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FITNESS FOR COUPLES

LOSING
THE FAT

Dear Chris:

I am just starting to workout and know nothing about exercise.  What are the basics I need to know?  How can I lose the fat without losing my voluptuous curves?

Latter-day-Athlete
(F) 34, Anchorage AK



A workout just for women

Dear Latter-day-Athlete

For such a short letter your request requires quite an answer in several parts. First, you don’t just tell your body to burn fat and it does it.  It’s already trained to store fat.  Some fat is good.  A woman's body should never fall below 18%.  Less than 18% and her reproductive cycle and ability to conceive are highly compromised.  This leads to other health problems as well.

To burn fat effectively as a female you need to train your body by teaching it some new tricks.  I've found with my female students sometimes it's easier for a woman to think of her body as a dog.  This eliminates the personal excuses and gives you the ability to see it separate from your emotions.  It also seems to put the focus on caring for something else, which women do well. What many women don't do well is take care of themselves.  Everyone and everything seems to come before her. So, rather than going for a power walk, she says to herself, "I need to walk the dog."  Yes, it's silly but it seems to work and several of my students have a lot of fun with the idea. TOP

The Basics

When you are working out, you are training your dog.  Your body is the dog, and your mind is the trainer. The first thing you need is to have a good rapport between trainer (mind) and your dog (body). You do this by letting your dog have the things it needs to be healthy.  Rest when it’s tired, food when it’s hungry, and water when it’s thirsty.  Start by doing these small things and your dog will have more energy and become more playful. TOP

  1. Rest: put you dog to bed at a reasonable time each night and he will quickly learn to use his energy during waking hours, and not keep you up at night.

  2. Food: if your dog doesn’t get fed when he’s hungry he’ll start storing food (and not letting it go).  Feed him when he’s hungry and he will stop protecting his holdings.

  3. Water: if your dog doesn’t drink enough water he’ll become lethargic and not respond very well no matter what else you do.

Many people sleep without sleeping and are awake without being awake.  Put all you energy into one or the other.  When you’re awake act as if you’re awake, that will help you sleep as if you’re asleep.  In other words instead of having slight energy during the day and restless energy at night you will have a lot of energy during the day and restful sleep at night. TOP

Basic diet arrangement will help your body balance what your already feeding it.  Don’t eat just before you go to bed, your body doesn’t use very much energy sleeping and so a majority of your intake goes to fat.  Especially try not to eat carbohydrate rich food right before bed (unless your going to run a race in the morning).  Three hours is a safe amount of time to wait.   If you’re going to eat unhealthy foods, the morning is a good time to eat them; that way you’ve got most of the day for your body to burn off the calories. TOP

Types of Exercise

You have two types of exercises:

  • Aerobic: with oxygen  (example: high impact aerobics class, running, sex)

  • Anaerobic: without oxygen (example: low impact aerobics, weight lifting, circuit training, swimming and walking.)

The easiest way to understand the difference is that if you’re breathing hard then it’s an aerobic exercise (with oxygen).  Aerobic exercise builds cardiovascular stamina (your lungs).  If you’re not breathing hard and you can still talk then it’s an anaerobic exercise (without oxygen).  This burns fat and builds skeletal muscular strength (your muscles).

One of the undisputed best ways of burning fat is swimming because it uses your entire body,

As soon as your chest is submerged in the water your heart rate is lowered substantially compared to the activity that you’re performing, this increases the anaerobic effect on the body. 

The idea behind burning fat is to keep your heartbeat at a relatively low rate but still elevated, about 110 to 130 beats per minute for a maximum of 45 minutes. 

Why no longer than 45 minutes? 

After that your body decreases the amount of fat cells it is burning and starts to digests muscle.  Doing an anaerobic type of exercise as little as 3 days a week you’ll begin to slowly and naturally raise your metabolism as your body learns a new way of being. TOP

If you burn fat with a low heart rate like walking, what happens with a high heart like sprinting? 

Your body has what we know as a “fight or flight response” this is where your adrenalin kicks into over drive to help you either put up a short fight, or make a mad dash for the hills.  When this happens you need quick energy. And what works best for that is sugar. Your body stores an extra amount in your liver and muscles.  Now you may not have the same psychological motivation as you would in a life or death situation but your body uses the same type fuel for both types of situations.  So when you’re running, playing basketball, or doing anything that requires you to have ultra high energy and hard breathing your actually not effectively burning fat but instead you’re strengthening your lungs, burning the sugar in your body, and increasing your overall stamina.

The idea of exercise is to shape your body into what you want it to be. Unfortunately this seems to be a hard concept to grasp. What works for one may work differently for another.  TOP

Lets deal with the female body
and how to reduce body fat. 

As a woman you’re fighting against your body’s basic desire to maintain a higher body fat percentage (compared to men).  You can find a personal trainer that can help you put together a program, but remember you want someone who understands how the female body reacts. Unfortunately most woman are taught an exercise program designed for men.  There is a difference. Women generally want to create lean muscle, smooth lines and accentuate their feminine shape.  Most exercises are developed for men and bulk up the areas men are interested in.  You've seen the results of a woman doing a man's workout.  She's the woman that can squat her body weight plus.  Her chest no longer looks like a woman's and most of the hip, waist and buttock curves are gone.  Her body looks and feels more masculine when undressed than feminine. When she started working it was to lose weight but she gave up on her legs getting any smaller and started focusing on leg strength because she’s good at it.  She ends up with hard curves, but not necessarily where or how she wanted them.  Some women want this. Some do not.  For those that don't, you need a trainer that understands the differences between how women and men process energy, store fat and develop muscles. TOP

The Right Female Workout

What makes the bulking muscles happen and how can you avoid acquiring a male-like body and keep your curves working out? 

After you workout any part of your body, the muscle is broken down; it needs nourishment to help rebuild itself. The muscle gets nourishment from the fat or stored adipose tissue.  Women generally carry a higher concentration of fat in their legs than men.  This helps feed the muscle and increases it in size, strength but not necessarily in stamina. It also does not decrease the amount of fat in your thighs.  What you end up with is strong legs snuggly enveloped in a hog heaven of nutrient rich fat.  Obviously you need to change the dog's diet.  How to do this we'll cover further down.

The concept of being in shape is rather elusive.  Some people are in shape but they don’t know it; some are not but act as if they are. Others treat it like a lottery: one day it may happen to them.  TOP

Exercise Misconceptions

Choose your favorite urban legend about exercise like, “No pain no gain.” Lets take a moment for this one.  This saying is true for increasing muscle size or density, the desired results for body builders. But it won't help you burn fat and it’s pretty well accepted that a majority of people workout to lose weight, fat specifically.  This is where the saying leads people in the wrong direction (especially women).  For women, (unless you want to be Mrs. Universe), pain = gain and provides your muscles with a feast in hog heaven.  Any time you feel the need to go for the major burn, picture a "pig in a blanket"...a hotdog surrounded by a soft fluffy buttermilk wrap that keeps puffing up. What you want is repetition, not muscle strain.  You don't want puff. TOP

Here are a few more misconceptions:    

You have to go burn out or until muscle fatigue. 
If you’re trying to increase the size of the muscle or its density then you’re right on. However keep in mind that a strong muscle can still be hidden under fat. 

If it’s too easy then it’s too light. 
You’re back to the same point.  Build strength and size (heavy) or burn and tone (light).
TOP

Fitness Roadblocks

This is where thinking of your body as a dog comes in handy.  Along with the misconceptions stated, people create their own roadblocks that keep them from working out.  Think about it, if your child refused to car for the family pet with one of these excuses, would you let her get away with it? TOP

Excuse 1: I just don’t have the time to go to the gym. 

When at the gym if you can cut out the time it takes you to decide what your going to do next, (i.e. develop a game plan,) you’ll not only take less time but you’ll get a better workout.

Excuse 2: I just don’t have the energy to exercise. 

Exercise helps you get energy, just stop waiting and start doing.

Excuse 3: I’m too out of shape to go to the gym.  

Believe it or not this is a common excuse that I used to hear when I trained people at their homes, just remember you’re there for business not for show. TOP

Excuse 4: I can’t afford to pay
for the membership at the gym.  

The only reason for a person to go to the gym is for the machines that can isolate parts of the body easier than you can do at your home.  At home walking, biking, and swimming, along with jumping jacks, push up’s, and sit ups can be a full workout.  If you still want a machine there are plenty of places that sell used equipment for a lot less then buying a membership like Play-it-Again Sports, different thrift shops may even have a stationary bike or two. TOP

Excuse 5: There are no gyms close to me. 

This has the same answer, but when in doubt check the phone book you never know, one might be closer then you think. 

Excuse 6: And of course you have the “if only”.

  • If only I had someone to motivate me

  • If only there wasn’t so many people at the gym

  • If only it where easy

The truth is, you can find plenty of excuses not to do just about anything, but only one to do it.  TOP

If you are serious about working out, keep reading.  On the next page I outline the fitness routine.


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