...didnt move in it yet ...scared...im 46 and i hate to start over again....well your story is great and ...thank you for posting it ...cathy beaver falls pa usa Female 46.00 4/7/2005 8:53:50
Inter-Faith Relationship:Can it Work? Against SGH Laura Dawn Lewis told a young girl; "As a Christian, if he were to convert to Islam or any non-Christian faith, it is an action akin to a mortal sin. By doing so he denies Christ is the Messiah, (the cornerstone of his faith)."
This is so far fetched and I feel sorry ofr the young woman that Laura said this to.
Laura, you obviously know zero, nothing about Islam and you should not interject in ones life with comments such as that. Read the Qu'ran and then re-answer her. You will be surprised at what Islam says about Jesus.
Thanks
Steve Hicks		 Panama City Florida USA Male 43.00 4/7/2005 13:29:55
Targeting Teens Against TF In everything I have read so far on this plant it CLEARLY states DO NOT GIVE IT TO TEENAGERS OR UNSTABLE PEOPLE. Why would you Ever give anything like this to teenagers. Parents need to UNDERSTAND, KNOW AND EXERCISE the fact that they are in control of what their children are taking. Until they reach 18 parents are responsible for what their children watch, eat, buy with what money they are given or earn. Parents should not and should stop relying on legislature to do their job. We need to reclaim our children and our place in their lives by putting our foot down, making a stand and putting up a fight. I am a mother of 5 by the way. Mary Esther Fl USA Female 31.00 4/8/2005 23:37:47
How To Plant A Spy In A Governor's Bed Agree KM An excellent article on the McGreevy/Cipel scandal, but you missed something important. Only a few weeks before McGreevey resigned, the State of New Jersey changed it's laws on state investment in foreign securities, and made a major, and highly publicized purchase of State of Israel Bonds. This campaign to change laws in U.S. State Governments to allow the purchase of these practically worthless bonds has been quietly going on for many years. By buying these bonds, New Jersey is now not only partner in Israeli crimes, but is financially vested in Israel's future, the same way any AFL/CIO Union is. Cipel's influence in swaying McGreevey's opinion on the purchase of these bonds - it took a major campaign in the State Legislature to do it, reversing decades-old laws designed to protect state's from foreign influence - may have been the real reason that Israel placed him so close to the Governor. Milwaukee Wisconsin USA Male 49.00 4/17/2005 8:31:44
The Four Stages of Grief Agree L L The article on the Four Stages of Grief was totally on target. In fact, its the best and most helpful I found while searching the web. The advice was clear and well written. Thank you and I'll make sure to bookmark your website for future reference. Chicago IL USA Female 48.00 4/19/2005 16:39:50
Spanish Flyer - Parenting ages 0 through 24 Against AG As a bilingual parent educator and behavior therapist, I was searching for parenting resources on the web and ran across the flyer entitled "ELOGIE A SUS NI&#327;OS BIEN." The idea and philosophy is a well known scientifically based practice and the flyer is a wonderful idea however, the translation is extremely poor and even offensive in Spanish. The way some of these phrases would be translated back into English include "you're high now", "screw them they are hot" as well as things that do not make any sense. It was obvious that these were directly translated from English into Spanish without taking cultural context into consideration. I would seriously consider either removing this from your website or having it professionally translated to further avoid offending Spanish speaking families. Thank you for your attention. Baltimore MD USA Male 36.00 4/23/2005 11:34:04
Love Tactics in general Agree MD I came across this series of sites just today and I'm overwhelmed by it all thinking, what have I been doing all my life! I'm a 20 year old female, and have read the old-fashioned "Rules" but have never really stood by them strongly. There seems to be a lot of truth in them however.

I recently had a problem with a male friend of mine who I admitted to fancying which made him run a mile! After reading your articles on friendship, respect and passion, I realised that I'd lost some respect somewhere along the line. I'm determined to earn it back though and regain independence of him in a desperate attempt to renew our friendship and possible ignite some passion. I realised I'd lost that foundation though - thanks for making things so clear!		 London London UK Female 20.00 5/1/2005 14:18:08
What us Fascism? Agree PB Although every society has some traces of the earmarks of fascism, one can generally recognize when they begin to overwhelm. In the United States, those traits are well-marked. People may have had their doubts becore this year, but not now.

Fascism is, above all else, political fraud. It's a populism without humanity. It's a belief that some truths are beyond question, and that people question those supposed truths proves not so much their intellectual shakiness but instead the 'evil' of dissent.

.......

I'd like to suggest that some communist regimes, most obviously Romania under Ceausescu, fit most of the characteristics of fascism. 		Coldwater Michigan USA Male 49.00 5/1/2005 22:43:49
Salvia Divinorum targeting teens Agree CM I don't know where you've been getting your information, but I am the 'non-user' in a large group of people who take Salvia. Of the 32 people who take it one has had a 'trip' of more than six minutes and they are extremly sensitive to hallucinogen. (She had a 'trip' of nine minutes, and she hallucinates longer on sudofed.) They have coherant conversations and can tell that they rea indeed hallucinating. The closest thing we've had to a blackout was someone falling asleep. I find your article uneducated and reactionary, designed to provoke a response rather than inform. And if you say LSD and Salvia have the same level of hallucinatory effect you are crossing into out and out lying. portland maine USA Male 28.00 5/3/2005 23:42:06
when she is older... Neutral ld i am 53& for 3 yrs i have been in a relatiobship with a man who is now 27--and this article has me thinking that I am th emother and wife and he doesn't need to grow up or take care of me. he is not a slacker, he's a worker, likes to buy me gifts and make home improvements for me-but is kinda cheap-he's from Europe and still thinks he's there-no Amercian restaurants or anything I like to do--I love him-but lately I think in 10 years where will this be--he has his whole like yet to live, my time is running out not to be enjoying life now-and last week he made a comment about me being an old Italian women, as a joke but I can't move past it--we split up twice in 3 yrs and got back together-I look ten years younger then I am - and around friends and family I am ok-but in public I am just waiting for someone to call me his mother!! I'm kinda feeling I'd rather be alone at this tiume in my life and not have to deal with such emotional issues-last breakup was my idea and he was devastated-we reconciled because I really missed him, not the idea of having a boyfriend or afraid to be single-I started to like my nights free after work-anyway I'm in a pickle that's for sure-- philadelphia pa usa Female 53.00 5/5/2005 19:02:49
What a Man Really Wants Agree CM I was just going through that response from you last December 6, 2004. It is really funny coz I had time to observe the my officemate the poofed-up rooster. Yea. He is in his late 30s and I would say you're right on target regarding his behaviour. Trouble is, he is getting attached to me...and me to him. Now that's real trouble. I try to understand him. Goodness knows, he seems to think we're an item now. Help? Sydney NSW Australia Female 42.00 5/9/2005 0:59:30
Memorial Day Neutral DJ

A National Moment of Remembrance
On Memorial Day

That poem about where “poppies blow”
And, “the crosses, row on row”
Still rings true, these ninety years
After written, still brings tears.

We still have Dead, “amid the guns”
And lose our young and our loved ones
Those who lived, “short days ago”
Who, “felt dawn, saw sunset glow”.

In Flanders Fields, “the poppy red”
Still grow near where the blood was bled
They, “Take up our quarrel with the foe”
And still die for Freedoms that we know.

They pass, “The torch” to, “hold it high”
And not, “break the faith with us who die”
For they, “shall not sleep, though poppies grow”
Beneath all those, “crosses, row on row”
In Flanders Fields.

Del “Abe” Jones
4-25-2005



MEMORIAL DAY


A time for picnics, time off work
Vacations and the "Indy"
A holiday, too often times
We forget what, it should be.

A time to pay respect to those
Who rallied to the battle cry
Who gave their lives for liberty
Those freedoms for you and I.


Such a waste of brave young souls
Some still struggling through their youth
Who faced and fell willingly
Before wartimes' awful truth.

So as we share this holiday
With our friends or family
Take a moment to give thanks to
Those who died so we'd stay free.

Let us strive for world peace
For the end of greed and hate
For next time, after "the war"
It just may be too damned late.

Del "Abe" Jones







White Bluff TN USA Male 64.00 5/11/2005 8:54:29
What is Fascism Against JL "Look at the fine print in the Mortgage Applications beginning with July 2004. To get a house you must now pledge to support the "War on Terror""

I have to disagree with this statement. I recently ( April 2005) purchased a home and this was not included anywhere in the loan application or paperwork. I have all the pages in front of me now and nowhere, fine print or otherwise, is this found.

I am a history major with an emphasis in education and found this to be a thought provoking article. Overall, I thought the article explained fascism very well and gave a clear and concise definition. I don't necessarily agree with the comparison of the U.S and fascism. With the proper slant and generalization any viewpoint can be expressed and proven. By picking and chosing I am sure that I could find enough information in your articles to show you to be anything other than who you are. I feel like that is what Dr. Lawrence Britt has done with his"14 Defining Characteristics of Fascism".
The majority of the time I agree or understand your points of view, however this time I feel like the article has a slant on it. Dr. Lawrence Britt is obviously trying to make a name for himself with his Bush Bashing theories. BTW I am neither a Republican nor a Democrat. I am an independent thinker and I vote for the person not the party. Whether my vote counted for Bush, Kerry or independent (which my ballot this past election contained votes for both major parties and independents as well)has little if no bearing on my feelings and impressions of Dr. Britt.

Thank you for the fine work on this website and the thought provoking articles. Keep up the good work.		 Houston Texas United States of America Male 41.00 5/11/2005 16:09:59
You are a very confused conservative Against EC If we are a fascist nation, what does that make everybody else??? You are focusing on the U.S. instead of comparing us to the really messed up countries of the world. We are a capitalist society, and we have freedoms here that are not enjoyed in any other nation!! If you can dream it up, you can do it? Do you watch MTV? Listen to the radio? Watch the news? All these mediums consistently express contrarian, government challenging, liberal views. I don't see the U.S. military marching in and smacking them down. I see Michael Moore engaging in what would in older times treasonous and executable behavior, yet he tromps around free and clear. No secret government plot to assasinate him, no arrest or muzzling of his anti government opinions. Tell me something... did you think our government was fascist when Bill Clinton ruled for eight years? Stop twisting the truth to fit your very confused agenda. America has it's problems, and that stems from human nature. But you can't with any seriousness contend that our country isn't the most free, fair, and DEMOCRATIC country ever. And is the opposite of fascism. Hogwash! Portland Oregon USA Male 30.00 5/14/2005 7:53:39
Fascism Agree aj Thank you for your thoughtful and well-researched piece on fascism.

Those who do not learn from the mistakes of history are doomed to repeat them.

Obviously, America is no Nazi Germany, and that's not what Ms. Lewis is saying.

She is presenting to us -- for our edification -- the characteristics of fascism. Anyone who keeps up with the news can see that at least half of the characteristics also apply - in a far, far, less extreme way than Nazi Germany -- to recent trends in American politics:

The thing to do is to thank Ms. Lewis for bringing it to our attention, and if you're *truly* patriotic, do something to counter it NOW, before things get out of hand. Read the articles + some history books + think about what the woman is writing. Don't let those knees jerk!

Off the very top of my head:

1. Disdain for the recognition of human rights: The current administration's stated disregard for the Geneva Convention - the oldest(?) and preiously inviolate (at least officialy) human rights treaty currently entered into by the United States clearly falls into this category.

2. Identification of enemies\scapegoats as unifying cause: First it was Saddam, then Bin Laden, now Al Quaeda. At home we have seen politicians try to make labels like 'anti-religion'and'unpatriotic' stick to groups that disagree with them about ANYTHING.

3. Rampant Sexism: You've got a president who proposed an amendment to the hallowed Constitution of the United States of America that would forbid gays to marry. In our times, not wanting to recognize gay marriage is anyone's choice. But to amend one of our guiding documents to forbid it is extreme. Especially when there is a goodly percentage of people in this land think that we should recognize gay marriage.

4. Controlled mass media: recent hard crackdowns on radio announcers, janet jackson's left boob, etc. plus the fact that you NEVER see/hear a story first on TV -- it's always the internet where you see it first -- is a fairly clear indication of controlled mass media. Jeff Gannon is an indication that the white house is looking for someone to portray it in a 'positive' light rather than in a strictly truthful light. (they let him have a press pass vs. a pulitzer prize winning journalist)

5. Obsession with National Security: Two words:
Homeland Security

6.Corporate power is protected: Two words: Kyoto
Treaty

7. Disdain for intellectuals and the arts: Some party line politicians are lobbying hard to put more controls on public tv/radio -- this will turn public radio/tv from the last bastion of American intellectualism/arts into another cog in the controlled mass media machine(see above.)

OK that's seven...I'll leave Ms. Lewis to explain the rest in what I hope is an emminent follow-up article.

Amber J.







Barrow AK USA Female 33.00 5/14/2005 11:14:49
Best Romantic Comedies for Couples Against JH in reviewing There's SOmething About Mary, you say "Matt Damon is delightfully slimy as the voyeuristic private detective"-- it is not Matt Damon, but Matt Dillon. Just a typo, but since it is in your #1 pick, you should fix it. East Liverpool OH USA Male 44.00 5/17/2005 10:12:35
A Woman's Point of View Against NS I think your article is b.s. Allowing men to fantasize about other women is unacceptable. It's not something inevitable I have to deal with and I won't. I strongly feel it is wrong. I don't care about the mumbo, jumbo "it's normal and all guys do it". Marriage and relationships contain a special bond of intimacy and integrity that are in no way supported by pornography! Coopersburg PA USA Female 24.00 5/17/2005 13:07:08
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Fishing ... Agree SC Loved that article on letting out more line when the fish resists. I will take that to heart and repeat as often as necessary, because I was also one of those who let the fish's fight discourage me into giving up. Thanks for the boost. =) Canada Female 5/26/2005 20:05:33
Fascism Against JS Although you claim that the U.S. falls under all 14 categories and 7 warning signs, who concocted this formula? Just because a "Dr." came up with these ideas doesn't make them true. It is very easy for one to tailor a set of qualifications to current standards.
I disagree that we meet all of the listed "standards." What instability is there in having one of the strongest GDPs in the world? Most countries invest in our market because of our stability.
By the way, what group is so hated? Are people so hated that they risk their lives to get here?
Organized propaganda? Seriously? The U.S.? The same place that has the red states tuning into Rush and the blue into abc, or cbs? We could be more divided politically now than in any time in our nations history save the Civil War and our nation’s founding. We have journalists coming out left and right with unsupported stories that vilify our nation and President, and what is done to them? Squelched….I think not!
Let’s move on to the characteristics. The scapegoats as a unifying cause is comical. Not to be rude, but are you even serious about this one? I can’t think of a more divided political debate than the War on Terror? This country is so split down the middle on this one that people become violent even talking about it. If you want to call the first gulf war a unifying cause, then I would agree that the country was unified, but that was in the early nineties. I must go on because this one could go on forever.
I think you would be hard pressed to find a country in the world that isn’t politically male dominated. This is a fact of life but ever changing. The U.S. has taken greater strides than most with so many female and minority cabinet positions and in the House/Senate.
See above for controlled media.
Are we not supposed to be weary of our national security after 3000 U.S. citizens were killed? Turn on even the “liberal” news and one can witness a sea of people chanting anti-American slogans stating that they will kill us as they burn our flag. Couldn't they do it again?
Disdain for intellectuals and the arts is also flawed. First, it’s not uncommon for people to have disdain for and disagree with people that have different ideas of any kind. Second, as for the arts…we have 1st Amendment rights that, unlike any other country, guarantee freedom of speech. Art will usually not be supported that is found to be obscene, but is that really so bad? Should then anything and everything be allowed under the term “art”? I despise the concept of big government, but even I admit that some regulations are necessary.
Your argument is flawed if one wasn't met, and more than 1 wasn't met. Also, what evidence is there that any elections have been stolen here in the U.S.? That's more of an accusation than a fact.
One can make this same weak argument for any nation in the world. 		Las Vegas NV USA Male 28.00 5/28/2005 0:15:47
How Do You Know You Are Being Spun? Agree cb This article is fabulous!! I am a college professor and will be using this article with my students. I want all 3 parts. Please put me on your email list to receive Parts 2 & 3. Las Cruces New Mexico USA Female 60.00 5/28/2005 12:35:52
Fascist Schmascist Against crh Just when I began to see credibility and hope in some of the articles on this Web Site, alas, I find "What is Fascism." Monroe Louisiana U.S.A. Male 56.00 5/31/2005 14:21:54
Contributing articles Agree JS Could you please let me know - how to submit an article on couplescompany. I would like to submit an article written by Kenneth A. Sprang.

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Bethesda MD USA Male 40.00 6/3/2005 6:11:19
Is Israel an American Value Against SR Love your pitiful racist attack on the Jews. Do you think your readers are ignoramuses who will buy into your dredging up old anti semetic slogans? How stupid do you think we are? Do you think that we don't know the difference between a Nazi ghetto wall which kept Jews in in order to exterminate them and the wall the Israelis are building that keep the terrorist Palestinians from committing further atrocities like bus bombings, cafe bombings, pizza parlor bombings, market bombings? Did the Jews bomb the germans? And I just loved that anti jewish biblical statement you concluded your article with. Don't you know that most Christians no longer adhere to your anti semetic diatribes? Arlington VA usa Male 37.00 6/3/2005 10:12:25
Is Israel an American Value? Agree hf As I speak with some people about the unfluence of Israel in the U.S. I realize more and more people in our country are become more aware of this strange support for Israel. I love this article specially with the clear comparison with what Nazi Germany did to Jews and what they are now doing to the arabs. This is a must read article for those preocupied for American. SAN PEDRO NO HONDURAS Male 34.00 6/3/2005 10:38:35
Israel Agree MCW israel - a ball & chain around our necks Billings Montana USA Male 84.00 6/3/2005 11:59:04
Israel is American Value Agree RSS Thank you for taking a stand on this most important issue. I will be forwarding your article to many people.

It seems that no matter what dire problem faces our country and, in fact, the world these godless Israe-lies are at the center of the scam, lie and/or deception.

Thanx,

RSS		 Panama City Fla USA Male 56.00 6/3/2005 12:13:48
Is Israel an American value Agree KMF I'm glad that "normal" people are starting to agree with me. Thanks. Boston MA USA Female 34.00 6/3/2005 19:39:55
Peter Pan or Responsible Man Against RA One of the statements in your article stood out as very clearly incorrect; the opinion that men often become better loking with age, while women age faster. Just take a walk through any supermarket or mall and look at the older couples. Usually, the man is so much more broken down than their wives. Many of these couples have been married for a very long time and it is very unusual to see a woman who looks older than her husband. Most men have a tendency to think that they look a lot better than they do, yet seem to hold the female to unreasonable standards of appearance and sexuality. We can thank our advertising media for this indoctrination. A relationship between an older woman and a younger man should not be any different than an older man/younger woman. It is our culture that somehow sees every woman over 40 as someone's "mother". We are the only species on the planet that has to be concerned about the age of our mate. With all else that is involved in a relationship, if the partnership is good, hold on to it. Often these relations are some of the best and it has nothing to do with "Peter Pan", mothering, or any other misconception. Orlando FL USA Female 66.00 6/4/2005 7:08:50
Israel Agree ph Dear Laura,
Thank you for the excellent article on
Israel and Zionism.These truths need to be
publized everywhere.Amerians must waken from
the deep sleep we have been in far too long.
Thank you and God bless you.
Pauline C. Hull		 Pittsburgh Pa U.S, A, Female 72.00 6/4/2005 12:04:34
Naz- Zionism Agree JG Obviously Ms. Lewis you have some screws loose in your brain. Palestinians kill Israeli's either with guns or suicide bombs. The Jews of Europe did neither to the Nazis. Thank you for the misguided information, but stick to marriage problems as you know little about the Middle East. Cordelena Idaho USA Male 50.00 6/4/2005 13:41:51
AMERICAN VALUES ???? Agree JC DEMOCRACY COURTESY I-MC USA.
PARADOXICALLY WHEREVER WORLDLY ARMED CONFLICT ARISES PREDICABLY THE SPECTRE OF UNCLE SAM MATERIALISES.		 Blackheath NSW Australia Male 74.00 6/4/2005 15:06:55
Israel an American Value Agree KS Wonderful article--exact, true and exposing Milledgeville Georgia us Male 54.00 6/5/2005 19:41:17
Political Expose's Agree dc Thank you, thank you, thank you for your expose's of govt corruption!! You might like to add a couple of excellent videos/dvd's on 911 to your sales list. Eric Hufschmidt's book/video "Painful Deceptions" and Anthony Hilder's "911 The Greatest Lie Ever Sold". Eric's (business)ph # is 1-805-968-5123. Contact Anthony through his site www.freeworldalliance.com Also, millionaire Jimmy Walter has a great site www.reopen911.org and he is doing a great job getting true info out including full-page ads in NY Times, etc. and a new DVD "911-Confronting the Evidence". Thanks again!!! dave san diego ca USA-what's left of it Male 52.00 6/7/2005 1:20:48
Is Israel and American value ? Agree CL Since the dawn of history the jews are traitors they are homeless people, they always look for a prosperous country to suck its blood, they did it with Egypt, the jews lived in Egypt happily and in peace , they sucked the blood of the hospitable and generous Egyptians, then when the Zionists created Israel, they betrayed Egypt (Read about the Lavon affair)-
The same happened since the Great Pharaos.
Now they are occupying the land of the Palestinians that do not belong to them, I read some say " Palestinians kill Israeli's either with guns or suicide bombs." I answer yes, of couse they are fighting for their freedom defending their land against the occupier give them planes and rockets and tanks and helicopters and they will use it like the Isralis do!! what do you expect them to do against Israeli Jews who are killing little Arab boys and girls ???( History repeats itself the jewish king Herod was killing all the infants, this is what made jesus to escape to Egypt )
Now they are sucking the blood of America,and the Americans and the day will come when they will betray America...		 Cairo Zam Egypt Male 46.00 6/7/2005 6:52:28
Is Israel an American Value Agree rc Totally agree. Will we ever be free of this Zionist parasite of pervert fascistic chosen that are destroying America, entrenched in higher offices at at the Executive level on down to the local levels. Most are socialist or communistist traitors, the smarter ones know it's just a tool for slavery like they used in Russia and China. PS. The Israelis' started it, as usual, then go run behind their slave America when someone wants to hit back. Israel was nothing but a Zionist timebomb put in place by the Illuminati inbread blue bloods to initiate their long ago plan of Orwellian Zionist based slave system. REAL jews won't touch Israel or it's agendas of death. Suffern CT USA Male 46.00 6/8/2005 4:56:06
Citizenship Republic Against RJ Laura stated: "Add another element with personal involvement and individual say and the country slides toward democracy."

I would first like to say that a citizen republic can exist with an increased level of individual participation by the citiznes.

I will also suggest that the troubles we face today are the direct result of individuals relinquishing their personal responsibility to a few people who have abused that authority. The only way to reverse this process is to increase the exercising of personal responsibility at all levels. People exercising their personal responsibility within a responsible and fair process does not automatically destroy the rule of law as the article suggests.

I will conclude this note by suggesting a careful look at the recently introduced technology found at www.1062.org that assists in enabling individual responsibility.		 Byron Bay NSW Australia Male 55.00 6/8/2005 14:15:40
Dr. Mark's response to Porn Widow Against LS Dr Mark's response did not include any help for the wife. First, the response, basically, was if she were more receptive to his feelings, he might not look at porn as frequently. It's horrible to blame that on the wife. Her husband's actions are making her feel inadequate as a woman, less sexy, and now she's consumed with the thought that her husband is constantly imagining other women when they make love. I do not think anyone should have to feel that pain constantly. Shouldn't one woman that you love and care about be enough? Why do men think they can view other men's wife's and daughters? Why do they think they have that right?
Sympathetic of Porn Widow		 Fayetteville North Carolina United States Female 26.00 6/8/2005 20:22:42
Terrific Article Agree RH An abosolutely fantastic bit of writing; you are really a diamond in the rough. Incredibly courageous too, as for an American to criticise Israel or Jewish groups is a more likely to destroy you personally and professionally than being convicted as a pedophile. I only wish other American writers were one tenth as brave and informed as you; but tragically most are content for Washington to be Israeli Occupied Territory as long as they are comfortable themselves. London Greater London United Kingdom Male 39.00 6/9/2005 9:23:42
What is fascism Agree RH In a response to someone who disagreed with you (I believe you were accused of being a secular humanist), you wrote this:” I’m Wisconsin Synod Lutheran, fundamental and very steadfast in my faith. I follow Christ”

I have to ask you what you meant by that? As it has always been taught to me by the Bible and by every church I have attended (non-denominational churches), a Christian is someone who is born-again, believes that Jesus is God in the flesh; that he was conceived by the Holy Spirit, via immaculate conception; that he was crucified and that he died for our sins; that he is resurrected; that he is the only way; and most importantly, that in order to inherit the kingdom of heaven, you must ask him for forgiveness and pledge him as your personal savior.

The Bible says that unless you meet all of those requirements, you are not a Christian. Now, I don’t know if you are or not, but on your site there is a mockery of Psalm 23, entitled “Psalm 2003.” No Christian I know would post such a blasphemy based on such a treasured verse.

I also disagree with the critiques on George Bush’s “Christianhood.” While I cannot look into his heart and see if his profession of faith is genuine, he has to date never minced words as to what his beliefs are. He has always humbly and respectfully proclaimed what he believes. The Bible says that we should not be ashamed of the gospel and that if we deny Jesus before men, he will deny us before The Father.

Bush is, and has proven himself to be, both a Christian and follower of Christ.
Richfield MN US Male 26.00 6/9/2005 11:03:40
Single and 30 Agree CM I thought this article was truly a blessing for me to read. I am approaching 29 over the course of the next few months and have often had most, if not all, of the same thoughts. I believe that marriage does not make you a better person and that there are no such thing as a "better half". Thank you so much for standing up and clarifying that women who are in their late 20s and early 30s are not spinsters and maidens but rather smart, intelligent, funny, sexy women who have not yet met their equal half. That being said, the lady from Montgomery who claims that she was lucky to be married because she got married at 26.....seems a little bitter and she is in fact the one who probably wished she had as many eye-opening experiences. I don't think just because you have dated many people it means you have slept with them all! And even she did, Ms. Montgomery should not be jealous cuz that is exactly what it sounds like. After all, why is she so concerned seeing as how she is so lucky to be married at 26??? Hmmm, I wonder. Toronto Ontario Canada Female 28.00 6/9/2005 13:11:42
Israel is an American Value? Agree DJT I believe you made a key typo:

"Israel should have exploited the repression of the demonstrations in China, when world attention focused on that country, to carry out mass explosions among the Arabs of the territories."

Benjamin Netanyahu former Prime Minister of Israel, November 24 1989

Shouldn't that say "mass EXPULSIONS?"		 New York NY USA Male 38.00 6/9/2005 17:20:44
Educating the Illegals Against DGV I can't believe that any body would be for Illegal imigration into the USA. Look at the hospitals in Ca. that are closing down because of all the Illegals coming accross the boarders. I read where 84 hospitals are closing down there.
tp://www.theamericanresistance.com/articles/art2005mar13.html And then how about the deseases they are bringing in with them. Look at all of the crime that they are bringing in. How as a USA citizen could you ever be for Illegal alians coming into our country. Especially when we are at war and fighting someone else that would like to cut all of our heads off. WOW this country is getting to be sick!tp://www.couplescompany.com/Features/Politics/schoolbudgets.htm check these two sites out and then tell me you are for them coming into our country....wake up people!		 Vancouver WA USA Male 56.00 6/10/2005 8:34:50
Illegal Aliens Agree DGV Male South Amby, New Jersey you are right on. I just can't see unless they are married to an illegal alien or they are an illegal alien why they would be for them coming over here to distroy our home land. After all the hard work building our country to let some illegal aliens come in and cause all kind of havic I just can't believe that there is people out there that is that stupid. Or maybe I should say that have such deep mentle sickness! Vancouver WA USA Male 56.00 6/10/2005 8:47:55
What is Fascism? Agree JW Hello,

These ideas have been floating around in my head for some time now; all of the thoughts you put up were relevant, but I did not realize that they were all intertwined so neatly.

Thank you for shedding some light on my inability to put 2+2+2+2+2+2+2+2+2+2+2+2+2 together and equal fascism.

Largely, I cannot say that you are wrong, but I cannot exactly say you are right; not yet at least. The pieces are in place, now it is what might happen to stir them to action.

Thank you, also, for informing the masses in a time where information received is comments returned in extremes. I fear that our government has destroyed the 'gray area' of society; and that we now live in a black and white world.

There are more things afoul as well lately; have you seen that the Patriot Act is being *expanded*? That brought many, many alarms to my skull. I believe you just might be right about these times a coming; though I do not wish to try to attempt to overthrow.

I am a man suited for information and the channeling of, not war and reformation; that is not my place =( If it were in my spirit to do so, I would, but I am afraid that I cannot. I wish to be the voice of the people, and I cannot do this whilst being detained or put to death for being an 'enemy of the state,' 'drug dealer,' 'child pornographer,' or any other concotion that this nation could throw against me if it so chose.

As always,
The Firgof		 [Undisclosed] TX USA Male 0.00 6/11/2005 1:17:15
What is Fascism Against JK I thought you might be interested in knowing that there's a nine page discussion about this article here: http://forum.protestwarrior.com/viewtopic.php?t=38560&postdays=0&postorder=asc&start=0

I've cut this from what's probably the most astute commentary there:

As I said, most of them are either common to totalitarianism in general or don't fit with the regimes supposedly under discussion.Starting from the beginning:

Quote:
"1 Powerful and continuing expressions of nationalism. From the prominent displays of flags and bunting to the ubiquitous lapel pins, the fervor to show patriotic nationalism, both on the part of the regime itself and of citizens caught up in its frenzy, was always obvious. Catchy slogans, pride in the military, and demands for unity were common themes in expressing this nationalism. It was usually coupled with a suspicion of things foreign that often bordered on xenophobia."


Common to many totalitarian regimes. Look at Asian strains of communism,all of them are staunch nationalists as well as being doctrinaire Marxist-Leninists. Tito used nationalism when the Comintern was trying to kill him. Despite what some on the left would say,nationalism is not limited to any end of the political spectrum.In fact,I would say that nationalism has been by far the most potent 'ism' of the 20th century.

Quote:
"2 Disdain for the importance of human rights. The regimes themselves viewed human rights as of little value and a hindrance to realizing the objectives of the ruling elite. Through clever use of propaganda, the population was brought to accept these human rights abuses by marginalizing, even demonizing, those being targeted. When abuse was egregious, the tactic was to use secrecy, denial, and disinformation."


Ditto.

You're explaining here that human rights violations are common in totalitarian dictatorships. Well color me shocked.

Part two follows
Who wants to know? Male 18.00 6/12/2005 0:43:10
Thinking about Committing Adultery? Neutral LM While I do agree with the statements in the article for the most part, there are some things not mentioned. What if the two people agree that it is only fun? Not everyone is looking for committment in their lives. There are a lot of unhappy married couples in this world. There are many reasons why they stay in bad marriages. Some people just want to find a little happiness wherever they can. If two adults agree to have some fun and enjoy each other, then both can benefit. Yes it is wrong and yes it is a sin. So is a lot of things people do every day. Some people can handle this type of relationship and others can not. For those who can, it is two consenting adults finding some form of happiness in this world. No it doesn't make it right, but let those without sin cast the first stone. Rainsville Alabama United States Female 45.00 6/13/2005 22:23:31
Couples Yoga Neutral LE You might wish to check out Mishabae's website at BalanceArts.com. Her books on partner yoga and her DVD are so much better than anything else on the market today.

Lee		 Naches WA USA Male 55.00 7/17/2005 14:25:15
What is Fascism? Agree ms Patriotic Correctness...militarism...red-neck mentality..."Red America"....FASCISM.

You hit it on the head. America has become a fascist state. Any time you think like a fascist, you become a fascist. Its not somehow "AOK" to think like a fascist but because you are an American somehow you are NOT a fascist when you think the mother/father figure government is always right and the individual is always wrong. The U.S. military has had a fascist culture for decades and is the direct cause for us not being able to defend America. Details:

www.combatreform.com/weakcodependentarmy.htm

If America is to survive, we need to wake up and stop letting small elites do all our thinking, fighting and doing. A good place to start would be to press for Bush's impeachment and removal from office for his constant refusal to admit to his mistakes and repent from his lies. 		fort bragg nc usa Male 42.00 7/18/2005 6:03:39
What is Fascism Agree clm I liked your article it give one a place to go and start ones research. I hope others read it with an open mind.

"Fascism should more appropriately be called Corporatism because it is a merger of State and corporate power."
Benito Mussolini, 1883-1945, Fascist dictator of Italy
Columbus OH U.S. Female 40.00 6/20/2005 16:50:45
A Woman's Point of View (Porn) Against KB As long as we as a society condone the objectifying of women, we will continue to beat, rape and otherwise abuse them. Women are not objects. We are human beings. We deserve to be treated as such. Reston VA United States Female 50.00 6/24/2005 7:44:25
Fascism Agree LS This Nation has been headed in this direction for years, playing one National Party against the other while both parties are striving for the same goals. In the Presidential Elections, the candigdates are picked beforehand and the winners are also before the elections are ever held and the votes of the masses mean little since the winners are selected by those at the top of the dogpile. The World Bank and the World Trade Organization are the only winners in any election and haven't we have seen the assasination of many of our top scientist in this current Administration, especially those who are experts in the field of biological warfare? These scientists, of course, are intellectuals.

I could go on and on but this is enough said in order to provide MY TOTAL AGREEMENT with the above mentioned article.

Peace, if you can find it.

LS		 Wynnewood OK U.S.A. Male 69.00 6/24/2005 14:40:38
Is Israel an American Value? Against AS This is sick. The author is sick. How can you write such things? Disgusting comparison. Omsk Ural Russia Female 24.00 6/27/2005 0:34:16
Israel an American Value Agree CH I agree with you that it is very strange that the "Relgious Right" and its media stars are so vocal in their support of Zionism. The word "Israel" is used more often than "Jew" or "Jewish" in their discourse.

Corporatism seems to be the most powerful force shaping world economies and politics. On the boards of most global financiers are Zionist Jews who can not and do not separate their politics from their work. And as you point out so well, those in control of US foreign policy are pro-Zionist in deed and belief.		 Lancaster PA USA Male 48.00 7/19/2005 8:57:19
Still Single at 35 Agree bs I appreciated the frank story of other like me... mid 30s, and still single. Somehow I still fall outside the norm. While I'm told I'm "easy on the eyes", I'm still introverted. It's the only reason I figure I haven't been asked out in more than 5 years. As a hold a good job, own my own house and love travel and a wide variety of hobbies, I'm also told I'm "intimidating as hell". Mom has regularly encouraged me to "act stupid, honey, so men will like you."
But then again, I rarely ever even meet any single men. I work an hour from where I live; the gym I use (the only one I can afford) is filled with seniors and noone my age; I seem to be the token non-college age single at church; I don't go to bars, and at this point have only one single female friend and she and I don't know any other singles, male or female.
I joined eHarmony to just have a chance to meet some single guys, but in the 6 years I've been on there have had few matches (two or three matches a year) and the ones who have wanted to communicate are the kind of guys I avoid. For example, Mr. Idaho whose two ex-wives "drove him into the arms of another woman", one by keeping in touch with her family, and the other by clinging too much. And Mr. California who actually is still married and lied to get on the system (they kicked him off the system when they found out).
Around age32 I went through the whole depression phase of saying, "well God, I guess it's going to be just you and me, huh?" For some that would seem giving up early on, but I knew my track record: I was asked out about once every three years to that point, so if it kept up, I'd have 2, maybe 3 more dates between then and age 40.
So here I am now at 35. I did date one man for a year in 2001 and he said he was going to ask me to marry him soon. Two weeks later he introduced a friend of his as HIS FIANCE to a group of my friends with me present. I was thinking he was about to ask me! And about this time last year I was asked out by a man who was as ideal for me as it gets though, as you suggested, I did have to adjust to the "packaging'. AFter six months he announced I was his absolute best friend and he would not date me any more. This has hurt so incredibly deeply! I've had to start all over again trying to become content again.
So, 35, still single, and tempted to believe that yes, what you said is true about finding the one when you stop looking....except for me. 		Gainesville FL USA Female 35.00 7/25/2005 21:13:41
Example of Fascism's BIG LIE methodology Against FM One of the hallmarks of fascism and socialism of the 1920's and 1930's was "The Big Lie" wherein a lie was broadcast (like this article) widely and repeatedly to the point that folks were often brainwashed into believing it.

This article is a thinly veiled attack on the freedoms and opportunities inherent in America today. Nothing in it rings true and it only illuminates the arrogance, pompasity, and wrongness in the thinking of its author.

Complete garbage. I want the two minutes of my life back that I wasted in reading it.		 Dallas Texas Dallas Male 44.00 7/26/2005 7:29:18
Coping With Singlehood... Agree DMK I could not agree more with the author of this article. I'm literally in the middle of grappling with the idea that I may not ever get married or have kids...and I'm actually getting comfortable with the idea. I broke off an engagement in November to a man I dated for 7 years. I rebounded immediately into a relationship with a great guy, who was the exact opposite of my fiance. But I stayed in almost constant contact with my ex over the last 7 months as he's tried talking me into reconsidering our relationship. I was torn and confused and wondering whether I made the right decision. Then, within the last three weeks, rebound man (who was great on the kids/family front but was a slob, potential alcoholic and needed a mother more than a girlfriend) actually broke off our relationship. It's something I had discussed with him but didn't have the guts to do myself. And I found out by way of a mutual friend that my devoted ex was not too devoted for about a year or so about mid-way through the 7 years we dated. Even though the cheating was a long while ago and I had already decided not to marry him, I was devastated by his deception. Felt sooo stupid wasting so much time, during my most fertile years (26-33) with such a man. I started to panic, went a little Fatal Attraction (figured out the password to his hotmail account, downloaded all the contacts and contemplated all sorts of nasty things) on him for a few days before realizing that it takes WAY too much energy to be jealous and vindictive. Before his infidelity hit me like a bomb, I was actually feeling really good about my place in life right now. It's a cliche, but I have a great little house, a great job, wonderful family and friends and exciting career prospects. I'm comfortable in my own skin and can definitely confirm that thing about women hitting their sexual peak in our mid-30s. After two weeks of off-and-on hell, I'm slowly getting back to that place right now. I definitely don't want a relationship for the time being (am mulling over taking a luvah though) and am doing all the things I forgot I enjoyed doing over the past almost 8 years while I was someone's girlfriend. Washington DC USA Female 34.00 6/28/2005 20:16:03
Implants on the homeless Agree DR I have heard of implants coming into the mainstream through the program Pastor Van Impe puts out,I didn't realize that the homeless are being targeted in this country. Also, Pastor Van Impe and other pastors accross our country have stated that the time will come when we will not be allowed to buy or sell unless we have one the mark of the beast which in Van Impe's opinion is an electronic tracking device implanted under our skin on the forhead or hand. Perhaps the time is now. God help us is all I have to say. Sterling CO USA Female 48.00 6/29/2005 14:20:57
                   
Is Israel an American value? Agree AH Congratulations on a fantastic piece. Far from being a peace-loving, democratic, 'victimized' state, Israel is a brutal, powerful, genocidal, apartheid state. I hope more and more people, including Christians and Jews, will stop giving Israel a moral blank cheque to do what it likes at home and abroad by alleging anything else is hatred of Jews. Congratulations again on a well-informed, well-written article. Glasgow none Scotland Female 34.00 6/30/2005 10:18:33
Coping With Singledom Against RC I felt that women in there 20s were being stereotyped into one, large immature category. While I'm sure the problems listed in the article were true to some, they do not fit all women to a T.
I am 22, and I am not focused on ambition and good looks in a man. I do not fret about whether or not he likes me and what I ought to do to impress him. I've been dating the same man for two and a half years, and we're together because we get along well, we can hold intelligent conversations together, and we want the same things out of life.
People do learn from experience, and I suppose you can make the argument that a woman in her 30s is more likely to have more experience than a woman in her 20s. But isn't that true of all age differences? Couldn't that arguement be used for a woman to wait until she turned 40, or even 50?
I have numerous friends who don't feel that they are ready to settle. I also have friends that wish they were able to find someone to get their lives off the ground now. I think each situation varies with each individual person and couple.
Perhaps there are many women out there who make poor choices in men when they're younger and learn slowly to find a man that's more down to earth, less superficial, and more in tune to their needs. But, perhaps, there are some people who are lucky enough and in tune with THEMSELVES enough to find someone who fits who they are when they are in their 20s. I think it's wrong to stereotype a large group of women by saying they are too naive and superficial to find a partnership that works.		 Centennial CO USA Female 22.00 7/3/2005 20:46:40
support of an adult child Neutral LP Actually I have a question.....father, has son in wedlock, puts his name on birth certificate. raises till 6yrs old. child has autism. they divorce from wifes many faults, including infidelity and theft of $16,000 from family member of his, and getting pregnant by another while married to him-aborted-have proof of pregnancy. he pays child support for this and 2 other children. This child now 13yrs old, father sees him for first time in 5yrs, doesnt look like him. has paternity test, child 100% not his. Is there any way of getting out of supporting till 18? 21? for life? any states or lawyers can help have better chance? Its ridiculous that he'd have to pay her FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE for a child thats not his. Aliquippa PA USA Female 40.00 7/14/2005 11:43:03
What is Fascism? Agree JT Without studying fascism, I had noticed the current administration exhibiting most of the 14 characteristics and wondered "what is this about?" Now, I am wondering if George Bush made a conscious effort to evolve into a fascist, or was he always there. How does this ideology evolve? What/who is pushing the button? Redding CA USA Female 58.00 8/1/2005 7:38:27
What is Fascism Neutral HH Fascism seems to be just an insult meaning "I don't like that government". Our government FORCES the citizens to accept homosexual teachers etc, when the citizens don't want to. Our government also controls what the churches can preach, so you can't say the religious are in power here. You can say ZIONISTS are in power here, and it might be better to look at the nations that curtail their own citizens' freedoms to protect Israel and pro-Semites.

"Question Israel".		 Memphis Tennessee USA Female 105.00 8/1/2005 14:26:02
Censoring MTV... Against AD I am just resonding to your article about censorship and the ordeal MTV is going through with the Bush administration.

I completely agree with your article except for some details you used for the religious censorship.

Just a couple of quotes here from your article that sre misleading.

" This law in Canada makes a portion of each of these three faiths, illegal."

"Pastors, Rabbis, Imams and Priests cannot teach them, bring them up or condemn publicly without fear of fines or imprisonment. "

For some information regarding the bill here is a site i think you will find useful.

http://www.religioustolerance.org/

Along with an essay concerning bill C-250.

http://www.religioustolerance.org/hom_hat6.htm

I cannot remember hearing about a single minister being arrested for advocating against same sex marriage. And beleive me in the last couple months leading up to the passing of bill C-36 (same sex marriage bill) there was plenty of it.

Just a message from a concerned teenager in Canadian.

Windsor Ontario Canada Male 19.00 8/4/2005 1:44:47
Buying for Women? MAKE IT A MINIATURE Against DL Are you shitting me? Miniatures are your suggestion. Are you being facetious? Duluth MN USA Female 29.00 8/4/2005 16:50:52
Is Israel an American Value Against LM Israel is our most faithful ally in the Middle East. She has helped us with military training and many other such pertinent things. No other country would put up with the abuse Israel has taken from the world. The media says she is fighting a war. She is taking care of criminals just like we are in our big cities. The Palestinians attack without any brains and she has to react. These are criminal acts. Also, Palestinians were not called Palestinians until the 60"s. This was Arafats doing. Originallly many of these people lived in Jordan and were kicked out. It wasn't Israel's fault. Someone needs to investigate the history behind these Arabs. Israel is getting a bum wrap. Tijeras NM USA Female 65.00 8/8/2005 19:03:55
Israel an American value Against LM This is anti-Semitism. You apparently haven't studies the correct history. Read Joan Peters' book "From Time Immemorial". Read Bejamin Netanyahu's book. I can't believe you would compare Zionism wiht Nazism. That is absurd. Why would Zionist act like Nazis when their people were exterminated by the Nazis? God said concerning His chosen people, the Jews, I will bless those who curse you and will curse those who curse you." God keeps His promises. There will be judgement whether you want to believe it or not. Tijeras NM USA Female 65.00 8/8/2005 19:18:41
Why Men Use Porn Neutral LV I would like to comment on this article because this has always been an issue with my boyfriend and I. He tells me that he looks at porn because he has to, because he wouldnt be able to get stimulated without it, and I would get upset because it would make me think that I wasn't good enough. I would think why cant he just think about me instead of having to look at pictures or videos of other women? I know that it is natural for a man to look at other women in a sexual way, but whenever I would think of him thinking of a woman sexually, it drove me crazy. I probably thought about it even more than he did and constantly made an issue about it, all because I couldnt handle that for a couple minutes a day, my boyfriend was having sexual thoughts about other women. I would take it personal and think, this is what I have to look like for him to be attracted to me, when I knew that was just plain wrong because he constantly tells me I am beautiful. There was nothing he was doing to make me insecure, it was I who was letting myself feel that way. I couldnt grasp the fact that men will be men, and it is natural for them to have sexual thoughts about women other than their significant other. I still am a little upset and bothered by it, but I try to not make such an issue of it as I used to. I know that its nothing he is doing to me, it is more of what I am doing to myself because of my insecurities. I think women who are secure with themselves don't worry about this issue. I wish I knew how to be that way, so I can let this issue go once and for all. Philadelphia Pennsylvania United States Male 20.00 8/9/2005 19:06:51
Colonel Hackworths Death Agree H To whomever will see this submission. Several crises at home including the passing of my mother & while fighting foreclosure on my home in early may, Unbelievably I missed any news about Hackworths death. I emulated this man, agreed in priciple with just about all he said admired his issues and answers interview (yes I saw it)to the present especially his use of obscenity when he felt like and seemed as Ward Just said "his use of obscenity was truly inventive" This administration dropped him from grace when he referred to Rumsfeld as an "asshole" He's that and much more among if not the most incompetent Sec of defense since the creation of the post in '47. I over the years often wondered if Hack had avided the interview in 71 which he was close to could have achieved far more, though I doubt he could have feigned any amount of dishonesty or remained quiet in the face of the militars institutionalized ignorance and stupidity that's well manifest in Iraq. It's been a little over three months since logging on here and the longest w/o visiting the site. I had no idea he was ill. This nation lost its finest at his passing. I pray this message reaches an appropriate person -no offense to anyone not connected there. I'm in shock and cannot believe he's gone and I never even knew it. H M Philadelphia Pa USA Male 51.00 8/14/2005 20:22:40
Long Distance Relationships Agree cd Loved this article. I am two months into a long distance relationship, and it has been bittersweet. Most other articles I read have been the same cookie-cutter solutions. This one was truly helpful.
We, too, talk at least once a day, sometimes twice. It is the saving grace. It lets me know everything is OK.
I just loved the advice and the way it was presented!
It also helps to read that I'm not the only one going through this. It comforts me knowing that others do it successfully....		 Miami FL us Male 34.00 8/15/2005 7:43:00
Fascism Agree db People throw the term "Facsim" around all the time. Thanks for the help with the definition. By the way, the Democrat Party seems to fit the definition in the opposition to "any" potential Supreme Court Justice nomination who even would consider opposing abortion. The motto should be "Catholics need not apply" since abortion is officialy condemned by the Catholic Church. This appears to me to classify and separate a group from a government position. thanks, Dave Henderson Nevada USA Male 66.00 8/24/2005 11:10:47
Long Distance Relationships Agree cd I just sent a submission, I then read the "happy ending" at the end of the article. This really gives me hope!!!! I truly believe that if we both commit to this, it will work out. It won't be easy, but like in the article, it is definitely possible.
We have a very original situation. The person I am "dating" is very actively in the entertainment industry. This leads to erratic schedules, long times apart, and intermittant calls. His schedule is far from fixed.
However, he plans on retiring in the next four years (give or take). When this happens, all of his hard work will have paid off. He will be very secure financially, and be able to focus on family and relationship. This is what I call planning!!!!
So, until this happens, we need to build our relationship one day at a time. Since it is still early on, we are both learning about each other. This is both good and bad. My insecurities kick in, due to the fact that I haven't known him for years. However, he is a really great person, so I know the foundation is there. We just need to get to know each other better. This is an ongoing process that will take a while.
So far, this whole situation has taught me, of all things, patience. This is something that I ruefully lack. It has taught me to take things one day at a time. To communicate the best I can. To listen. To not be selfish and think of him, not just myself. This has really enlightened me as to how self-absorbed I have been. Talking on the phone daily is allowing me to open up, to listen, and to communicate in a way I never have before.
On a very positive note, we are focusing on getting to know eachother and communicating in a way many other couples don't. I love that.
As I mentioned before, patience is becoming the cornerstone. If he doesn't call when I want, I try not to freak out. After all, he is incredibly busy, and there are times he calls me, and I can't talk, too.
I also try not to put expectations on this. Although I truly feel he is the man I want to spend my life with, I don't want to pressure him or myself.
In conclusion, this is all about patience and understanding. It is about paying attention to another person, and not being self-absorbed. It is about communication and love.		 Miami FL us Male 34.00 8/15/2005 8:00:31
What is Fascism Against SF This definition of fascism is so broad that it means every state is basically part or completely fascist. Try taking the list of 14 points and applying it to states. Try Iran, try England, try Russia, Japan, Brazil and South Africa. Every state is simply 'fascist' and in making this broad definition it is like defining rape as 'sexual lust' or defining genocide as the death of 3 people.

If great and terrible things, like the period of fascism(1933-1945) are dumbed down so they include everything then it means that the true evils of fascism and nazism are denied. In a sense what is being said here is that since America has so much in common with fascism and since america is a pretty good place then fascism wasnt so bad, which was not the case.


Jerusalem Talbiyeh Israel Male 25.00 8/24/2005 12:51:46
What is Fascism Against BM Gee, its almost as if you tailored your Fascism article to perfectly fit against President Bush. When are all of you cultural,liberal elite snobs going to get the clue that us long time silent majority aren't going to allow you to define us by your definitions/terms. If you ask a Liberal to define "What is a Conservative", it is FAR different an answer than if a Conservative is asked the same question. You make the same mistake as numerous other liberals in that you start your thesis with a pre-conceived supposition, then tailor your definition of what a Fascist state is based on it. Fascism & Communism are close cousins and Liberalism is closer to both than Conservatism. Canfield Ohio USA Male 43.00 8/26/2005 13:35:29
4 stages of Grief Agree RJ in the article you refer to the 'questions' one get to go through in order to go through the next phase. Could i find them somewhere? campbell River British columbia Canada Female 37.00 8/31/2005 8:49:12
Israel and Laura Dawn Lewis' work Agree GA Laura Dawn Lewis' comments on Zionism and Israel are right on. I would like to ingterview her for Dew Magazine. Would you please have her get in contact with me. Thanks, Gary Hermann MO USA Male 57.00 8/31/2005 10:58:04
Coping with singleness as a woman in your 30's Agree RE I am 31, still single and feeling a mixture between "I'm ok, I'm happy" to other days and nights feeling "Oh no, I'm going to be single forever!!!! Panic!!"
I am starting to look at men that I wouldn't have looked at 10 years ago, or even 6 years ago.
I go out, do salsa, have a stable (ish!) career and about to buy a house, so I am financially and emotionally independent, apart from when the loneliness kicks in! I'm attractive, and do attract many men, but they never seem to have "what I want"! I am very specific and have learned through dating in my 20's what I like in a man, and if major qualities seem missing to me at the time, I don't - or try not to - "go there"! I agree with this article but sometimes I worry that I am going to be disappointed, sometimes I find myself wanting to re-create ex-boyfriends (either physically or personality) in the people I meet now and I know I can't do that. 		Lincoln Lincolnshire UK Female 31.00 9/2/2005 9:48:56
Fascism Against SAN Dear Laura,

Your article on Fascism is one of the most biased articles I have ever read about Fascism.

Do you even have a clue as to what Fascism is all about?

You claim that Fascism is based on 'race hatred' or using the middle-class to 'exploit' the working class 'Revolution' What crap honestly! In Fascist Italy Mussolini did not get into power for feeding of off race problems ior anti-semtism. In fact the Fascists in Italy were not nor were they ever 'racist'. The Italian Fascist Party in fact had members from the area of Sicily in lower Italy who are characteristically 'darker skinned'. Not to mention the chief-rabbi of Rome was a member of the Fascist Party with other Jewish members. Even when war broke out and Mussolini alligned himself with Hitler, the anti-semitic legistlation enacted in Italy wasnt not enforcee strictly and was only there to appease Hitler.
And as far as that ridiculous remark about 'Fascism being used as a tool to twart the working class revolution' I think it is worth mentioning that Mussolini and the Fascists had a huge support base for the working class. You see the Fascists started out as Socialists but evolved into a movement with national-characteristics and saw the folly of class-warfare to achieve a desired aim. Instead they used class-collaboration to achieve class harmony and this worked very well.

You are obviously an intelligent person but a little more research into Fascism before you fill it up with blatant Marxist lies is needed.

I would suggest reading A.James Gregor book Pheonix:Fascism in Our Time for unbiased research on Fascism.

Good Day,

Simon		 Leigh-On-Sea Essex England Male 23.00 9/4/2005 3:12:36
What is Fascism Against PG Dear Ms. Lewis,

I was pleasantly surprised in reading your article, because it treats the subject fairly. I would argue that you didn’t make your case that fascism is a government structure. In fact nowhere does your article describe how fascism actually governs. This is because fascism is, in fact, a method - not government.

Nevertheless, the article is good. I have to admit, you had me going. I thought I would be treated to an academically rigorous article. Then I saw the 14 points. Granted, you claim the definition comes from the Library of Congress, but you haven’t cited the work. Then you claim that the US fits this ‘profile’ of fascism. Your intellectually honesty disappears into a tirade against our current leadership and Israel. A point driven home in your responses to these reader comments.

I look forward to your article on how the USA have fulfilled these 14 points. It should be entertaining reading, if not academically rigorous.

Regards,


p.s. I agree with Mike – try living in a real fascist dictatorship (Cuba or Syria for example). I think you’ll change your tune about our great country in a hurry.

flemington nj USA Male 43.00 9/12/2005 11:23:28
help! Agree AM I'm 24. I am currently majoring in Broadcasting; I work full-time and go to school part-time. My girlfriend, C.V., is 22 and majoring in Graphic Design; she also works a part-time job. We have had this relationship for a year and 8 months. We love each other. However, she is the one insinuating "moving in together" and "marriage." I can't do that right now. I eant to be ready when I get married; I want to prepare myself mentally, emotionally, and financially to take that step. But she doesn't understand that. She recently changed that, because when we first started we talked about finishing our education first. Now she has become very clingy. How else can I tell her what I mean without making her feel rejected?

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Coping with Singlehood as a Woman in Your 30's Agree LB This story was so right on the money I might as well've written it myself. A couple of months ago I met the most wonderful man on the planet. Never in my wildest dreams could I have imagined I would meet such a kind and caring individual. I've never felt so loved in my life. We both agree that because of our age (him being 40 and me being 35) we appreciate eachother a lot more. For years I thought I would never get over my first love. I kept comparing every guy I ever met to him and thinking how I missed the boat by not marrying him when I had the chance. I now know that there was someone better out there for me. I know that God definitely had a hand in me finding him.

Great article! 		Turlock California Stanislaus Female 35.00 9/13/2005 9:34:19
Misguided opinion... Agree EM An interresting note to end this article....

Realistic fascist examples are found in Venezuela, Cuba, South Africa, Yemen, and Zimbawe. You have chosen a clever fifth columnist's aproach ( convenient, Spain's civil war)to show the US and Israel as nations with facist characteristics.

Do attempt to live in some of the countries I mentioned above, and publish opinions critical of the local or central govertment..you are likely to be charged as a traitor and a yankee spy.

And yes, I understand how the Library of Congress defines facism, don't hide there.
San Diego CA US Female 25.00 9/16/2005 11:42:50
still single at 30 Agree nt I would have to say that I agree with the article. I am 31 years old, single, never married and never had a man propose marriage to me. I can say that I am grateful for not getting married in my 20's. I will say my chances for marriage in my 30's is slim to zero. I have been told by men repeatedly that I am either a.) to beautiful to marry. b.) too good for them to marry or c.) deserving of a better fate other than marriage and having children.

While I don't believe any of this, I will say my thoughts of the future do not include dating or marriage. I am completing my college education, plan to establish my career and adopt a child ( I am not for getting pregnant and experiencing motherhood on a level like that without the benefit of a loving, committed spouse.).

Some of us may be meant to be single our entire lives, and that should be ok. My Mr. Right could come along at 35 or 85, but does it really matter? Life is far too short to dread being single forever.
The idea is to simply live.		 Cleveland Ohio USA Female 31.00 9/18/2005 4:19:32
Narcissism Agree SV Please forward if you think that this may be of interest to someone else you
know.

Dear Editor,

I am Sam Vaknin, author of "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" , a
work of reference about the Narcissistic Personality Disorder:

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I have been studying Narcissistic Personality Disorder for several years
now, mostly in the following contexts:

I. Corporate settings and in Politics

II. Abusive and Dysfunctional relationships

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a serious, often undiagnosed
condition, frequently related to abuse in childhood.

In many cases the disorder compels the sufferer to become the abuser in
turn.

Once almost unheard of, pathological narcissism is now considered to be at
the heart of phenomena as diverse as corporate malfeasance, workplace
bullying, the emergence of murderous dictatorships, domestic violence, and
serial killings.

I would be delighted to assist you in putting together a report, a segment,
an issue, an article, or series of articles - regarding this disorder.

I am also available for interviews.

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 		 Skopje Macedonia Male 9/18/2005 7:16:09
What is Fascism Agree MB I read with interest your article and agree with your position. I find it very telling that the people that are providing such vehement denial to your article are so easily identified by the first sign - A Powerful and Continuing Nationalism. Their own anger and vehement disagreement coupled with suggestions that those in opposition ought leave - well, wow, nothing more needs be said, nor any defense mounted. To put it crudely - "the smeller's the feller."

I have also found it very odd that true Christian viewpoints, 'love thy neighbor', 'thou shall not kill', and others, are so blatantly disregarded by the very people who profess the strongest alliegance to the Christian faith; this group is the most likely to support the countinued slaughter of thousands of innocent people (in Iraq and elsewhere) while ignoring horrible human suffering like that in Darfur. I cannot find any response to why this ideology is justified based on true 'Christian' beliefs. I would be very interested in seeing some justification for the continued execution of this slaughter in Iraq considering the Biblical principles I have listed above, especially considering the failed (hunt for WMD's) or completed (capture of Saddam) goals in the beseiged country.

To further update your article, I would point only to the recent debate on bringing "Intelligent Design" into the science classroom as entwining government and religious beliefs, and the lack of response to Katrina and the minorities most affected as an issue of racial inequality.

I understand there will always be a fanatical right wing segment of society as well as a fanatical left wing component. I think it is healthy that all viewpoints are allowed to exist. However, it has become so recently obvious that the right wing agenda has taken such a front seat at such a financial and ethical cost that even your detractors must realize that no nation, regardless of how great, can support such moral and financial debt for a protracted period of time without either a severe burden on its citizens (via immense taxaation, which some might agree is here already) or complete collapse as was the case with the Roman Empire. 		Indianapolis IN USA Male 35.00 9/26/2005 14:04:48
Narcissm, What It Is & How to Recognize It Agree sb Thank you for putting a name on the personality that describes my long-time boyfriend of 10 years, soon to be ex. I feel a profound sense a relief to finally leave this relationship. Every characteristic described him. How scary. Kansas City Missouri USA Female 46.00 10/4/2005 13:36:25
Signs of Emotional Blackmail Agree MW THankyou for this and so many of the other articles that are helping me out so much so very much....I am divorced 7years now...and recently came out of a 2year relationship with someone i thought was marriage material...He is very good at his work...somehow i mistook this for the same qualities in relationship...For the first 6months it was bliss but after that i started to sense emotional blackmail...but tested it out, at times i thought lets see if he changes...what i found was if i talked about things i wasn't happy in the relationship he somehow made me feel as if the relationship was in trouble...Funny i had determined if by 2years things don't improve especially on how we spent our time together as we both work and have kids i would leave...so i tested his commitment level so it could be over...i didn't realise how much emotional blackmail i put up with till i finally got angry enough to tell him exactly what i thought....and as before used it to end the relationship...and i thought i knew how to spot a loser...i am naturally outgoing exuberant and passionate and attractive....but i was hoping this would work out ....but thankyou for your advice...i have now met someone new...but i realise i need to check men out better or improve on my judgement... Reading Berkshire United Kingdom Female 39.00 10/5/2005 6:32:26
        Hawthorne NJ USA Male 47.00 11/1/2005 7:18:01
COPING WITH SINGLE-HOOD Agree RRB I swear I wrote that in my journal over the past year! I enjoyed this article ~ it is good to hear that me and the 10 or so other single women (that I call my friends) in their thirties are joined by many others! Standing out as a single woman can take courage ~ courage of conviction, faith and lots of other girlfriends to make it all seem normal in a sea of couples.

Thanks again for sharing.
warwick ri usa Female 34.00 11/7/2005 12:44:27
Fascism Agree LGR I think this article timely. I certainly agree that the U.S today is ripe to become a fascist republic. I am British by nationality, but I have a profound respect for the principles of the American Costitution and our shared history of sacrifice in the face of fascist aggression. It saddens me greatly that the democracies of the west have become a breeding ground for hate and poverty in the world.
It relieves me to find some sensible thought on this issue, and the Couples Company seems like it may be a blessing of sensible, encompassing and honest forum of opinion. 		Auckland n a New Zealand Male 25.00 11/11/2005 20:56:41
What is Fascism Agree WC I want to thank you for your story. I want to say that I am a Christian in Austin Texas. My Dad is a pastor and we are all horrified at what is going on in this country. It is the absolutely evil to use the name of my Lord and Savior, the Prince of Peace to justify the satanic things this administration is doing. I don't use the word "Satanic" often, but destroying our planet which God created for us, killing our Muslim brothers and sisters, denying right to people because of their sexual orientation and turning OUR brothers and sisters against one another in this country because of different political ideals can only come from Lucifer himself. We have to wake up people!! Read the Consititution.

EVERYTHING in the "comments" section that you've written is right along the lines of our founding fathers. Your willingness to point out the faults of this Administration, the one who begins war and keeps the poor poorer, is exactly what Christ would do if he were walking the earth today.

Thank you		 Austin TX United States Male 26.00 11/16/2005 10:25:42
Best Romantic Movies - Romeo and Juliet Against MMK I have seen Romeo and Juliet, and I have read the play. It is first and foremost not a romance. The movie is rather supposed to be an ironic look at idiots who fall in love for the wrong reasons and die because of their foolishness. Yes, this opinion is disagreeable, but the movie isn't romantic. It just points out what is wrong with young lovers, and if this is unbelievable, take a look at two things. Think about the entire time span the movie takes place in(1 week), and think about the age difference between the two (and the fact that Juliet is a virgin). If you want to argue that love can be found in a day, that's fine, but that isn't the point of the play. This is purely a look at tragically stupid love. Burbank California United States Male 17.00 11/23/2005 20:45:57
Adultery Against ej I have fallen madly in love with a man who has been married for over 25 years and him with I. He is a fair bit older than myself and I have been divorced for over 4 years with my own family. I do not feel in the slightest guilty we have such magical fun times and we both do things which we would never have dreamt of doing with our regular partners I keep him young at heart. I have my own career and aspirations he has his, I respect his spouse and our arrangement suits us both. You can not help who you happen to meet or fall in love with, I do not wish to meet anyone now or in the future they could not compete with him physically or mentally in my opinion. They say love is blind hey I have my eyes wide open and it still looks great to me. ohio oh america Male 25.00 11/24/2005 18:23:37
30 something and single does not equal a freak Agree ID To be 30 Something and single does not mean you are a freak. I am 32,never married and no children. I too have accpeted the very real possibility that I may never get married or have any children. I am not depressed, sad or growing two heads because of it. However you'd never know it by the way people look at me. I've had clients, friends and strangers say things like..."what's wrong with you?", "why aren't you married yet?", "you better hurry up, you're not getting any younger". My family keeps telling me they just want to see me happy. Great! But since when does happiness only come from a man and through children. I am not opposed to these things occuring in my life and with the right person would welcome it. Until then, I will be happy. Happy to be alive, to have a great job and home. All of which I have acquired alone! I have never NEEDED a man. I have desired relationships for the same reason everyone else does. The truth remains that one must HAPPILY ACHIEVE... not Achieve to be happy! If it never happens for me, well then I've been happy in the meanwhile and have enjoyed the freedoms that come along with a life free of children and a husband. I get to travel on a whim, come and go as I please, not wash my hair for 3 days and not do laundry for weeks. I get to sleep in on the weekends and take NAPS! I love to take naps or as I like to call it..."my siesta". I leave it in the hands of God and wish that the general public would see those in their 30's who are single as normal and constructive indidviduals with a lot to offer. We are not weird or damaged or injured. We are simply single. And that's not the worst thing to happen to someone. And day of the week, I rather be single and happy than married and miserable.
To all those that are single and 30 something I say find the happiness that comes with our wonderful status. Look for the good before it is gone for good. Appreciate what you have now! Count your Blessings. Focus on what you are vs. what you are not a part of!
All of Gods Blessings!		 Miramar Florida United States Female 32.00 11/26/2005 23:27:30
Salvia Divinorum Against TT I keep trying to submit a comment regarding the article on salvia Divinorum but keep getting redirected to a survey regarding "Men and Porn". Perhaps you should stick to writing about dildos, as you know nothing about salvia divinorum. What a misinformed piece of tripe. Do you not realize children know when they are being lied to? "Reefer Madness" didn't work and neither will "Salvia Madness".

Also in the readers comments the editor states the term "legal lsd" is a term taken from those who treat people with salvia Divinorum problems. I am fairly informed regarding salvia Divinorum and have not heard of anyone in "treatment" for salvia Divinorum difficulties. However, I have heard of a licensed psychiatrist using salvia Divinorum to treat people for depression. Do you have any sources? Tstt, Colorado - USA
Tiny Town Colorado USA Male 39.00 1/21/2006 17:13:07
Salvia Divinorum Against TT I keep trying to submit a comment regarding the article on salvia Divinorum but keep getting redirected to a survey regarding "Men and Porn". Perhaps you should stick to writing about dildos, as you know nothing about salvia Divinorum. What a misinformed piece of tripe. Do you not realize children know when they are being lied to? "Reefer Madness" didn't work and neither will "Salvia Madness".

Also in the readers comments the editor states the term "legal lsd" is a term taken from those who treat people with salvia Divinorum problems. I am fairly informed regarding salvia Divinorum and have not heard of anyone in "treatment" for salvia Divinorum difficulties. However, I have heard of a licensed psychiatrist using salvia Divinorum to treat people for depression. Do you have any sources? Tstt, Colorado - USA
Tiny Town Colorado USA Male 39.00 1/21/2006 17:14:31
jewish "christianity"y Against rd A huge unknown probliem for US foreign policy is caused by dispensational teaching that idolizes Israel. Two things. There is no rapture. 'The
Bible passage most often quoted uses the word "apantao" wich means to go out and greet a returning ruler, i.e. the return of Christ NOT an intermediate appearance to take Christians out of the world. Second, a careful reading of the NT will reveal that the NT church is the new israel,
God's People, so that the modern jews are no longer the Covenant people. YEt because we endorse the policies of Israel the state, we are hated by the Arabs, with some justification, for we support the bad Idea of Zionism. 		Beaver Falls Pa USA Male 69.00 1/22/2006 7:09:36
What is fascism Neutral de 1. Anti-American good; patriotism fascist
2.enemy rights good; security precaucions fascist
3.embracing terrorists, communists etc. good; unity and (again) patriotism fascist
4.Demoralizing and demeaning military good; honor and support for military (even volunteer)fascist
5.encouraging divorce, abortion and homosexuality good; male dominated governments fascist
6.NY & LA Times,SF Chronicle, CNN, MSNBC, Time, Farenheit 911 etc. good; other news sources fascist
7.not alerting the masses to danger good; alerting the masses fascist
8.No religion, removing crosses and religious symbols good; relgious reminders fascist
9.corporate power good when you hold their stock otherwise it is fascist
10.unions good; Wallmart fascist
11.professors teaching hate for this country good; public objections fascist
12.no police good, police on the job fascist
13. Bill Clinton a fascist
14.elections are fascist

San Francisco Ca USA Female 48.00 1/22/2006 20:50:58
Questions??? Neutral AC I am Amanda and I am a student at JFK in missouri and i am doing a research project on legalizing gay marriage everywhere and I was wondering if i could ask some questions to anyone who is an authority that stands for gay marriages. If anyone can help me, please e-mail me back and I will send you 5 to 6 questions. Your help will be grately appreciated. Thank you so much!

-Amanda-		 Ballwin Missouri USA Female 17.00 11/30/2005 22:20:56
                   
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Hope for Life Neutral DB How do I access the Hope for Life Foundation form? Kingsland GA USA Male 34.00 1/23/2006 14:04:05
new year's tag artist/creepy war on dissent Agree mpm Mikey F is a man after my own heart.
I think he needs to add a snail addy so me and my friends can send him a bundle of $5s for his defense fund. How 'bout a texas holdem tournament benefit		 norcal/maui ca hi in between Female 61.00 1/24/2006 2:21:40
I don't know anymore Neutral SS Hi, I have read the 10 resons. I have to say that I agree and disagree w/ the article. I do agree that dating a married man is wrong, and yes I am in one of those relationships right now and have been for some time. I do feel bad about it, burt you know when the love you have for someone is real. I love this man...I am in love w/ him. there is no mistake on how I feel or how he feels. I have never met his wife, but I do know of her. I have the phone number to his home, but I have never called it. I don't want to cause any problems or wreck a home. I've thought about asking him if she has any idea about us since we've been seeing each other for quite some time.
I also feel that some people get married for the wrong reasons and because it's just convenient and that's not right either.
We have tried to end our seeing each other on different occasions. And I have attempted to see other people as I am not married, but the attractions and love we feel for each other seem to be getting stronger and stronger. I don't want things to be this way. Any feelings that I may have had for anyone else have not come no where near close to what I feel for him. I can't say that I understand completely how a married women would feel or his wife, but this situation hurts the outsider as well.
I know that I may be ridiculed by what I have entered here, but if anyone has any additional advice, then I do welcome it. Thanks for listening.
del md US Female 28.00 1/24/2006 8:23:39
Mike Femer Agree ML I would like to know where to send a donation for Mike's defense. claremont ca usa Female 50.00 1/24/2006 9:03:27
War on Dissent Against KM Interesting story by Mike Ferner, but he should be informed as soon as possible to get in touch with David-Wynn Miller at www.DWMLC.com and he will find he can rid himself of those charges......Seriously!!
His formula works for everyone!		 Cairns Queensland Australia Male 58.00 1/24/2006 18:36:57
8 Stages of Intimacy Neutral MJ I have a an assignment to do for my Family Communications class and I've decided to do Intimacy, Courtship, and Commitment. The article of "8 Stages of Intimacy" seems to fit the topic I picked, but I was just wondering what makes Laura Dawn Lewis a credible source in advice on relationships being that she didn't get a degree in any type of Psychology or Communications field? Or better yet, what were her sources for this article? Since I'm suppose to be getting the article out of a book, I have to have this information onhand for the simple fact I know those are the questions my communications teacher will ask. If I'm not available to provide those answers for her she would label me as not being a credible source taking information from another non-credible source. I'm not trying to offend Laura Dawn Lewis, I just need a little extra information to help me with my assignment, so I won't fail it. Thanks in advace. Houston Texas USA Female 20.00 1/28/2006 12:03:19
8 Stages of Intimacy Neutral MJ I have an assignment to do for my Family Communications class and I've decided to do Intimacy, Courtship, and Commitment. The article of "8 Stages of Intimacy" seems to fit the topic I picked, but I was just wondering what makes Laura Dawn Lewis a credible source in advice on relationships being that she didn't get a degree in any type of Psychology or Communications field? Or better yet, what were her sources for this article? Since I'm suppose to be getting the article out of a book, I have to have this information onhand for the simple fact I know those are the questions my communications teacher will ask. If I'm not available to provide those answers for her she would label me as not being a credible source taking information from another non-credible source. I'm not trying to offend Laura Dawn Lewis, I just need a little extra information to help me with my assignment, so I won't fail it. Thanks in advace. Houston Texas USA Female 20.00 1/28/2006 12:03:44
A question of size Neutral FG I have talked to plenty of women that do agree that size only matters to a certain extent. So, why is it that women always tell their current boyfriends about how she slept with a guy with an enormous penis? san diego ca us Male 23.00 12/20/2005 9:58:16
What Is Fascism Against SL I hate to say it but I disagree with this definition of fascism. Now I do realize that it is not your definition but instead the Library of Congress definition. Some of the points mentioned in the article just happen to coincidences and not requirements of fascism. For example I believe that the type of people who are fascists just happen to be very patriotic people. I think another example of a coincidence would be the suppressed labour power. Facsists do strongly believe in corporations, as stated in the article, but in order for corporations to run at maximum efficiency labour unions cannot be allow to run rampant.
The last thing that I have to say is that labour unions in the United States should have more limitations put on them. I am sorry to say that unnions that become too large will be the downfall of this great nation. Corporations in the U.S. are constantly being weakened by large unions, and that is part of the reason why so many companies are moving plants overseas. People sometimes blame the companies for taking away jobs in the U.S. by moving overseas, but in reality it is partly the fault of the workers and their unions driving the companies away. Hopefully people will come to realize that not every job in the U.S. is a high paying one. A perfect example of this is the transit workers strike in New York City. That is why fasicsts do not believe in unions, because terrible problems can be caused by unions. This is more of a common result of fascism but not in any way a requirement.
My conclusion is that the U.S. is currently a far cry away from fascism even if there are some similarities.

Well anyway that is my two cents on this topic.

Darien CT USA Male 17.00 12/20/2005 14:56:20
Fascism Against rs I think your hatred (yes, I used the "H" word) of the President has overshadowed what could have been an enlightening article. I am not in lock-step with the President nor either of the parties. My personal opinion is that we are a country ruled by, and for, lawyers. I do, however, think that the President is a good man, imperfect to say the least (surpise!) who happens to be in office at the time when some very undesirable business needs to be taken care of. I agree with the War on
Terrorism and that includes Iraq. I wish it weren't neccessary. It would be nice to live in a world like you (and I) can picture in our minds eye. People like you and I could pull it off too - we could make it work.

The reason I support the War is not because I am in lock-step with the President, but because the likes of Bin Laden, Zarqawi and Hussein aren't in lock-step (even a mild attempt would suffice)with the rest of humanity. I appreciate your vison and compassion, except for your mind reading capabilities where the President is concerned, but what do you do with people who won't play by the basic rules of how to treat a human being? We can ignore them as previous administrations did (hijackings, embassies blown up, Achille Lauro, USS Cole, suicide bombings, '93 Trade Center, etc... I applaud the restraint of those administrations, by the way, lest anyone accuse the US of not turning the other cheek. We can talk to them, scold them, sanction them, punish them economically - all done. So now what? If we continue to ignore then we repeat history. We ignored Hitler and his fascism (the dreaded WWII reference) and lets see what that got the world - continued killing of his own citizens and millions dead in battle from many countries. Not acceptable, at least not to me, this time around.

I have listened to these fascists and they want only one thing. They want you and I dead. They want us dead, not because we have done all these horrible things to them (real or imagined), but because we aren't Islamic like them. Not just your typical, peace loving Islamist, but a bonafide Islamic Fascist just like them. Being nice to them will buy you time, if it suits their purpose, otherwise it will make no difference. They will still want you dead - or converted. I know this because I've listened to them, not spin one way or another from the politicos or the media. So what do you do? We've seen from history what ignoring fascism does - let's not repeat that fiasco. I'm a Christian and I am a peace loving man, but even Jesus took up the whip when he had to. To be clear, this is not a war on Islam, but a war on fascism.

As to the US being fascist - we're not there yet, not by a long shot. However, should it get to that point (God forbid), many will find out why the "right to bear arms" is so important. The Founding Fathers were keenly aware of many of the pratfalls you brought out in your article.

Houston TX USA Male 50.00 12/21/2005 19:19:17
Israel is an American Value Agree FB Hi ,
you have to be really brave. To be such successful American and criticizes Israel and extremist Jewish groups can bring hit back from this very influential circles.
I am watching USA from outside and USA more and more looks like Jewish biggest colony with millions working and fighting for them. Small group of powerful people which run USA is more than just friendly with Israel. All world now can see that USA is biggest military base for Israel.
How is this possible. Well, there is NO DEMOCRACY IN USA. Two political party are owned by the same powerful people and based on mood of citizens, once a while they exchange chair in White House. There is some competition between them ( Americans love competitions ) but they always serve the same people.
If you Americans do not wake up you will see rising the most sophisticated and powerful fascistic regime right in your own country. You think it is impossible ? Because this is America ? I am from east Europe, witnessed falling and arising regimes. I believe it can happen easily also in USA. So far “ their” tools to secure power are lies and ignorance. Later you will see more “ power tools” in action – police, secret services, army. Laws and regulations to control “unhappy citizens”.

Anyway, what is this ?
“ The plan drafted in 1998 for the Israeli government, which required another Pearl Harbour event to motivate Americans to support a Middle East makeover …”
You want to hint at something ? Something people are more and more suspicion about but afraid to say it loudly not to look stupid ? I heard that Putin blow up buildings in Moscow ( 300 people died ) to start second war against Chechens . People who want maintain power have to be cynical and bloody. Even in USA. Sacrificing 3000 people and two high buildings on September 11 would be nothing uncommon in history of this world. Just another plot. Rich and powerful Americans did it . I believe in this more than theory about group of extremist . Since 9/11 Bush and his friends are acting and doing like they were planning it. They are on their way to secure more power and money.
Good like to you in future poor Americans.





toronto on Canada Male 33.00 12/23/2005 17:51:41
Reply to Porn Widow Neutral AE I have no problem with men using porn as long as they make sure that their partner knows and feels like they are their lover’s ultimate porn star. I was reading the reply to the Porn Widow and well you have some points but what you should have asked her is how many times in a week does she have sex with her husband. Believe it or not women also have hormones that supply them with a feeling of stress relief when they have an orgasm. Women also sometimes would like to just have sex but feel bad for using their husbands as, well, just a penis. A great solution could be to discuss watching porn together and just use each other as sex objects. This way both partners are less stressed out and he may not need to resort to pornography as much, as you said, but a bonus could be that she may not mind him watching or looking at pornography.

"Take him aside and say to him: "Nobody, including me, knows how awful the pressure from all your responsibilities makes you feel. And nobody, including me, knows that sometimes -- even though you love me and our children -- you wish you could be single and have nobody to worry about but you. Isn't that true, honey? I'm sorry it's so tough." (Dr. Mark couples company reply to porn widow)

You are right this could be a great way to start a conversation but he should also be saying the same thing to her. Every person sometimes wishes that they could be single and have nobody to worry about but themselves but that is life isn't it. I just hope both partners can look at the positives of their lives together and work through it. I guess I just wanted to give my personal advice and say Good Luck Porn Widow.
Ottawa Ontario Canada Female 30.00 1/29/2006 8:05:03
ebook link is broken-mtg bkr to become a financial planner Agree twb your links to buy ebook and hard copy do not work. I am a mortgage broker thinking about making a transition into financial planning... would like to keep my mortgage business ongoing while I get trained and build book of business as a cfp... any suggestions? How do I buy your ebook etc? new york ny 10018 Male 41.00 1/29/2006 12:32:05
How do I find a qualified Pilates instructor? Neutral SO Hi, our link to Method Fitness on:
http://www.couplescompany.com/Advice/Jason/Pilates3.htm
appears to be incorrect. Can we update this?		 New YOrk NY USA Male 26.00 1/30/2006 8:57:10
Why Women Change Their Last Name Neutral CJ Thanks for researching this prevalent and important issue. I am at the point of trying to figure out if I should take my kids' dad's last name. However, I was wondering if you did any further research, not just on the origin of "why" such practice continues until today, but also, what causes women to really change their last names. Aside from faith and tradition,were there any other reasons, unsual, logical, or normal reasons why modern women do it. Is it just mostly for convenience? Please advise. Los Angeles CA USA Female 30.00 1/30/2006 20:47:06
Why Brides Change Last Name Neutral AP Thank you for your article. I was looking for information about why brides change their last names. As a Christian, I also want to respect the union of our relationship in marriage, but I want to keep my last name as my middle name and take his last name. Of course, my fiance' disagrees. Your article shed some light to my dilemma. Thanks again Memphis TN USA Female 28.00 12/27/2005 22:11:39
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Infidelity Neutral GW My boyfriend is in the Marines and he leaves to Iraq in eight weeks for seven months. While he was in training I felt alone so I flirted with other guys over the internet and never told him. He found out and Now has lost all trust in me, which i deserve, but he is giving us one more chance and i have to earn his trust back before he goes to Iraq, because he feels he cannot go to Iraq thinking his girlfriend is back here being unfaithful. We have been dating for more then a year and I love him with all my heart. He says he loves me but he's really hurt and I need advice. What should I do to earn his trust back? Corona CA USA Female 18.00 1/4/2006 14:43:48
Coping with singlehood Agree AH I just want to say thanks for the article it makes me feel much better. Reading this opinion in a recent article online kind of makes it all feel more true! N/A Il USA Female 32.00 1/6/2006 7:52:25
Salvia - Targeting Teans Against edp At age 40, I tried Salvia D. for the first time. It was unlike anything I've ever experienced. While remaining totally cognizant of my surroundings, behaviors, etc., I was emotionally opened to attitudes such as body image in a new way. It was nothing like LSD, which I did once at age 36, other than as a mechanism for opening up my perceptions of myself. Call it the honesty drug. Or the no-bullshit drug. It most definitely is not an "escape" drug as noted in the article. (I love it when people with no empirical knowledge of a subject attempt to expound on things beyond their comprehension.) As a parent of two outstanding and wonderful children, I would sit with them and communicate with them as they used Salvia D. as a means of more fully comprehending themselves, and the world in which they live. Silver City New Mexico USA Male 43.00 1/11/2006 20:40:09
4 stages of grief Agree dk thank you ottawa ontario canada Male 51.00 1/14/2006 13:02:09
thinking about committing adultry, 10 reasons not to Agree SD I have been very good friends with a married man for 5 years, he is wonderful. I am single, he is much older than his wife, they have young children. I would not ask him to disrupt their lives for me. His wife is a severe alcoholic, the kids need him. We miss one another when apart but know it's the best for the children...they will grow up and perhaps our time will come. Until then we enjoy the time we have together, and are thankful for a wonderful friendship. Grand Rapids Michigan USA Female 50.00 1/14/2006 21:09:06
I need a mother about 45 to 55 years old Agree dop Hello,
I will like to know a site that i can get a mother or a father...i want a parent who will care for me ...i am 19 years old and i need someone to advice me of my life...i am from u.s.a,i need a mother or a father.... 		brones new york usa Male 19.00 1/16/2006 19:45:13
why men use porn Neutral Md Im trying to learn to understand my husband and his need for masterbation and porn he gave up porn at my request after 5 years of arguments and hurt you are right that we have are own form in romance books and movies how ever does it cause the level of distrust that the male vertion does? we dont leave are husbands bed and sneek off to masterbate this hurts it hurts.
in the bible it says man and woman become one flesh and that when man sins aganst him self, "meaning masterbation." it hurt the flesh you might not feel the pain but we as the other half fill it in are soul and it tears us apart.
that does not mean we dont want to understand and exsept are husbands. at least I do! not to menion I injoy sharing my books with my spouse and Im not apossed to sharing porn with him I have to get over it being about me its not and thats what I sujuest other woman with the problem do. how ever you men need not to make promise's you can't keep it is devistates us even more when you break yur promis All so you need to try to understand and not get angry find away of explning and as a couple
explore this part of the relatioship by showing your wife what your lookig at and if your wife reads chic litt mabe you culd read a book together my husband and I did we had fun.also woman need sex just for sex like men we get mentall blue balls and we dont always want to make love dont feel gulty comeing to us just to releve stress we come to you for just that reason espcaily were just not confertable tuching are selves ive herd may women say if its not real than it not worht it thats probely why we dont understand. 		hillsboro oregon 97123 Female 24.00 2/1/2006 13:41:38
tribute to miltary families Neutral MD Hello,

My Name is Monique Doolittle and I am a songwriter. I recently wrote a song called Halfway home. It is a tribute to Military families and the soldiers. I was hoping you might be willing to run a link on your site to my site. I have streaming video of the song on my site. Feel free to preview it at www.moniquesmusic.com

I will also be selling copies of the CD on my site for a small donation and will be donating a percent of the proceeds to the Disabled Veterans.
Please respond and give me your opinion on the song and if you could use it.

Thank you
Monique Doolittle
greenville mi usa Female 44.00 2/6/2006 18:36:05
salvia Neutral bs Hello, yes i am a teenager and yes i did try salvia. Honestly one of the most intense feelings of my life. It really makes you question "whats reality anyway?" hey all it is, is moving particles of matter and sometimes your brain needs a five minute break from the structured bore thats been put in front of us. A spiritual way to expand your creativity and think in a different way. I dont dissagree with your concerns at all. Who knows maybe in ten yearswe will find salvia causes brain canser. Thank you for your ideas about salvia, they help me expand my own ideas.

Sincerly - expand your mind ^_^		 miami fl usa Female 15.00 2/6/2006 18:49:07
what a woman/man really wants Agree AH I just wanted to comment that your articles were wonderfully refreshing. We live in a sex-obsessed society and this really is the idea that should be shouted from the rooftops. I am saving these articles to give to my children whent they get old enough. Thank you Mr. McKnight!! dallas area tx usa Female 25.00 2/8/2006 20:43:15
Very interesting article Against LJ This is interesting in that I was just reading a definition of Fascism which can be found in the Oxford dictionary of politics. I was shocked to find that under that definition I am a fascist! Having said that- it should come as no surprise to you that I believe youself,other like-minded individuals, and groups such as the ACLU, ADL, and the lawyers guild should be placed in internment camps. If for know other reason than for your own protection. As you can see (if you follow the news) we are winning- and the liberal democrats (socialists) are losing. Liberals having been pushing the envelope for decades and now the other shoe is about to drop. You might be really shocked to know how many americans feel just like I do. Anytown FAS USA Male 16.00 2/9/2006 7:02:12
Why Men Use Porn Against AN I can't understand it. I'm in love with the most amazing man, and I don't want to look at another guy. I feel uncomfortable in the presence of a man not wearing a top, and I certainly don't have "virtual affairs". What? That's ridiculous! If I was thinking about another man in my head - that's the first signal that I should be with the guy I'm with. It's utter rubbish and your relationship would be a farce.

Secondly, I don't feel "threatened" by porn. Where's the threat? It's degrading, it's disgusting, it's fuelling a filthy industry which does nothing but objectify human beings. Think of all the crime that has been caused by porn, think of all the good that the money that goes into the industry could do. Think of all the time that the viewer could be spending doing better, more productive things. It's ridiculous, pathetic and just plain wrong. If you're in love with someone - you only have eyes for them - male or female. Men can make their own choices just as much as women. And if they really cared about women, if they showed true love, they would want to stop porn. Loving someone is about a connection that only you two have. yes there's a spark, a longing, which should _only_ be between the two of you, and there's also the want for the other to be the happiest they can be, the most successful they can be. By watching porn you are fuelling an industry that is bad for the economy, bad for the viewer's mind, bad for the viewer's family, and bad for all the poor people who get sucked into it to make a quick buck, and just end up getting treated like a piece of meat, like an animal.

It's pathetic, it's disgusting, it's wrong, and I wish everyone else would bloody well come to their senses.		 Birmingham West Midlands UK Female 21.00 2/9/2006 7:55:02
Type Title Here Agree Boston MA USA Male 31.00 2/11/2006 18:56:05
Rachel Corrie: Definition of a True American Hero. Neutral M P Hi--I read the article "Rachel Corrie: Definition of a True American Hero" with much interest. I agree that the Israeli occupation of Gaza, West Bank and East Jerusalem is deplorable and must come to an end, NOW, in order that the necessary 2-state solution to emerge.


There's no question that the Israeli Govt's occupation of West Bank, Gaza and East Jerusalem, with the housing demolitions, and all other gross violations of human rights against Palestinian civilians, is not only deplorable, but created the circumstances that ultimately led to Rachel Corrie's death in the first place. However, the United States, and by extension, the European community, also abetted it by sitting back and not exerting more pressure on Israel to pull out of the Occupied Territories and allowing the Palestinians their independence. Unfortunately, also, however, the International Solidarity Movement also must bear some responsibility for Rachel Corrie's death. First of all, prior to Rachel Corrie's death, several ISM members had some close calls while standing alone between a bulldozer and a house: Another ISM member stood between a bulldozer and a house slated for demolition, and managed to get out of the way at the last minute when the bulldozer began pilling earth around and underneath her feet. One young man, another ISM member, came close to being impaled or seriously injured by barbed wire when the bulldozer stopped at the very last possible moment. Rachel Corrie herself had been shoved into the side of a house that she'd been standing to protect, and predicted that the next time around she would probably not be so lucky, a prediction that very tragically came to pass shortly thereafter. These close brushes with death/serious injury should've sounded an alarm for the ISM to alter their strategy(ies) somewhat. Rachel Corrie should NOT have been allowed to stand SINGLY between the bulldozer and the house that she was protecting from demolition. Standing between a bulldozer and a house as a GROUP, rather than singly, would've undoubtedly made the advent of death/serious injury less likely. While Rachel Corrie went over there with the best of intentions, unfortunately, she herself did not exercise the best judgement, which, along with the criminally reckless and irresponsible behaviour of the Israeli soldiers operating the bulldozer that mowed her down, also contributed to the loss of her life.

Somerville MA USA Female 55.00 2/24/2006 17:49:17
the web site Against KP While I agree that each person is entitled to their own opinion, some opinions, such as I have seen here, should not be shared.
I have had it up to my eyes with Bush did this, Bush did that. Most of the peace talk comes from spoiled little 'children' disguised as adults that have no concept or understanding of Duty, Honor and Commitment.
They have lived a pampered life being coddled, given at the expense of others so they can boohoo any war or conflict and have the God given rights my friends and family have died for.
What is being done in the middle east now is the absolute right thing to do, the intelligence backed it up, the motivation backed it up and if removing a madman from his power seat(Saddam) is wrong, then I need to know where their concept of right and wrong came from. It did not come from the country I grew up in, U.S.A.
Disagree with the war, that is your right, but quit back stabbing the decent warriors we have fighting for this country, quit dissing on a decent and moral president as he is the first we have had since Clinton took office. And quit yelling about lies for what you are saying are the lies and it damages our whole country and what we have stood and fought for, for the last 200+ years

Sincerely		 Boise Idaho USA Male 40.00 3/3/2006 21:21:11
Mine Neutral SM I'm a 27 year old man. I am married now for the third and hopfully last time. My wife went from her ex...needing sex at least once a day to me...sex is not often. Do I need to find a "buddy"?..It won't happen. What else can I do to seduce my wife into wonderful sex? She is my world, but intimate time is a wish now. I tell her that I need her and that I want her. But she tells me that she has no interest. Please help. I need some.......advice.
Sean		 Abilene TX USA Male 28.00 3/4/2006 5:09:22
What is Fascism? Against cd I often proudly pronounce that I am a born liberal/populist and irrationally place some significance on the fact that I was born about the time the first ballots were cast to elect FDR to the Presidency - in case anyone is mathematically challenged, that makes me 73 years old. Fortunately, I also have a personal history of sometimes disagreeing with the currently accepted liberal "line." So, while I agree that the present administration in the US has brought us into a clearly fascist era (in the 1930s John Dewey said that, if the US ever succumbed to an "ism" it would not be Communism or Fascism, but Americansism, I don't think that rules out either of those wrapped in the American flag), I do vigorously object to the statement that Israel also exhibits all fourteen of the criteria. Anyone who believes that has no real knowledge of either conditions in Israel or of the attitudes of the Israeli population. As a citizen and part-time resident of each country, I attest that there is a world of difference! Albuquerque NM US Female 73.00 3/4/2006 16:31:52
The Legal Hallucinogen Targeted at Teens Against AC Dear Couples Company,

Your article on Salvia Divinorum is horribly biased and uninformed. There are several issues I would like to address. The first is driving while under the influence. Although sublingual absorption of the plant would be possible while driving, and very dangerous as such, an educated adult users would absolutely not experience Salvia in a driving situation. While on Salvia, the user is extremely annoyed and frustrated by external distractions, and would pull over during the onset of the effects even IF this ridiculous situation came to light. Secondly, I would STRONGLY argue against your claim that Salvia is an "escape drug." While on Salvia, issues within your life actually come to light and newfound wisdom is found. During one Salvia experience, I had an extremely stark realization that I need to quit tobacco usage immediately. I have not dipped or smoked since. Also, you seem to degrade the spirituality of the ethnogen experience. I am a Conservative Christian with very firm faith and see nothing wrong with this plant. According to my beliefs, God obviously knew that this plant would have its effects when He created it, outlawing such would be a great offense. Finally, I would like to emphasize the fact that Salvia is neither physically or psychologically addicting, NO cases of death from overdose have ever been reported, and no chemicals in Salvia have been found to be carcinogens (altough it is unhealthy to inhale anything other than air into the lungs.) I have a supply of Salvia on hand (I chew the leaves) and have many times thought about using and then realize that I'm not really in the mood for it or just don't want to. How could a substance be psychologically addictive if it is denied in that manner? In order to get a profound, revealing, and wisdom-gaining experience from Salvia you have to have the right mindset and respect the plant. I have heard many first-hand stories from people who tried the plant with the intent of getting "messed up" and their experience was humbling.

I think that Salvia should be restricted to adults in law. Children are not ready for Salvia and do not have the responsibility to know to always use a sober sitter. However, if you think Salvia should be made illegal, you are sorely mistaken. Alcohol, Tobacco, Marijuana, and other illegal substances are the true dangerous escape drugs.

I know a publication like this would never take the time to experience the Seer's Sage, but until you do, you have NO idea what you are talking about.

Sincerly,
AC		 Fort Myers Florida United States Male 18.00 3/8/2006 0:18:29
Why Brides Change Last Names Against AL The author misquotes the Bible as saying "(She) shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh,” in an attempt to support a woman taking her husband's last name. Genesis 2:24 clearly states that "He shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall become one flesh," which supports a man taking his wife's last name.

The Bible supports a man leaving his father and mother (and his father and mother's last names?) and cleaving unto his wife and loving her...even loving her enough to take her last name. It's too bad that many men let the sin of pride get in their way of following the Bible and taking their wifes last name.		 Stockton CA USA Female 28.00 3/14/2006 16:38:53
Where American Lives Do Not Count Neutral VR American lives indeed do not count, and for the very simple reason: counting _any_ wrongdoings committed by Israelis specifically, or any Jews in general, would certainly be anti-semitism. A country that now already certifies increasing number of groceries in supermarkets as kosher (today I purchased a bottle of vitamins whose capsules are certified as kosher on the label), will never do anything like that. park ridge Illinois USA Male 45.00 3/16/2006 20:02:04
Where American Lives Do Not Count Neutral AA If we assume that the US and Israel are one and the same entity when it comes to foreign policy, freedoms, and suppression of protest, then we can understand the reasons for our present invasion of Iraq, the reasons for our future attack on Iran, and the future of our human rights here in the US. In addition, by realizing that Israel is involved in a religious war with Islam over the "holy land", we can understand "why they hate us", why muslim countries that don't recognize Israel now "hate" the US. We can also predict the future of our own domestic policy of wire-tapping, endless detention of Arab-Americans, and the erosion of freedoms by observing present-day Israel. In other words, Israel is our future, and Israel's enemies are now our enemies, and our foreign policy and Israel's foreign policy are one and the same. Add to that the fact that Israel is a "jewish" state, with no separation of church and state, and we can understand how Islam is slowly being defined as the enemy. Honolulu HI USA Male 46.00 3/16/2006 21:14:21
Is Israel an American Value? Agree EL So often when I read responses to excellent articles, such as this one, I am astounded that otherwise clear thinking people, immediately equate any perceived critism of Israel's policies or actions as proof that the writer is anti-Semitic and their mind stays in that position. Years of Zionists propaganda has created the global illusion that Zionism is Judaism. Unfortunately, Zionists have become the evil shadow that hides behind Jewish people. Tell yourself "I am Jewish, not a Zionist", re-read the article. Anti-Zionism is not anti-Semitism. Once you start the deprogramming, you will seek out such articles as this and educate others. Judaism, Christianity and Islam, for the vast majority, all = Love and Peace.
Zionism = Nazism.
Las Vegas NV USA Female 53.00 3/17/2006 13:40:25
Coping with Singlehood as a Woman in Your Thirties Agree SD I totally agree with this article. I am 31 years old and was proposed to at age 24 and wasn't ready. Not to mention the fact that the guy who proposed was eager to get married because he was close to 40 and wanted to start having children. We hadn't even been dating a month and he claimed I was the one (yeah right) needless to say he got married to a 25 year old and was divorced after just 3 years of marriage (go figure). I feel more beautiful and sexy now than I've ever been and I feel that I am now ready for marriage. When I was 25 I wrote down a list of goals, one of which was getting married at age 33. Naturally my family is eager for me to marry and start a family, but I feel great knowing that I am mature mentally and have a lot more to offer my future husband than I did in my twenties. Kudos. Indianapolis Indiana USA Female 31.00 3/19/2006 10:10:19
                   
Being single and over 30 Agree MD My story: Married my high school sweetheart at 23; divorced at 33. Two serious relationships after my marriage, both which ended after about one year.

So here I am: 35 years old; single with no children.

For the first time since I was 17, I am not in a relationship. Seeking out a female for the first time in my life is completely foreign to me.

I have come to terms that if I remain single with no children that I will accept that. I truly believe things happen in our lives for a reason.

If that right person comes along, I will thank God she came into my life. If she does not come into my life, I have learned I can be happy and single and not have children.

Meeting someone in a similiar age range is not easy. Many females I have met in my age range have either been single forever -- or they are divorced and have children.

The past three months -- since the conclusion of my last relationship -- have been filled with many ups and down -- from an emotional standpoint.

The majority of my friends tell me I will be a good 'catch' for someone. I am relatively attractive, have a good job and was raised to treat others as I would like to be treated.

That being said, I do not if and when that next someone may come along. At first, I was trying to hard to jump into another relationship. Because I have been in relationships since I was 17, I was convinced I had to be with someone in order to be happy.

These past three months have made me realize happiness can be found -- even if I do not have a partner in my life. I am enjoying many of the things I have always wanted to do more of -- working out; spenging more time with friends/family.

My friends tell me that someone special will enter into my life. I have taken the mindset that I can't dictate my future. If another relationship was meant to be -- than great. If not, well, my life will continue.

Des Moines Iowa USA Male 35.00 3/25/2006 13:01:56
the 846th extended in kuwait Agree sb I totally agree with this woman I am in the military and I have seen on countless occasion where people are humiliated and seperated from there unit cause the military cant deal with there issues. I am stationed in Korea have been for 2 years. My unit goes to the field every 2 weeks and we do countless things that dont make sense and when people speak up there are punished over and over again. I know in the military you cant voice your opinion but we are desperately trying to recruit people but yet when the serve there whole lives to this military there are treated like nothing. If we want people to protect and defend our nation why are they permitted to be treated like nothing oakes nd us Female 23.00 3/26/2006 1:29:11
ILLINOIS launches compulsory mental health screening Agree JV I first ran across this link several years ago. The author purports the original contents to date from the 1920's to the 1930's. I would read it top to bottom and evaluate this compulsory psychological screening, along with the advent of 'ADD/ADHT', SSRI's for children as young as two, and wonder at the parallels.
"This book was used in underground schools, and contains the address of Beria to the American students in the Lenin University prior to 1936. The text in the book in general is from the Communist Manual of Instructions of Psychopolitical Warfare, and was used in America for the training of Communist cadre. "
http://www.geocities.com/heartland/7006/psychopolitics.html

Cape Canaveral FL USA Male 45.00 3/28/2006 13:56:30
america the beautiful Agree sh FRO purple mountains magesty? bixby oklahoma where do you think? Female 111.00 3/30/2006 16:59:46
How do I get him to Propose Agree A B I just turned 30 on March 3rd of this year. I am in a 2 year relationship that has been off and on. I have my own apartment but I chose to stay with my mate. I am ready to get married. He was married already but his wife past about 2 years ago. He claims he is ready to get remarried. We went looking for an engagement ring for me a day after christmas in 2005. I still DO NOT have my ring. I have no kids and we are trying to have one now. He already has a son and a step daughter. What should I do? Newark New Jersey United States Female 30.00 4/2/2006 16:05:01
WHY YOU NEED TO BE CONCERNED Agree LM I am so glad that you layed out why people need to be concerned about Mental Health Sceening. I thought the article was brilliant.

I would like to copy it and send it to friends if you don't mind.

I was also wondering if you would allow use to link to you. Our web page is: http://www.teenscreenfacts.com/

Best Regards,
Lora Mengucci		 Salt Lake City Utah USA Female 51.00 4/4/2006 21:22:26
                   
What is Fascism? Against LAM I'm anxious to read your exmples of the 14 characteristics of Fascism in the U.S. I'll go ahead and give you my view.

1. Nationalism - Well, at the last July 4th event I attended, the little American flags were passed out and waved by regular citizens(not government officials) and everyone in attendance was free to wave the flag or step on it with no government interference. I chose to wave mine.
2. Disdain for Human Rights - It's hard to find a government/political system that protects human rights more than the United States.
- $950 million and 16,000 troops to aid the victims of the tsunami in India.
- AIDS research and support http://www.us-mission.ch/press2002/0709fightagainsthiv.html
- It would be difficult to list the other fifty+ countries where U.s. troops and federal assets are deployed in the name of humanitarian aid.
And if your argument leans toward the U.S. only doing so for personal gain, just imagine being a child that hasn't eaten for day's, then a U.S. Marine hands them an MRE. That child is just glad to get the help. I would also make the point that the popular views on torture and incarceration are often through rose colored glasses. The U.S. government doesn't torture it's people for speaking out in protest or even acting out in most cases. It's only when the protest infrenges on another citizens rights or safety that the government steps in. Finally, if torture and imprisonment is the measure of a Fascist regime, then let's study the Japanese, Greeks, Zulus and the American Indians.
3. Identifying Enemies - This one really hinges on the use of the word perceived. Is there a difference between perception and reality. In reality Al-Quaida IS an enemy and Hussein WAS an
enemy both in word and action.
4. Supremacy of Military - Well, according to the
"Fascist controlled media" the U.S. military is full degenarates that couldn't make it in the real world so they took the easy road through the military. I'll leave the burden for you to prove that the military is glamorized. I'll I see on the Facist media is the many failures and inabilities to win wars.
5. Sexism - I don't believe you can prove that the government is suppressing abortion(about a million a year since 1972 in US(infoplease.com)), divorce(around 60% in US) and homosexuality(practiced in most states I'm sure)
6. Media control - I'll admit that the media is biased, but toward whom and for what reason is much too lengthy a discussion.
7. Obsession with Nat. Security - I really don't see the fear in Americans daily routines, perhaps we could all use a little fear. I for one think that the governments main priority should be national security. That way we don't have to live in fear.
Memphis Tennessee US Male 29.00 4/6/2006 1:38:21
Dating a married man Against bl I know most women are looking for a man to be a part of their lives 24 hours a day but I have found that is so confinding. Men are as demanding as babies and a lot less cute. I like the idea of a man who just will not commit. Better yet cant commit. I am free to do as I please and he is free to go home....YEA. We dont fight the sex is good and I get courted the whole relationship.
I have been married and find men want a stepford wife. I dont want to talk to her unless I feel like it. I dont want to have to take any place. And I want sex all the time. Plus she cooks and clean. What kind of life is that? Forever is a very long time. AND BOY IS LONG WHEN YOU CANT BREATH. I get to create my life and he has no say in it. Boyfriends start to pressure you into something more. Or just demand you stop everything cause you love them. I cant or wont build my world around man. 		Houston Texas USA Female 40.00 4/6/2006 5:56:55
Bush Event Goes Off Script Against rtl Regarding “Bush Event Goes Off Script”

I believe “Bush Event Goes Off Scripted” was scripted. Mr. Taylor
elegantly talked about the Bushes administrations lack of compassion and
common sense. He elaborated on the freedoms we have lost. Mr. Taylor
picture looks like Norman Rockwell’s Freedom of Speech portrait, one of the
four freedom paintings. The view angle is right as well as his appearance.

Bush would never allow a person like that in his select public group unless
it is a lead-in as to why he took away our freedoms. Bushes rebuttal
appeared to be scripted because his speech history tells me he does not
respond that well.

Beaverton Oregon US Male 65.00 4/10/2006 12:15:59
Narcissistic Personality Disorder Agree K M I have been researching NPD on the net after a friend suggested it was the perfect description of a girl who has imposed herself on our social circle in the past few years. My friend has gotten to breaking point with this person as I did a year ago when I told our suspected NPD sufferer that I no longer wanted her to be my friend. Since then she has constantly cornered my friends asking them why I don't like her. Your article was very helpful and reassured me I did the right thing in walking away, thank you. But now how do I get her to stop harassing my friends about me? I would appreciate any advice. Melbourne Victoria Australia Female 34.00 4/15/2006 4:33:27
Other Agree PJ i liked your site Boston MA United States Male 31.00 4/16/2006 21:53:25
I am sending this to Andy Agree mb Hello, Andy.
I would like to have you on my tv show in trade for free attendance at one of you Sunday seminars.
Thanks,
Marcielle Brandler, Pasadena		 Pasadena CA USA Female 55.00 4/24/2006 10:03:34
Narcissitic Personality Disorder Agree GB I wish the public were better informed about NPD. It takes a long time to recognise one and once the realisation hits...the crazy unpredictable behaviour, the pathetic needy behaviour interpersed with the grandiosity, the constant games played (in my case telephone s-talking), attention drawn to oneself...it finally all makes sense. These people are totally psychopathic/sometimes dangerous/and emotionally draining to everyone who has the misfortune to touch their lives. They fool most, but once the realisation hits, you want to tell the world - go on do it - they can never be cured so it'll just continue unless YOU alert the world! But the best advice I read is that the way to conduct a relationship (if you have to) is at a distance. Fortunately I don't have to and what a different person I am compared to when I was under the spell of the one with NPD. The telephone s-talking continues (four years down the track) to try and attract an Echo, but these days that echo is laughing back sounding "fraud." New Zealand NZ New Zealand Female 47.00 4/27/2006 3:21:47
The Legal Hallucinogen Targeted at Teens Against JBJ I recently read your article on your website on the this new and legal herb called Salvia. I just want to say that the only reason this is becoming more widely used is because the media is giving it a voice. Having the DEA control this herb will not help, parents should discuss this herb with their kids and promote responsible drug use. Responsible drug use means that until you know how your mind and body interact with it to have a sober sitter present and never drive because they are going to use it no matter what you say and the more you prohibit it the more they want it. I believe that this herb and other herbs such as Cannabis when used in a responsible manner can be harmless. If banned criminal organizations don't push this herb but when banned will handle it. The demand will go up making it more profitable. This is what happened with Cannabis (which has yet to cause a death) and many currently controlled substances. Keep it legal and save the American taxpayer money on unsuccessful drug war. Green Bay WI USA Male 19.00 4/30/2006 23:39:23
30 something still unmarried Neutral mj I am 36 and hate the fact that I am still single. Many I have met are still immature. I am not too distraught though. I am even considerng dating outside of my race (I'm african american) I am looking for a high quality relationship. (Mr. Right not Mr. Right Now) I am curious about online dating services, but I am not sure how safe they are Brooklyn NY United States Female 36.00 5/3/2006 14:31:05
fascism Against sb hi there, i am doing a university module on fascism and after reading your article disagree with some of your points:
1. there is no generic definition of a fascist state, only general binding characteristics.
2. your criteria of the fascist state do not totally comply with italian model (intoleration in society not neccesarily ESSENTIAL to fascist regime)
3. fascism can be an ideology as much as a gvmt structure, to the fascist follower that is. e.g. supporters of BUF
4. not enough emphasis on cultural elements, contradictory elements and significance of it emerging between wars.
Im not tryin to criticise your work and i support what you do. If you have the time i would be interested to see what you think in return.

Thanks, and good luck with your future work!
Stiva Bailey 		london england uk Male 21.00 5/5/2006 5:08:08
Pledge of Allegiance Agree MR "....and to Republic ...
not
"....and to THE Republic.....??		 Rahway NJ USA Female 100.00 5/5/2006 6:38:50
Fascism in America Against LWJ I was disappointed that my previous response didn’t make to the board. I can't remember exactly what I wrote but I do remember saying something about internment camps and how you should be put in one. The rise of fascism in America is should come as no surprise to anyone. It is a logical (while some might say radical) response to the institutionalized Marxism that has dominated the US for decades. The more I study about World War 2 the more I believe Hitler was on to something. Individuals like yourself try to play up the racial aspect of the Nazi movement but conveniently omit the fact that the Nazis were viciously anti-communist (speaking of race and communism, how can one discuss communism and not bring up the involvement of world Jewry). Why don't we discuss the 1000s of non-German Europeans that joined the SS in their fight against bolshevism? Believe me when I tell you- I swear to god I hope the shit goes down in this country (use your brainwashed little mind to determine what I mean). I advocate and will support the complete and total annihilation of the left wing political movement and its' supporters. In addition, I want all the "mud-people" out of this country- if they won't go quietly then let them die screaming. Don't misinterpret what I am saying- I want complete and absolute genocide and the first ones that need to go are the fucking Marxist intelligentsia. Things are shaping up to be really interesting here in the near future. I wonder what the little faggot Marxist professors, politicians, and judges will do when they start being systematically assassinated? I guess we shall see. Raleigh NC USA Male 36.00 5/19/2006 14:12:35
P.A.S. Parentla alienation syndrome Agree GP Having suffered from parental alienation I can say first hand I have found some comfort in being able to leave a time capsule of truth for my daughter when she is ready to learn. This concept grew into a band of parents wishing to leave such messages.Feel free to visit our website and listen to the music we produced for our children.

http://www.kotae.us/childrenfirst/childrenfirst.html		 naperville illinois usa Male 34.00 5/24/2006 9:09:13
Parental Alienation Syndrome Against DJ P.A.S. is not junk science! It really happens to families that have children. I know because I have been denied my court ordered visits with my 10 yr old daughter. It has been 4 yrs since I last saw her. Her father moved so I do not know where they live, I cannot call because I do not have a phone # and it is because "Katy" wanted more time with me - her mommy! But because her father has physical custody and gets child support from me, he decided to alienate katy so that the bond would be severed. It is truly heartbreaking. I pray to God daily that katy will find me one day.
Donna Johnson, chino hills, CA		 chino hills CA USA Female 38.00 6/3/2006 7:41:53
Rachel Corrie Against GM Just a comment on the opening quote -- is the author really attributing the "Greater love has no man..." quote to Col. John W. Mansur? Uh, Jesus said that... Glenview IL USA Male 38.00 6/14/2006 12:44:15
Patriotic songs Neutral JH There are typos and incorrect words in the PDF file you have for the patriotic songs. I suggest you correct them so that people are sure to learn the correct words. I only looked at the first 2 and I saw several errors. Honolulu HI USA Male 31.00 6/19/2006 1:55:38
When Motivation Fizzles...Staying too true to my feelings? Agree MR Just wanted to say that the article on childish behavior is very good. Ended here because a Google search and I am very glad. There are not many articles on the net about childish behavior.

It's a great article. I have to find my own way to get rid of these childish attitudes. Want to be ready to fail and wake up again. Thanks, Dr.		 San Jose CA USA Male 29.00 6/19/2006 21:48:29
bothered by her past Agree FH I think the husband is very courageous to come and ask for advice. I have hardly EVER met a man who was not bothered by his wife's past, but most of these men are CONDEMNED for being bothered, instead of being encouraged to talk about their feelings and DEAL with them. Bravo to the Dr. who gave the advice. Yes, humility deals a blow to self-righteousness, and BRAVO for not condemning the man for being honest with a subject that MOST men lie about! Bangor Maine USA Male 43.00 6/23/2006 18:40:51
educating illegal aliens Agree US Are you kidding me? The US is forced to pay billions of taxpayers money to educate the children of illegal aliens. Something needs to be done before our already drowning public school system sinks. Not to mention in the state of Georgia in 2003 had to lay off 1,600 teachers due to this year's budget cuts. The state of Georgia in 2003 paid of 230 million to educate illegal alien children. So you are telling me if I was a teacher, tax paying citizen, as well as a US citizen you would have to lay me off in order to teach a non citizen. I tell you what it seems to me whoever came up with these laws and ideas they are the ones who need to go back to school.
Houston Texas Harris Female 40.00 7/4/2006 14:55:51
Single over thirty Agree QW This article was right on time. I'll be 34 soon and last year I watched all of my close friends and my only sister (younger) get married. All the while I wondered if they surrendered to the pressure of being single at 30 something. I Spent my entire twenties in long relationships (2)One lasted 5 years the 2nd 8 years. So my 20's I missed out on the single scene now at 33, the clock is ricking louder than ever. Reading this article gave me a renewed hope and quieted the tick some. I dont want to settle because I'm scared of being alone. My parents were married happily for 32 years I want the same unconditional love so I will accept my fate and I do pray and I will work on keeping my mind open for Mr. Right. I am on a spiritual journey and one day I will look up and he will be right in front of my eyes. Cleveland Oh USA Female 33.00 7/7/2006 18:57:49
Ten Reasons NOT to Date a Married Man Against JJ I totally disagree with this judgmental and narrow-minded article. How about an article about people who make monumental mistakes in marrying the wrong people to begin with? I am deeply in love with a man who is married in name only (his words) and because of his sick, old, controlling "wife" we will probably never be together, or at least not for a very long time. The good news is that she's 25 years older than him so time should take care of this problem. He stepped up and told her he wanted out, he wants a divorce, he was miserable and had been for many years, and what did she do? Accept it with good graces and accept the fact that their "marriage" was over long ago? No way. This control freak old biddy came up with about 147 "symptoms" and so every week is an adventure in the ER or at the doctor's with some new "ailment." She is a master manipulator and unfortunately, my man is not very strong when it comes to calling her bluff. She will rot in hell for what she did to us and I am thrilled she is as old as she is because time should take care of the problem -- nothing will get her back to a young woman no matter how much manipulating she does or how many guilt trips she lays on him. It is her THIRD "marriage" so what does that tell you. Articles like Dr. Mark's only help out these so-called "wives" into thinking that their so-called marriages are sacred and above it all and they can rest on their laurels while making their spouses miserable. Some marriages are MADE to end, never should have been in the first place, and the sooner they are over with, the better.
Merritt Island Florida USA Female 35.00 7/8/2006 19:43:48
Fighting the Marriage Amendment Against BTM The article takes the position that homosexuality is a behavior, not a condition people are born with and hence cannot be changed. To support that position it cites the inability of scientific researchers to identify a marker for homosexuality. I have personally known several openly homosexual individuals, both male and female, and have read at least one autobiography (Ruby Fruit Jungle) of a gay woman. My opinion is that it is not all one or the other. Some of the people I met who have homosexual life partners were in conventional heterosexual marriages earlier in their lives. I feel pretty sure that these individuals made a conscious choice to live with a same sex partner. On the other hand, others I've known claim to have known from the earliest childhood that they were attracted to persons of their own sex and not at all attracted to the opposite sex. I don't know whether this was due to something genetic or to some early childhood events. However, it is clear to me that they did not consciously voluntarily decide to be homosexual. Trying to change them would be as cruel as it was to try to prevent American Indian children from knowing their parents’ language and their tribe’s history and religion. To “decide” as a child to be gay is not an easy choice to make. As someone supposedly said about being tarred and feathered and run out of town on a rail, "That is an honor I'd rather do without." If it is a voluntary behavior, how is it that veterinarian acquaintances tell me that homosexual behavior in animals have been observed, suggesting that it is not cognitively chosen.

The article puts too much emphasis on the above issue. It and the statistics cited about length of relationships is not really relevant. In actual fact, there exist today in the United States a number of gay couples in long-term relationships and raising well-adjusted children. See the documentary made by Rosie O'Donnell. Also, in some custody case a Judge found that being raised by gay parents had no negative impact on children.

What the article omits is any reason why letting gay couples marry would destroy the institution of marriage. The best it can come up with is the history of civilizations that collapsed when homosexuality was allowed, as if correlation is the same as cause and effect. It also omits any reference to the style and substance of the U.S. Constitution. It is not an encyclopedia, nor is it a Bible. It has no definition of marriage, but it also lacks a definition of man and woman. It has been said that the strength of our Constitution is its very brevity, limited to the essential statements of how the government is organized and what some rights are that the government may not abridge. It is not the place for a definition of marriage. It does include one passage about religion (that the Supreme Court interpreted to mean something a bit different than the language of the document.) It says the "Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof." Marriage in America is primarily a religious ritual. A Religion is free to marry same sex couples if it so chooses, and also free, as the majority of religions will do, to refrain from doing such. But the federal government has based some tax benefits on marriage, and marriage is entangled in various laws and practices. For example, if not legally recognized as a couple, one partner may not have rights to visit his or her dying partner in the hospital. An intestate death could result in the eviction of the surviving partner. I’m not aware of all the ways in which the lack of a marriage license hinders gay couples, but hinder them it does. It does not, however, stop people from being gay. They will be around whether or not they are given equal rights as other families.
Ashburn VA USA Male 69.00 7/9/2006 12:34:40
The Dating Scene: What Unmarried Men are Facing Against LP Statistics or not, your article is simply too negative. You state that there are men than women and that age differences can be a problem. So, anything can be an obstacle, but there are men finding women with a 15 year gap and making relationships work. Phoenix AZ USA Male 45.00 7/10/2006 9:11:08
Coping with singlehood as a woman in your thirties Agree cr Im a woman of 36 years and have a lot of female friends in their 30's who are all lovely people. These women are intelligent, funny, attractive, down to earth, great friends and Im sure would make great partners, wives and mothers.

We live in New Zealand and are wondering where our "Mr Rights"are.

I agree with the idea that God did not allow me to marry any of those guys I went out with in my early days. Im so pleased I did not marry those guys.

But I have also come to the realisation that being single isnt all bad. Ive decided to concentrate on the positive things about being single and to enjoy my life as it is rather than concentrating on working out what Ive done wrong.

So thanks for your article it is nice to know my friends and I are not alone in this.

Taupo Bay of Plenty new zealand Female 36.00 7/13/2006 17:48:29
Coping with Singlehood as a Woman in Your Thirties Agree KC This artical really spoke to me, not as a single female in her 30's, but as a 24 year old law student who is trying to come to come to terms with two conflicting desires. First, the desire to find myself, live life, and have a career...the second is to not end up alone when the time finally comes when i decide i am ready to settle down. I watch so many of my friends chase the ring. But i like to believe that i chase love, and that i will not find it until i am finished growing into the person that my Saint could love. You have no idea how much this article is just what i have been needing to hear - rather than the tired old question "Got a man in your life at the moment?" Canberra ACT Australia Female 24.00 7/15/2006 10:06:07
Bilingaul education Against ac I totally disagree with this article and the way it was written. it seems the author had her mind made up before she even went to Brazil. Most people would have love to learn two languages compared to only one. She states that if a person cannot learn english in one year then forget about them. I have been trying to learn the english language for over forty years now and I still have problems with my grammer. I learned to speak pidgeon english in hawaii where I was raised. My parents are Hawaiian and Puerto Rican they speak these languages fluently but we children were prohibited from learning these languages. It was an american thing. Oh how I wish I could speak these languages. To hear you say it is someones fault for not knowing how to speak english is very inconsiderate on your part, and it sounds like you would not bend over backwards to help someone in need of learning. If the person who took you in on Brazil had the same attitude as you, then where would you be now. You probably would have went home ASAP. But she didn't, she helped you and taught you more than you would have learned in a life time at home. Hilo Hawaii U.S.A. Male 49.00 10/9/2006 22:43:06
Lond Distance Relationships (by Laura Dawn Lewis) Agree LW I liked this article, it was written in a personal, but yet also objective way. A lot of people believe that long distance relationships are bad things that always eventually fail and are a waste of time. People tell me I'm wasting my youth and that somehow because I'm young I must jump from one relationship to the next in a mad hormonal way while going through college-- and I ask... why? because that's what a lot of people have done? Because a lot of people my age don't have enough maturity to maintain a long distance relationship? Of course I wish I could see him more; but fundamentally, I'm very happy like this. I get plenty of time for my studying, and I have an intelligent and amazing person I can talk to every day, who I can open up to and discover myself through in a way that can only happen in long-lasting relationships, not college flirts.
Also, as to the absence of touch, two words; video conferencing. It's like phone sex only hotter.		 no    no Europe Female 20.00 7/16/2006 16:46:31
What is Fascism Against JB What a bunch of hooey. You have just described our country on and off to varying degrees since its conception. Are you saying Fascism is good or that it is bad. Or are you just playing on the general conception that Fascism is a very bad thing and by describing our society a fulfilling all the major criteria since 2004 that Bush and the Republicans are bad. Laura ... you are very good at what you do ... I think maybe you are the Fascist ... LOL!!! Charleston SC USA Male 100.00 7/16/2006 19:59:51
none but your formt--STINKS! Against ws soory,your site is hard to read. It could be a first rater. Get another programmer-before you go under.
Cheers!		 tolido oh United States of Israel Male 69.00 7/18/2006 14:21:51
Is Israel an American Value Agree cj Your article is extremely correct. I have been looking for such an article for a long time that outlines all the truth. It is well written, well presented and factual. The readers that are disagreeing with the article all have one thing in common: they are afraid. Afraid because their belief system that has been instilled since childhood is being threatened. Their responses are all based on false books, drone rhetoric, false media reports, etc. pushed by the media which is owned and controlled by the zionists. This is a fact. Furthermore, how can anyone ignore the pictures and FACTS that you have presented? I used to be like the readers until I went and visited Gaza and saw first hand who was doing the terrorism. What a wake up call! I started to question everything I had been pumped full of in church since my childhood and started to do research and became shocked at what I found. Every one who disagrees with this article needs to read it again. Then again. Again. Let it sink in. You will find you will be able to start to think. That's a challenge to the reader as I know they will be too afraid to think. You have a responsibility to do this for yourself, your kids, grandkids and your country because if you continue to ignore the facts, this country will continue to be fleeced and bled dry into bankruptcy by its support of Israel and its funding for state terrorism. Do your duty and THEN say this article is wrong. You simply can't for as soon as you realize the truth you will be required to do something about it. That to you, is scary. Ann Arbor Michigan usa Female 42.00 7/19/2006 12:26:50
Mental Health Screening Agree AA I am glad for your information service and standing by and for the Constitution. Also thanks for the reviews in "What they don't want you to know." (Who censored "The Jews of Iraq"?)
www.xanga.com/AmedeoAmendola		 New York New York USA Male 73.00 7/19/2006 20:19:16
Adultry Neutral DE The pain in living this out can not be under or over -emphasized. Forgiveness, especially if marital vows are involved(adultery, fornication) can come but the anger in your wife is something I have witnessed too, and it is not pretty. Call it women's lib, a type of victimization as well, huh?

Anyway I believe both of you need to work through this. Time does heal but only if the "truth" in the matter is dealt with properly. One is not truly capable of "for-giving" or giving for something if the recepient is either incapable or ignorant of the situation as it truly exists.

Perhaps you see a need for her to forgive you for your "judgemental" attitude. But then is that a reality. Remember that tolerance is the last virtue for those who believe nothing is sacred.

We are all imperfect creatures but no one wants to raise kids with a mom who has failed to acknowledge a true blind spot. The anger suggests but does not prove that a blind spot exists.

I do not know that I can suggest counseling because there are so few sexually pure people to get advice in this culture.

God bless you on your journey and I hope you both find grace to forgive each other.

My 2¢.		 Fort Wayne IN US Male 50.00 7/22/2006 9:01:46
What is fascism Against gk The more i hear about the critics of common sense,your article can be applied to many countries and so called people's right's organizations.The very nature of women's right's and so called cases they pursue and chose to ignore is an indication of sexism.One must understand that freedom of speech includes the opinions of all.It's ok for the dixie chicks to voice there criticisms,for someone to disagree with them is fine but THEY ALSO HAVE THE RIGHT TO VOICE THEIR CRITICISMS ABOUT THE DIXIE CHICKS.It's a neverending argument ,but trying to strongarm people into your viewpoint and always playing the oppressed weakens your debate.Try using common sense for the common good and get off elite throne clark nj usa Male 58.00 7/24/2006 10:55:11
Citizenship Republic and Types of Govt's Neutral LM Dear Laura,
I enjoyed reading your articles and while I checked neutral as my opinion, I did so only because your explainations were quite good and interesting. Of course I, unlike most Americans have known for many years that the US is in fact a republic, not a democracy. But agree that to be a republic you must also be a participatory democracy. Having served my country for 46 years, 27 in the USAF and another 19 in the Federal Civil Service, I strongly believe that all of our Presidents have tried to the best of their abilities to protect our Republic. Admittedly,some have been better at it than others. In certain times of National Security, even in a true Republic, our President and our Commander-in-Chief must make decisions which he feels are in the best interests of protecting our Republic knowing full well when the "coast is clear" we will swing back to a more centrist application of the our Constitutional Provisions. There is a huge difference in the office of President and the exercise of being Commander-in-Chief Authority. Only the current situation in world affairs determines which "hat" our President/CinC best fits the circumstances and we still have the legislature and the Judiciary to maintain acceptable application of Constitutional Powers. So don't be too hard on President Bush, he loves America just as much as you and I, but he is the one who must "sit in the chair" thank God. Our forefathers had to face great challenges as well and our Republic survived just fine. It will continue to survive. Have no doubts about that!! Today we face an enemy as deadly and as determined as Hitler or Tojo. They want us dead.... all of us! No matter who our President will be in the future that will not change and each will have to wear that "hat" of CinC before the pendulum swings back the other way. But be prepared for a long fight, perhaps a decade or two and don't rule out WW-III as the final solution. Our Republic must survive at whatever the cost and I'm certain this crucial moment in history will not be decided by dialogue, reason, or Internation Agreements. It will be decided by superior military power, and the loss of sons and daughters as it always has in the past. There is absolutely no alternative and your children, grandchildren and mine will be able to enjoy those freedoms and hopefully in a time of peace just has we have enjoyed in the past. And as you commented .... "and for the Republic for which we stand", we must always be united and argue and debate amongst ourselves the best way to maintain what our forefathers so gallently fought to establish and maintain.

Very respectfully,
CMSgt, USAF (retired) 		Moncure NC USA Male 66.00 7/24/2006 14:46:42
Coping with Singlehood as a Woman in Your Thirties Agree AB Excellent article. Although i'm only 26, it helps to know that I will one day come to peace with not marrying. There is just no way to avoid the frustration and doubt, no matter how positive a person you are, it affects all of us (single women in 20s, 30s), and I liked reading that in this article. I know it's just another growing pain...and I can't wait to grow out of it!!! Miami FL USA Female 26.00 7/25/2006 13:28:45
10 Biggest mistakes singles make Agree kw Hi Andy and Judy!

I wasn't sure how to email you, so I'm sending it this way!! Great website!!

I am now writing for our local paper and for a women's magazine. Here a 3 links to things related to singles/couples I think you will get a kick out of!

I also wonder if I could interview you for some of my stories...hmmmm I'll ask my editor...

p.s. I miss you guys!! and oh, big news I have a Healthy, wonderful boyfriend...		 Mason City Iowa US Female 49.00 7/25/2006 20:44:00
10 Mistakes Singles Make Agree kw Hi Andy and Judy!!

Great website and great articles!! Why don't you have one on the "benefits of coming regularly" (ha! ha!!)

MISS YOU GUYS!!!!! lot's of news, but here's a little taste of what I'm up to!

I'm writing for our local paper and for a women's magazine (on-line also) here are some columns, etc. that pertain to singles/relationships I think you will get a kick out of!!!

http://www.globegazette.com/articles/2006/02/08/local/doc43e98ff84f9fb186209466.txt
(things singles can do on valentine’s day)

http://www.globegazette.com/articles/2006/07/09/feature/doc44b07dc9e97ac182395953.txt
(here is a fun column i wrote about the diffferenes in So. Cal. guys and Iowa guys).


i also write for WOW a women's magazine...

http://www.globegazette.com/articles/2006/07/25/wow_womens_magazine/doc446e3828d4655402868376.txt
(this is about relationship tips--how to keep the sizzle!!)

maybe I can interview you for an article....hmmm I'l check with my editor--I'm sure I can, esp. if you have this website I can refer to! Cool!!		 Mason City Iowa United States Female 49.00 7/25/2006 20:52:59
fascism Agree SB All I can say is that a fascist program called National Animal Identification System (NAIS) is being forced on a certain segment of society in America under the guise of "protecting" us from animal disease and bioterrorist attack. NAIS is a WTO/USDA program that is made to benefit the megafarms and mega producers (Tyson, Cargill, Monsanto) that want to sell their meat overseas. What that has to do with someone who owns a pet pig or few chickens is beyond me but they will be included!
In January of this year I found out about National Animal Identification
System (NAIS) from a stranger who emailed me, not the normal avenues like
newspapers, radio or TV. Thinking it was a conspiracy theory or urban
legend, I did some research by calling the American Horse Council, Tx Animal Heath Commission and Tex A/M. What I found out was mind boggling and like waking up in the Twilight Zone. I was going to have to
1. register my premises, (like sex offenders have to do)
2. micro chip my horses (At my expense, even though chips can wander through a horse's body and cause sarcoid cancer)
3. file reports with the government all livestock births, deaths and movements off the property (to shows, vets, parades, trailrides, etc!!!!!
4. And they could come and "depopulate" my horses if any disease was suspected within a 6 mile radius (about 140 sq. miles!) If an animal just 12 miles away had some disease the USDA thought was bad I could lose my healthy horses!
This insane sounding program was just like something out of Nazi Germany or a communist country!!! That is why I ended up at your website researching fascism.
(Just to make sure I am not a conspiracist wacko check out the following websites. Please prove me wrong!) Ultimately, if not stopped, this program will put the small producer out of business leaving all the production/price of meat in the hands of the mega farms with crowded unhealthy conditions.
http://www.nonais.org/
http://www.tofga.org/ (organic farming) http://www.farmandranchfreedom.org/ http://libertyark.net/ http://arkansasanimalproducers.8k.com/

Paris texas usa Female 53.00 7/27/2006 19:10:20
Coping with Singlehood as a Woman in Your Thirties Agree RS I just had my 36th birthday, still single. I was very depressed when I turned thirty and was still single. And as each year passed, I started to panic more and more, dreading the birthdays. I kept giving my self one more year to find a husband. Well, I have now passed the mid-thirty mark, and I am starting to think about accepting the possibility that perhaps I was not destined to be married or have children. Everyone I have ever encountered in my life has asked me why I'm still single, and can not fathom how an attractive, intelligent, genuine girl with a great personality is still single. They jump to the conclusion that I must be extremely picky. I don't think that's the case. But I do look for certain qualities in a person, as well as attraction. I am quite happy on my own, but I feel society's pressures and parental expectations to be married and have children. I would also like to experience these things. But I don't think I could ever settle for someone that I couldn't see myself spending the rest of my life with happily. Toronto Ontario Canada Female 36.00 7/28/2006 15:35:22
Legally Force Husband To Work? Neutral MD I don't think the author of the article was very helpful to the woman whose husband refuses to work and support his family. How can they afford counseling if they're suffering financially now from this refusal? And most family counseling is useless. All they want is your money. She should try withholding sex UNTIL HE HETS A JOB. Most men I know can't stand that for very long. If that doesn't work, do NOTHING for him until he gets a job. NOTHING. Pretend he doesn't exist. Cooper City FL USA Female 45.00 8/1/2006 6:25:23
What Men Really Want Agree GR What an awesome article. I have been dating a wonderful man for over 8 months. He shows me respect and treats me like a lady should be treated & of course in return I show him the respect and love that he deserves. He told me that I make him feel like a man, unlike his ex-wife. I would love to read other similar articles on love/relationships in the future. Thank you! Cleveland Tennessee USA Female 37.00 8/4/2006 14:39:29
Commitment Phobic Agree EG Sarah,
Believe me... I definitely understand where you're coming from. I have been dating my boyfriend for over 6 years!! After about 4 years I would say to him the same things you're saying: That I just wanted to know that we would get married SOME day, not today. Well, as if that wasn't hard enough...now I really do want to get married now. He is my best friend and I love him so much. He says the reason why he's not ready to get married is that his life isn't in order yet... meaning he wants to get a good job and be able to support me first (even though I can support myself). After many fights over the topic... I gave him an ultimatum. I said I couldn't go on any longer just wondering if he really wanted to spend his life with me. After the ultimatum he started talking about marriage and acting like it was going to be wonderful. He hasn't proposed yet, but I think he will soon. The sad part is... that I'll always wonder if he proposed because I threatened to leave or if he really wants to spend the rest of his life with me. Now what do I do?

It's so hard to tell if it's just because they're boys and naturally afraid of commitment... of if it's me....		 Fresno California USA Female 25.00