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However there are several steps you can teacher her to help
increase her safety, or as it should be called her possibility
of defense since safety is just a concept and not a real state
of being. As we all know drugs and alcohol play a big part in
the collage scene; to tell her or any college student not to
drink is like voting independent. It may be a good idea but
unless your child is in the very small minority, it
will rarely get you anywhere once they are on their own. TOP
Here are a few general
concepts
that you can instill in her.
1)
Having friends with you will decrease the chance of a
“bad situation” from developing. An attacker wants an easy
target, not a fight with two or more people.
2) Most savvy women out of college and in the
singles scene employ a steadfast rule: Always leave the party
or bar with the person you came with. If she's by
herself, bar employees are always willing to walk a customer
to her car. She just needs to ask. She should never
leave the building alone with someone she's met that night.
3) Establish a preconceived limit of how much personal
contact she will allow. Keep in mind that the closer she
allows him too be, the more his physical strength is going to
decide what happens.
4) On any first, second or third date she should
always carry cab fare home, give the name, address, employer
and phone number of her date to a friend and check in with
that friend when she gets home. Get this information
before he picks her up and call the employer to verify
employment. If something happens, she'll need to be able
to tell police where to find him and just having him know
she's taken this precaution dramatically reduces any risks.
5) The strongest asset she has is her mind and gut
feeling, both should be listened to. It is better to leave a
situation in error than to stay and be proven right.
6) Before leaving a building, she should always
have her car keys in her hands.
TOP
It is still possible for
a situation to come up, one that requires her to act.
Understand that there are no magic moves; no “learn this and
you’ll be safe” moves. I asked my Sifu (teacher) once, after
dusting myself off from a unexpected flying lesson,
“What would you do if you where faced by two people?”
He said, “I’d say hello.”
The point being the only thing that is set before a conflict is the
individuals intent. The sooner she perceives the attacker's intent, the more decisively
she can react. A
single move may not work in every situation. A strong hit to
the throat will not stop any attacker, but done in the right
situation it just may give her the moment she needs to get
away. TOP
Situation: The woman approximately
5’4 weighing 95 pounds and is attacked by a man who is 5’8 180
pounds (half a foot taller and almost twice her weight).
1) In this first
situation the woman is suddenly attacked from the rear, with a
quick response she both her full body weight and the force of
the attacker as she cocks her head and left leg for two sharp
blows. As the assailant reels for her fist strikes and using
a full twist with her shoulders strikes swift with her right
elbow. The twisting movement gives her the break in his grip
and the sharp stab with her elbow aids in the distraction for
her to run.
Situation 2
2) The second situation is with the woman on the
ground. Now understand that this is a very
difficult position to protect yourself from, and even
harder to get out of. This demonstration is to
help you understand the characteristics of a escape
from a downed position. Having the disadvantage
of size she attempts to use momentum and leverage,
having an open position as the attacker tries to climb
on top of her, she knees him in the groin. The
strike to the groin causes him to rise upwards.
She uses her elbow to keep him from fully smothering
her; this will also give her the necessary room for
her to turn partially to her side. If her legs
are not being held down she'll be able to move under
him. TOP
He is still reeling for the blow to the groin as she
increases her momentum by pushing him with her hips as she tries
to roll onto her knees. A piece of information that I learned
from wrestling is that where your head goes your body will
follow. So using this thought she looks to the open space on
his right side under his arm. Once to her knees she uses his
arm as a leverage spot to push her self up. This keeps him
down and pushes her up. Once up she makes a fast run to
safety. TOP
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3) In series three (LEFT) our
young lady is attacked and forced to be more aggressive to
counteract his assault. He has a strong
grip on her and she has little to no room for a quick strike.
So she uses what she can. She slams her hips back into his groin
as she takes a big bite out of his arm. Reflexes will
cause the attacker to recoil when suddenly bit HARD.
She needs to keep biting until enough room opens up
for her to twist away from him and run.
At this time all of her weight is on her right foot, so she
puts it to use. With one leg she jumps onto his foot, still
biting she turns on her right foot (and his right foot to)
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4) In this situation the
man is making unwanted advances and the situation has turned
dangerous. Women’s legs can be used to help separate her self
from the attacker; notice I did not say kick, since it would
very difficult for a woman to affectively strike a man twice
her size it would serve only to give excuse for the attacker
to begin striking. Still not making her point clear she uses
the open arm to digs her fingernails into a soft spot that the
attacker was not ready for, his noise (you can also use the
inside of his cheek, watch the teeth). As he is surprised she
pushes herself up, putting anything she can between her in
this instance it’s the arm of the couch. And she runs.
These are some situations
that can occur and we've gone through some
maneuvers of escape. If the attack happened differently then the
escape would be different. There are some rules that you can
go by to help you. TOP
1)
Don’t waste your energy fighting someone stronger than
you. Instead use sudden sharp movements like biting and
gouging.
2)
Don’t try to hurt them; just try to catch them off
guard.
3)
All’s fair: teeth, hair, nails, screaming and spitting.
If you can reach something close by grab it and use it.
4)
Turning your body make it harder for the attacker to
hold on to you and gives you a chance to get free.
5) The sooner you respond to an attack the better the
chance you have to escape.
6)
Don’t be fooled. An attack is an attack no matter how
nice they talk while they are doing it.
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