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Is there
anything we can do to still feel the romance in our
relationship daily hanging on to a newborn with one hand and
arguing with the in-laws about parenting with the other? Help!
In-law Insanity with Baby Blues,
Female (31) Victoria, BC, Canada.
Dear
In-law Insanity with Baby Blues:
First, do you want the in-laws there for that long? If not, in
a polite way let them know that the stress of extra people in
the house for such a long period is just too much. What is
more important: your relationship with your husband or your
in-laws? If their feelings get hurt, too bad! You can't really
please and serve others if you are miserable yourself.
Now, about that womanly feeling you want to get back. Let's
not be too selfish here. You decided to bring a baby into the
world so you have some motherly obligations. Sure, you can
shirk your motherly responsibilities like a lot of mothers do
and have someone else raise your kids.
When a woman decides to get married she should expect to feel
like a wife. When she elects to have children, she would
expect (and hopefully desire) to feel like a mom. Be proud of
the role that God has allowed you to have. I believe that
women who are the best mothers are the most attractive women.
That love and devotion to family is just so appealing.
Now, that doesn't mean you still can't feel "womanly" as well.
Find an extra 15 minutes each morning to "pretty" yourself up
by fixing your hair or putting on a little make up. Get
dressed for the day.
To keep the romance there leave each other love notes on your
bathroom mirror with dry erase markers. Call each other in the
middle of the day just to say hello. Hold hands while the baby
is nursing. It's the little things that bring the most romance
to a relationship.
There are hundreds of tips in my best-selling book, The
Romantic's Guide.
Good Luck,
Michael Webb
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