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However, you need to consider this a benefit -- you have
been saved from being committed to a selfish, inconsiderate
and uncommunicative partner.
Your relationship never really had a chance, because it
progressed too fast to develop an "infrastructure"-- the
trust, teamwork and basic necessities for building a
relationship. In the future, you can avoid being so hurt
by going much slower, taking enough time to find out if your
prospective partner is trustworthy.
"The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again" will help you
avoid falling into this trap again.
Please don't waste any more time trying to get answers from
this man and his brother. There are no truthful answers you
can get. Either he got cold feet, he didn't mean what you
thought, or he's met someone else. The answer you have gotten
is that he's not a good candidate for a commitment
-- with you or anyone else.
Accept it, grieve, and move on -- this time, more cautiously.
good luck,
Dr. Tina
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