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Continued A man may think
he needs a bimbo by his side to show off to the other guys,
but in his heart he knows he's perpetrating a fraud. She may
help him make the other guys jealous, evoking a kind of
prideful satisfaction in one way on his part, but in his heart
he knows she's not what he really wants or needs. He's
compromised for this because he's lacking the real thing he
wants.
No, what a man really wants is a woman who loves him in spite
of himself, but won't put up with his bull.
Validate Your Man
Here are several key points to remember, in trying to bring
true love into your life and into the life or the man you
choose:
- Come to terms
with the fact that you don't need anyone to be happy in your
life. You may want someone very badly, but in the
end you must come to accept the reality that you will always
somehow survive if it doesn't happen and you will make the
best of what life gives you.
- Make up your
mind that you will not ever tolerate being disrespected,
disregarded, misused, abused, or used in any fashion
whatsoever. You need not revile against someone
who so treats you, but you definitely make your absence
felt in their life when they do so.
- Be reserved
in the love you shower upon your man. You may
bestow limited tokens of cherishing, but if they are not
reciprocated in quantity and kind, back off or your love
will become less and less appreciated and ultimately
despised.
- Learn to
listen objectively, and to reflect feelings expressed by him
without advising, criticizing, or trying to change him.
Don't even offer too much sympathy, lest it be quickly taken
for granted.
- Don't be
afraid to be without him for extended periods of time.
When he is out of your life, make sure that your life
is as happy and productive and fruitful as it ever is when
he's around. At the same time, don't throw out a welcome mat
that says "Walk On Me!!" the minute he starts coming back
around. Show pleasure to see him again, but be restrained.
Conclusion
In essence, then, you have it in your power to calm your
troubled man like a little boy in his mother's arms. Therein
lies what a man really wants: a Woman who nurtures him but who
he can look up to and knows won't take any of his guff.
Be caring, but be strong. Therein lies the key to fulfilling a
man's heart. You may wonder why I'm so concerned about meeting
the man's needs and not yours, but that's another article. If
he isn't fulfilling your needs you're definitely choosing the
wrong man.
But if you've got the right man and you become What He Really
Wants, such a love must be clung to with all the strength you
can muster. For such a love is attainable, but rare in this
world of ours.
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