So often the letters and requests coming into Couples Company deal with negative behavior.  Everyone seems to want to change everyone else.  A Mensch is an everyday saint. These are the people most of us wish we could be.  The character "Melanie Wilkes" in Gone with the Wind is probably the best known example of a mensch.  If you're lucky, you may have one grace your life.  Here's how to recognize one.

Is your life
blessed by a mensch?
 
 

1. They don't interrupt.
 
2. They take turns.
 
3. They don't take advantage of people who are down.
 
4. They are gracious in victory.
 
5. They are noble in defeat.

6. They are consummately fair.
  

7. They have integrity.

8. They are the people you want to grow up to be like.
  
9. They are the kind of person you'd want your sister (or brother or child) to marry.
  
10. They are the kind of person you'll cherish, if you're lucky enough to have one in your life.