The Eight Stages of Intimacy™

Stage One: Physical Intimacy

Covering Looks, Etiquette & Charisma

Commonly referred to as infatuation or puppy love, physical intimacy occurs through information you acquire through observation, the way the person thinks, speaks, looks and interacts with their surroundings. Generally, if you are attracted to someone of the opposite sex, you share physical intimacy. You will also find most of your friends via physical intimacy, realizing that there is something about this person you like and you would like to get to know them better.

You & your partner have physically intimacy if you both can answer Yes to all of these situations:

You like something about the way your partner looks, sounds and/or smells.
You are proud to be seen together or enjoy being together.
When you think about your partner or see a picture of him/her, you think or feel positively.

dating tip: Playing the Background Game

You know this game, people watching and making up stories about people you see around you based upon the way they look and act. It's a great way to find out what physical clues your partner pays attention to. Whether he or she focuses on negative aspects of what he or she sees more than positive is also a key clue to his/her self-esteem. The more someone criticizes others negatively, the less self-esteem that person generally has and the more judgmental they are in all areas of their lives. On the other hand, if all they mention is good (i.e.: if you see a man and woman fighting, your partner only notices how beautiful her hair is and how straight he stands), it could be you are dealing with someone blinded by a Pollyanna attitude who tends to not face reality.

Below are key questions to ask yourself about your partner. If you can answer all of these by knowing your partners responses, it means you've explored and established physical intimacy. These are also great questions for parties and gatherings when you want to learn about new people.

Questions to define Physical Intimacy

If you could be anyone in the world for a day, who would it be and why?
What Your Partner’s Answer Means: This lets you know who he/she admires most, what type of lifestyle he/she dreams of and why and is a glimpse into his/her values.
What do you think is the hardest thing about meeting someone new?
What Your Partner’s Answer Means: Tells you how long he/she has been dating and what he/she finds frustrating
Which public figure(s) do you admire most and why?
What Your Partner’s Answer Means: This lets you know whom he/she admires most and is a glimpse into his/her values.

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