Minimizing First Date Jitters!

(Yes, even 50-year old CEO's, High Fashion Models and High Powered Executives get these. You are not alone!)

Use this Check list to Keep Your Date Fun!

1) Avoid Anxiety, Giddiness
Your first date is exciting and energizing. Have fun and enjoy the moment, but be aware if you get too excited, anxious and giddy, you might come on too strong. Don't let your anxiety prevent your date from seeing the real you.

Remember this is just a first date, and don't get too far ahead in your fantasies. This is a crucial time for learning about this other person, so take your time and allow the relationship to develop.

2) Be Charming
Don't underestimate how powerful your smile can be use it often, make eye contact and keep the conversation flowing. Pay attention to what interests you about your date, and show interest in his or her opinions, experiences and activities. Be complementary whenever possible, and respond intelligently to whatever is said to you.

3) Have Fun Don't Get Too Heavy
Keep your date light and easy, and have a good time. Focus on being pleasant, having fun, and not getting too far ahead of the relationship, and you will be great company. Be careful not to soliloquize don't talk too long about any one subject without inviting a comment from your date. TOP

4) Keep Conversation Interesting, Light, No Deep Secrets
You can talk about anything, including your personal lives, past relationships and love in general, but don't be the one who brings up the intimate topics first. Be wary of prying too deeply into your date's private life and secrets, unless the information is voluntarily offered.

5) Don't Talk Too Much about Yourself
Keep your focus on learning about your date and don't talk too much about yourself. Dole out some information about you, especially if it relates to what your date is saying, but don't talk endlessly about your own life, opinions, experiences or activities. Punctuate your conversation with questions: "What do you think?" "Has it been that way for you?" And *listen* to the answers. TOP

6) Pay Attention!!! You Have Things to Learn Here!
The most important aspect of this date, in addition to having a good time, is to get to know each other better. No matter how excited, turned on or thrilled you may be about this date, listening to what your date says, watching what your date does and understanding how your date feels are still your primary objectives.

7) What Your Date Thinks of You Is Not Your Business.
Your Business Is: What do You Think of Your Date?

One of the easiest ways to lose your objectivity and balance in this is to worry about what your date thinks about you. If you spend your time essentially trying to look at yourself through your date's eyes, guessing what he or she is seeing when looking at you, or hearing when listening to you, you'll miss what's really happening. You're supposed to be evaluating the *other* person, not pretending to look at yourself through his or her eyes. Pay attention so you know what YOU think of your date.

Hopefully, because you've thought about the serious issues in advance, you'll still be able to relax and have a good time so good, that you decide to keep dating each other. Then, you'll need a whole new set of skills.

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