Is Your Relationship Healthy?

Ten Questions

We all delude ourselves in relationships and often wonder if this is "The One" or if we're still in relationship training wheels. These ten questions offer an excellent indication if this relationship is good, or if you're simply enjoying another learning experience.

If you can answer "Yes" to all ten and provide three separate examples of your partner's fulfilling each, you've got a keeper and don't let go! If you can reverse the situation and ask the same ten questions about yourself and how you treat your partner, while providing three examples of each to substantiate your answer, you're relationship is solid, loving and worth hanging onto.

And if you've got a girlfriend or guyfriend trying to sort out his or her feelings or whether to pop the question, these ten questions will make you a "relationship genius" in his or her eyes and provide a platform for serious analysis.

Ten Questions: Is this Love or Something Else?

1. Will he/she do something for you even though he/she really doesn't feel like doing it?

AKA: Is he/she willing to make sacrifices?

2. When he/she is angry,how does he/she treat you?

i.e.: If someone were treating your friend, sister or child the way your partner treats you, would it be acceptable to you or would you tell your loved one to get out of the relationship because he/she deserves better?

3. When you need comfort and support, do you get it? (Or is he/she MIA: Missing in Action!)

4. When you need help solving a problem, do you get help?

5. Does he/she love you the way you want to be loved?

When you state your wants, needs and desires, what's okay and not okay with you, does he/she do something positive about your requests?

6. When you are vulnerable, and share your weaknesses or needs, how does he/she treat you?

What does he/she do with the information? i.e.: If you share something personal, do you fear it will be used against you at a later date?

7. Is he/she consistent in he/she loving, even at times when you are inconsistent?

8. Do you always feel you can trust Him/Her?

i.e.: If you feel that there are certain things you must never tell your partner and you hold these back, you don't fully trust him/her.

9. Are his/her words, expressed feelings and actions consistent and congruent? (Walk their talk?).

10. Does the relationship deepen and improve over time?

All relationships go through ups and downs. A solid relationship will continue to grow over time even if occasionally it takes a few steps back. Two steps forward, one back, NOT one step forward, two back!