How to Make Yourself a God (or Goddess)

in the Eyes of the One You Want

by Tom McKnight

When it comes right down to it, most people want the closest thing to perfection in a mate that they can possibly get. Let’s be honest here. When people advise you to “lower your standards” or “be more realistic”, it is usually not because they themselves want less, but because they have given up hope of ever achieving it and don’t want someone else achieving what they never expect to.

The 5 Keys to Becoming a Dating God

Invincibility
Anticipate
Mystery
Attitude
Friendship

Misery loves company, but those who invite you into their pool of sorrow are like the shivering diver in the freezing water, covered with goose bumps from head to toe, calling out, “Come on in, the water’s fine!”

Those who have compromised this ideal, or have personally given up hope, are usually the ones who sadistically advise others to lower their standards, “be more realistic”, and settle for something less than what is sought. But for those of us who know the score, we know that the ideal still lives on. If we’re honest with ourselves it is easy to see that what every person really wants to find is a “god” or a “goddess” with whom they can be supremely safe and happy the rest of their days.

I’m reminded of an interview that impressed me many years ago of former Secretary of State Alexander Haig’s wife. Reminiscing on her first meeting of her future husband, Mrs. Haig said, “The first time I saw (Alex), I thought him to be some sort of a god…”

No matter your politics, this experience of Mrs. Haig, of finding a “god” in the man she came to love and be loved by, is a reflection of a subconscious wish universally held by most humans to likewise find their “god” or “goddess”. This desire for a superhuman person to be with is not easily extinguished just because such a person is hard to find.

In the movie Superman I found further evidence of this subconscious yearning. In the theme song, Lois Lane is fantasizing a conversation with this masculine creature that has recently come into her life. We find her saying, “You’re a god…I’m a fool…” But even though the song obviously is about the Superhero, the real appeal of the song is in the fact that every mortal shares the same secret yearning for someone – anyone – to come out of the woodwork and fulfill their fantasy of a godlike person with whom to share their life.

The Key to Winning the One You Want: Fulfill His/Her Fantasy

Everyone is really looking for perfection, whether they admit it or not. What they want is a “god” (or “goddess”) with whom to spend the rest of their days. So, one of the keys to winning the one you want is to satisfy that desire – be that god for whom they are looking!

So often we are so anxious to reveal ourselves for the bumbling wimps we are, that we lose sight of this universal fantasy, and forget to make the object of our love suit’s dreams come true. We really do have that capacity to be the fulfillment of those dreams, much more than most of us realize.

You don’t have to be immortal or able to fly to be perceived as a god, though. All you have to do is meet certain psychological needs, and the One You Want will then be more than willing to meet you halfway with their imagination in seeing you as someone they could adore and worship. But you must to do your part as well. TOP

Consider five ways that you can easily tailor your behavior to match their hopes and dreams. Years of experience and research have proven to us that, if you follow these tips just fairly well, you will succeed in filling the fantasy of the one you want, and you will win their heart and love.

1) Appear Invincible.
The first noticeable quality of a god is that he is invincible. So, if you want to be adored by the One You Want, you need to follow suit. This means no signs of defensiveness, neediness, or being clingy in a relationship. People admire strength, while despising wimpiness. And yet, your greatest opportunity to demonstrate invincibility actually comes while under fire!

Example: One young man we knew many years ago had been dating an attractive woman who

he thought he was making progress with towards marriage. But one night when he brought up the subject with her, she came unglued. Marriage!! What in heavens name was he talking about? She thought they were just friends, sorry to report, and revealed to him that she had her heart set on someone else they both knew! Of course that was very distressing to our acquaintance, but he did a most divine sort of thing and changed her perspective of him, literally overnight!

He didn’t get defensive. He didn’t beg. He didn’t cry. He didn’t plead or try to change her mind. He just very calmly looked at her after her emotional outburst and he said, “Well, Kellene, what would you like to do? Would you like to stop dating? I just want you to feel comfortable with however we handle this.” And then he just waited.

Well, no, she explained. She enjoyed his company very much. He just had to understand that there would never be anything romantic between them, but as long as he accepted that, they could continue to enjoy outings together. He said fine, and since they had already planned something for the next evening, he’d see her then.

But he was so calm and unruffled about the whole thing it just blew her away.

Later her roommate told me that when Kellene had come home she was mesmerized. She just kept saying, “He was so understanding… I wonder if I oughtn’t to marry him after all?” By the next night she was hooked. She saw him in a totally new light, invincible, godlike, independent, and strong simply because he had appeared so unflappable in the face of her rejection. She sensed he could survive without her, even though she knew he really did love her. Overnight he became a god in her eyes. Today they are happily married with several kids, the last I was aware.

How to Make Yourself a God (or Goddess) Part 2