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The truth of the matter, though, is that while explaining what
steps might be taken to help make a man’s satisfaction level
greater in his relationship with a woman, the real purpose of
the article was to empower her by so explaining his true
and vulnerable needs. The purpose of this article today,
is to empower the man.
In all these Tactics of Love, you may
have noticed by now, the grand benefit of our strategy is that
both parties always come out ahead, whenever the techniques
are applied. Our philosophy is win/win. We know by
experience that only that way provides lasting success.
You can win any person’s heart by simply
doing the right things. But those “right things” ultimately
are simply the basis to help the One You Want be as
emotionally fulfilled and happy as possible. So, it is always
in your own best interests, as well as the one you’re
courting, to make their lasting happiness the focus of your
long term strategy.
Adopting this strategy, we now confront
both bad and good news in the world today. The bad news is
that most women are dissatisfied with the dating and courtship
arrangements they are stuck with for the most part. The good
news, for you as a man, is that this means the world is your
oyster just waiting to be plucked and enjoyed if you pay
attention to what a woman really wants out of a dating
relationship!
Dr. Drew Pinsky wrote in USA Weekend
shortly after What A Man Really Wants appeared
on this website that single women of college age across the
nation are totally dissatisfied with the dating opportunities
they find themselves presented with today. As they see it, he
said, they only seem to find themselves with three different
options: [1] “meaningless physical hookups” (sex with virtual
strangers), [2] “friendship with benefits” (sex with
acquaintances), and [3] “joined at the hip exclusive
relationships that progress way too fast” (more sex, in other
words, in exchange for the privilege of having somebody stick
around long enough to feel like you’re beginning to know
them).
You might think, with choices like these,
it might drive a woman to drink! And you’d be right! Dr.
Pinsky said, “Women told me they drank heavily just to
tolerate the scene…”
What
a Woman Really Wants
Women really want something other than
these three choices. They want something…more. But in
this case, more truly is…less! Now, men, pay
attention!!
Dr. Pinsky revealed after extensive
interviews with numerous women across the country that they
are tired of being pawed at like a piece of raw meat. Indeed,
their common fantasy was to have a man just be their friend.
“When I asked what they wanted,” he related, “they said they
just wanted guys to talk to them!”
Did you men of any intellectual capacity
whatsoever out there catch that? Women want a man who will
just be a true friend to them, without trying to obligate them
to a sexual affair!! How difficult can this be? And yet,
for the man who is willing to exercise some self restraint and
respect women’s deepest desires in this regard, the field is
wide open for him to choose and win just about any woman in
this world he could ever hope to ask for!
Platonic Friendship is the Key
That is not to say that sex, at some
point (like marriage), is not important to a woman. But the
fact is men generally don’t have a clue how powerful their
offering of a Platonic friendship is to winning a woman’s
heart and making her feel like she is the Queen of the World.
I can’t tell you the numbers of letters I
get from frustrated people, both men and women, who can’t for
the life of them figure out how such a beautiful relationship
with such unlimited potential went right down the drain, when
the answer is sitting right there in their explanation to me
in paragraph 2 of their letter: they jumped into a sexual
relationship instead of making their love spiritually mature,
based on seasoned friendship, and resulting in a solid
covenant of marriage first. How hard can this be?!
Why do they jump the gun like that, time
after time? Because “everybody else is doing it” and they
think that’s the way a relationship is supposed to progress.
Well, I’m here to tell you backed up by
Dr. Pinsky’s research that women really want something
different than the three option norms currently being offered
them. And, by being different, men, you have it in your power
to not only make the woman of your choice one of the happiest
and most fulfilled women on earth, but you have the chance to
secure for yourself the gratitude and devotion of a woman
who will never leave your side.
Dare
to Be Different
Yes, what I am proposing is scary. After
all, I’m suggesting that you consider being different.
But the bottom line is: Do you really want the woman of your
dreams, or do you just want to not seem weird? I’m betting
that you prefer the former, but have just been falsely
persuaded by the boys in the locker room that, unless you’re
showing your masculinity by trying to seduce the One You Want,
that she’ll think you’re not worth her time. But that
is not true!!
Many men are afraid that a woman will be
repulsed unless they try to “get something” because she’ll
think they’re homosexual, or asexual altogether. But would
you like to know a little secret?
I have received numerous letters over the
years from women who are in dating relationships with
bona fide homosexual men. And they are not repulsed!
In fact, they are obsessed with such men!
The pity is that, in most of those kinds of cases, the women’s
yearnings mostly go on unfulfilled forever. Whereas in a
legitimate case where a truly heterosexual man simply makes up
his mind to build the relationship legitimately, saving the
sex for the marriage where it belongs, her greatest joy is to
ultimately bask in her man’s sexuality on their wedding
night! And forever afterwards!
You see, there is a psychological law
that defies being ignored, and it is this: “You want what you
can’t have!” And when a woman senses that she has grown to be
in love with a man who has become her best friend and begins
to yearn for him sexually, it only intensifies her Passion
towards him for her to have to wait!
I am obviously not suggesting toying with
a woman’s Passionate Desires indefinitely. I am only pointing
out that when men and women fall into casual sexual
relationships before having tied the knot officially, one or
the other usually begins vacillating in their deep feelings of
attraction for the other. But True Passion is sustained
in her by exercising self-restraint until the proper vows
have been spoken and the time of waiting is fulfilled.
Gratification actually kills Passion, whereas
Abstinence fuels it!
By methodically building a love
relationship built on friendship, and by both parties
commanding and showing respect for each other’s rights for a
real commitment that doesn’t waver with every passing whim, it
is possible to sustain the infatuation longer and successfully
propel them over the multiple obstacles that sabotage most
relationships and right into the successful marriage both
instinctively yearn for.
“Not waiting” is the real reason most
people today are having difficulty finding and securing true
lasting love – and I do mean most. So the decision is
yours. Follow the crowd – and enjoy the serial failures at
love that most of today’s men are experiencing; or, take a
chance on what I am saying, and make your next relationship a
lasting one.
Dare to Be Different
Dare to Stand Alone
Stand for Right and Decency
And Dare to Make it Known
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