Dear Oops:
The average size of the penis is between 5-6 inches. The
median (where the largest percentage of men fall) is 5 3/4"
erect. When I was an educator for Masters & Johnson the men
who had the least pleasure during lovemaking were the men
who were the largest. They always had to be careful not to
hurt their partner.
Basically it all comes down to what works for you and your
partner. With nearly 26 years of marriage, it seems to me
he's a perfect fit for you. Add to that all the other
ingredients necessary for hot sex: love romance, caring,
foreplay and play, size shouldn't be his concern at all.
What's really happening here is he's feeling threatened that
you would even think about an ex-boyfriend, let alone marvel
at his size. Women are sensitive about our weight and
our beauty. Men, no matter how old they get still for
some reason worry about penis size, which is a red herring.
What he is really worried about is performance. The
fact that you remember another experience with another man
fondly and mentioned a factor no man can control as the
source of your admiration is intimidating. For him
eavesdropping on the conversation regardless of what you
said or how you said it, he hears, "Oh my husband's okay,
but let me tell you about Joe from college...Now that man
knows how to make love!" Oops changes into ouch and
suddenly 26 years of appreciation is fixated on one man who
is no longer relevant to your life, transforming your
innocent girl-talk chatter into a full blown marital mess.
How to fix this problem:
1) Make sure that you do tell your partner
during lovemaking how good his penis feels and how much
pleasure you derive from it. Basically worship it for
awhile; some cultures like areas of India actually build
temples and do worship the male phallus by presenting
incense, gifts and offerings to stone statues of the
membrane up to 20 feet in height. You could have some
fun with this if you wanted to.
2) Have him read the article:
A Question of Size
on Couples Company. This includes a phallus facts,
antidotes and other information on this favorite body part.
He's in the top 10-15% size wise...he's got nothing to worry
about.
3) NEVER, EVER AGAIN to discuss a prior boyfriend or sexual
experience which did not include him if your husband is
around, within ear shot or on the premises. Save these
for girls night out.
Best of Love,
Dr. Joan
