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Dealing With the Customer From Hell

Dear Dr. Mark,

I work part-time at a cell phone sales and service center and I hate many of my cell phone customers.  They’re pushy, rude, and refuse to listen or take responsibility for problems with their phone or service.  Sure we make mistakes, but just as often they’ve screwed up by ignoring something that we told them was important in using their phone. 

 

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Add to that, they’re blamers and they’re dishonest.  I can’t tell you the number of times customers have dropped their phone and then tried to convince us that it malfunctioned.  I don’t want to quit my job because I don’t like to run away from challenges.  How can I deal more effectively with these “bullies”?

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Dear GO:

I guess there are two sides to every story.  I think what you and the person who wrote about poor customer service have in common is that you are both frustrated by people who avoid taking any personal responsibility for problems.

I’m sure your company has trained or told you to listen calmly and to try to not take personally your customer’s complaints.  That makes a lot of sense on paper, but it doesn’t prevent you from feeling a build up of frustration as you face difficult customers, day after day. TOP

Here’s an additional approach that might help: 

First realize that hidden under the anger of most customers is fear, anxiety and even guilt.  Fear that they did something wrong and someone’s going to jump down their throat; anxiety about being dependent on cell phone service so they can’t just stop it altogether and guilt because he/she knows it’s his/her fault. Knowing this should help you to not take complaints so personally. TOP

Second learn to recognize the “customer from hell” as quickly as possible.  Your first signal will be a feeling of tightness in your stomach, throat or head. Caused by your own efforts to maintain a professional stance as the customer verbally accost you, the tension is exasperated by the additional will you muster to restrain yourself from telling them to go screw themselves or quit your job.

Third—and THIS IS THE KEY—as soon as you realize they are one of those awful customers, calmly but firmly interrupt them and say: “Excuse me sir or madam, on a scale of 1 to 10—where 1 is very mild and 10 is wanting to throw your phone on the floor and say something I can’t repeat in public about this company—how upset are you with your cell phone and this company?” TOP

 

In all likelihood, this is going to throw them off guard and they’ll just say: “Huh?” not knowing what you’re getting at.

Then say, “You know, the last thing we want to do is make your life more difficult, so I want t

o know how frustrating this has been for you before you tell me the details and I do everything I can to take care of the problem.”

Because you have validated their upset and shown caring for them and maybe even helped them to tame their feelings by naming them, there is a good chance you will deflect this raging bull onto a more reasonable path. 

More importantly, by taking being proactive instead of reactive, you will feel more in control instead of feeling out of control and at the mercy of an unmerciful customer.
 

TOP

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