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The only thing you can do is get tough. You and your
children are in danger. You're taking the easy way out and
making excuses so you won't have to handle this problem, which
will make the problem worse. You need to put your foot down
right now. Find friends or family you can stay with, or
locate a woman's shelter. Make sure a friend or family member
is available immediately if you need help, then tell him that
you'll leave him if he doesn't go to AA and to an anger
management group. If you allow him to continue this behavior,
you risk losing your children. When he gets angry and acts
out, it is harmful not only to you, but to your children.
Child Protective Services can come in an take them if you
won't protect them from his abuse.
I understand how stressed you must be, but you need to get
yourself help right away, or your situation will get worse.
Call your local Domestic Violence Hotline (look in the front
pages of your phone directory, or ask information) and get
some referrals. There are free and low-cost groups that will
help you. If you belong to a church, synagogue, or other
religious group, talk to your pastor, rabbi or spiritual
leader right away. Mobilize your friends and family to help
you. If you crack down on this guy really fast and hard,
there's a good chance he'll come around --but he'll never
improve if you continue to condone his behavior by
pacifying him.
Chores are the least of your problems. His behavior, and
learning to set boundaries, is what you need to concentrate
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